Online Dating

[RLP]

i think if you are a drug user, as we all are here to some degree or other, you NEED to be with someone on the same wavelength.

Anecdotal evidence suggests this isn't true in the slightest.

Mugz - Don't spend hours and hours thinking of witty or funky things to say. Just be yourself. Eventually if it all goes well you're going to have to meet this lass, so no point pushing the idea you're Plato because in real life you won't be able to plan in advance what you ask her, nor seek advice on here.

If you search long enough someone will like you for who you are (odd thought) and that'll make you more likely to get your dick wet.

Also, seconded whoever said don't lie about not doing drugs. Either blank it out or say yes. It'll turn into a massive problem when she finds out because it won't just be "so you lied about drugs", it'll turn into "Are you lying about not cheating on me? Oh my god you're cheating on me aren't you" etc etc.

 

[Moe-D]

But for the thread: I'm 21 year's old and willing to fly overseas for an intelligent and understanding female-BL'er
I might be a bit of an pot-head slow kind of guy but still young and got it goeng oooooon.

 

[Mailmonkey]

6 balding fat white van men drivers knocking one off on the outside while looking at each others cock.

These are seagullers, not doggers. The doggers are the ones in the Cortina/Sierra/Cavalier.

 

[Mailmonkey]

Anecdotal evidence suggests this isn't true in the slightest.

Maybe...

of my friends who use drugs the ones in happy relationships are with partners who enjoy the same drugs.

Other friends either try to supress their drug use, and end up going mad, or try to use drugs on the sly, and end up getting caught out, and not enjoying their drugs anyway as they have to "appear straight".

Just anecdotal, but from what I know of my friends, I think its pretty important. I suppose it depends how much importance you give to drugs in your life anyway.

 

[RLP]

Maybe...

of my friends who use drugs the ones in happy relationships are with partners who enjoy the same drugs.

Other friends either try to supress their drug use, and end up going mad, or try to use drugs on the sly, and end up getting caught out, and not enjoying their drugs anyway as they have to "appear straight".

Just anecdotal, but from what I know of my friends, I think its pretty important. I suppose it depends how much importance you give to drugs in your life anyway.

Surely the issue is not not using the same drug, but not accepting people for who they are?

If there is trust, acceptance and things like that, then it doesn't matter if you do drugs or don't, skydive or not, hate Nick Clegg or fucking hate Nick Clegg etc.

 

[Mailmonkey]

I wouldn't be with a woman who didn't like fucking on stimulants. However wonderful a person, that would be a huge gap in my life. i've been with my wife for 17 years, it works, she feels the same way.

Fortunately we love each other very much for who we are too

 

[RLP]

I'm not suggesting that drug use in a relationship is a bad thing - indeed I think in some relationships it can be excellent shared time and, just challenging the notion that anyone who takes drugs can't be with a non-drug user and vice versa - it's not like that in all cases, probably not like that in the majority.

I'm with my mrs because she's a lovely, friendly, non-judgemental person. I found it harder to see past the right-leaning political views than her anti-drugs stance which, aside from some ignorance didn't bother me much. She looked past my usage because that's not the main thing about me.

I wouldn't have her any other way.

 

[Mailmonkey]

I'm happy you're happy.

I don't have a single RL friend who is a drug user and in a happy relationship with a non-drug user.

There's no argument here, you know people who get along fine in this situation, i find the opposite true.

As long as people are happy and happy with their loves, all is cool

I think Mugz likes to use drugs with his partner, as I do...there'd be no pont me being with a woman who tolerated my drug use, when I want to be with a woman who shares my enthusiasm.

 

[Arnold]

These are seagullers, not doggers. The doggers are the ones in the Cortina/Sierra/Cavalier.

Thanks for your expert insight

 

[RLP]

I'm happy you're happy.

I don't have a single RL friend who is a drug user and in a happy relationship with a non-drug user.

There's no argument here, you know people who get along fine in this situation, i find the opposite true.

As long as people are happy and happy with their loves, all is cool

I think Mugz likes to use drugs with his partner, as I do...there'd be no pont me being with a woman who tolerated my drug use, when I want to be with a woman who shares my enthusiasm.

I don't wish to argue either, I just find it odd that you're suggesting he immediately writes off about 90% of the population based on one characteristic. Fair enough if your main criteria is being able to share drug usage, but in Mugz case it doesn't ring true because he's whacked on his profile that he doesn't use drugs so to not put anyone off. - presumably those who don't use drugs?

Online dating's a weird one. You've got thousands upon thousands of potential suitors. Talk to as many as you can, date the ones who seem worth it and make one of them your girlfriend based on the dates. You never know, if you stipulate drug users only, you might find you only seriously talk to two or three of them, none of which you like for reasons beyond drug usage.

Girls who use do tend to be filthier in the sack though, I'll give you that.

 

[Mailmonkey]

Yeah true i see what you mean, to an extent, I shouldn't be telling Mugz to write people off based on my criteria.

But I think it's wrong to write on your profile that you're a non drug user, when you are. A lot of the women contacting him may well have Daily Mail type views on drugs, and be really pissed off if they found out they were in contact with a druggie, a lying druggie at that :D

I think in Mugz case, ticking the box that you are a drug user will attract replies from drug using women (IRIE ), or ones who are tolerant of drug use, and there will be no issues or extra worries in the, ahem, courtship.

 

[RLP]

Yeah true i see what you mean, to an extent, I shouldn't be telling Mugz to write people off based on my criteria.

But I think it's wrong to write on your profile that you're a non drug user, when you are. A lot of the women contacting him may well have Daily Mail type views on drugs, and be really pissed off if they found out they were in contact with a druggie, a lying druggie at that :D

I think in Mugz case, ticking the box that you are a drug user will attract replies from drug using women (IRIE ), or ones who are tolerant of drug use, and there will be no issues or extra worries in the, ahem, courtship.

Agreed.

Also, seconded whoever said don't lie about not doing drugs. Either blank it out or say yes.

 

[Mailmonkey]

Thanks for your expert insight

no probs pal!

 

[Marmalade]

I think if Mugz actually put I LOVE drugs in his profile, that 10% who agree are possibly more than likely to be on the hunt for similar, so it would seem to me it would be easier to hook up with someone that way tbh. It's often easier for niche groups like that to seek each other out, and it saves the palarva of having a vast array of shit to churn through ... So I recon you'd get a better strike rate by putting in that you love drugs tbh. It's not like searching for people who like movies or sports or whatever ... it's a far more succinct and easier way to find like-minded people when it's to do with drug taking

If in doubt, find two similar style dating sites and have exactly the same profile barring the drugs issue, and keep one as yay to drugs and one to nay.

 

[Mailmonkey]

Marmz does Nerdboy do drugs with you, you give the impression he doesn't generally, but then I remember you saying something about peevee, my memory is hazey you know

Is it important to you? edit>>>crucial even?

 

[TheSpade]

I would just apply the same rules as you would IRL, don't over think it, be yourself.

Just be yourself.

LOL @ this shit 'be yourself' advice. Aside from being fairly meaningless if being himself was a good option he wouldn't need to be on dating sites or asking for dating advice on here would he.

Have you ever gone out dogging Mugz?

LOL. :D

I knew a guy in the mid-90's who was into dogging when it really was a bit more furtive and secretive. He was very cagey about it. Horrible bloke.

A mate of mines went out dogging when he was 16 and had just got his car for the first time. Him and a mate drove up to a popular spot and there was a group of old guys all shagging this old, fat, bird. My mate shit himself and wouldn't get out the car but his mate got out and pumped the old horror bareback whilst the old guys stood around watching and wanking. Sounds horrible.

 

[Marmalade]

Marmz does Nerdboy do drugs with you, you give the impression he doesn't generally, but then I remember you saying something about peevee, my memory is hazey you know

Is it important to you? edit>>>crucial even?

Yeah it's important to me, but no he doesn't generally

that is, unless it comes with the likelihood of me turning into an intoxicated nymph, in which case he suddenly becomes amazingly interested all of a sudden and will pretty much try anything

(hence why he was up for the peevee 8))

 

[Mailmonkey]

did the peevee work for you two? It bizarrely doesn't work for us, when any other stim sends us into psycho-perv mode.

 

[Marmalade]

worse drug ever.

I have no clue what it did tbh. sex was involved, while my nose still cained like fuck mind. it made me giggle a bit for a while but then just kept me awake, and I couldn't articulate what it felt like really (didn't make me feel horny though, that's fer sure). I tried it once again after that, in the day time to see how it worked as a motivational stimulant and it did fuck all tbh.

I gave the rest away. I had a look in the peevee thread though, and I don;t really understand the whole 'tan' thing, but the g I had was possibly around 2 years old, maybe a little older, and it was a dirty brown/tan colour .. so I dunno if that's what I had?

Burned like fuck tho when snorted. I had my hand up to my face like when you get brain freeze after caining slush puppy it was that bad.

I don't do too well with snorting stuff tho tbh, so maybe it was me just being a pussy but I think i should've plugged it

 

[StoneHappyMonday]

I gave the rest away. I had a look in the peevee thread though, and I don;t really understand the whole 'tan' thing, but the g I had was possibly around 2 years old, maybe a little older, and it was a dirty brown/tan colour .. so I dunno if that's what I had?

Not tan, not from only two years ago. Come to think of it it was about 1.5 years ago that I first encountered 'fake tan' which was just very badly synthed peevee with a bit of colouring chucked in. No doubt inspired by all the shit on BL about the mythical tan peevee.