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just as much chance of either happening, fishing and a picnic sounds like a great idea I think, along with some fun games to play while we are there. Everyone, all ages loves BopIt!!!! :D
 
rockstar 69 said:
Awful. Are you paying a subscription for this? I hope not. If that was me and I was paying for it I'd definately be speaking to a few, putting all your eggs in one basket at this stage is madness. It's called dating for a reason, trial and error.
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one basket? there isn't a one basket scenario really cause if this basket doesn't amount to owt, he can just pick up another one ... sincerity is a rarity in the dating game and she seems fairly sincere, so no need to cover any bases. if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I don't think it's bad to hunt other people at the same time he's talking to this bird, not at all, but it's rather lovely that he doesn't feel the need to. I understand how it might be seen as nieve amongst game players, and I don't think he should put in any huge emotional investment until something solid (ie: meeting) comes out of it but still, sincerity is lovely and a major plus.

Don't change your approach Mugz ... from what you've revealed about her so far, this chick doesn't come off as a game player, which is great stuff, so carry on as you are.

[been out all day and this is the first thread I've checked since browsing! ... it delivers ... & Arnold and MM? cheers for thee lolz !]
 
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Probably spot on there marmz to be fair. It's not what I'd be doing but then not many women speak mugobian :D
 
effie said:
Careful punting, Mugz. High risk of someone ending up clinging onto the pole in terror as the boat glides off. Then falling in. And everyone laughing.
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Is that a euphemism for this whole situation, or do you mean the girl is Polish? :D
 
haha, thanks again marmz for the words of encouragement. I'm really enjoying all the texts and the conversations that we are having, my phone hasn't stopped beeping all day, if we don't end up being a couple or going on a real date, then at least I have most definitely made a friend through this and that is something to be snoofull about in itself. Of course I hope it leads to more, but I'll lleave the ball in her court with that after my last suggestion and responses for a meet up concluded that we should chat more first. If any meet occurs I doubt it will be until I get back from the fringe festival anyway, giving us plenty of time to chat. I would rather a sooner meet, will ask again next week, gonna try and think of a good date in her town, as I think she would be more comfortable dating in her town than coming to cambridge to date as she can always just disappear easily in her home town if things are not going too well.
 
Mugz, pleased for you that this is working out, however it ends up.

If only I could persevere with the sign-up form, but I hate filling in forms!
 
yeah, I've definitely made a friend out of this. I'm not sure when I should text something like, i'm really glad that we started talking, I've enjoyed talking to you a lot, or something similar, maybe wait a few days before I say something like that.
 
Mugz said:
yeah, I've definitely made a friend out of this. I'm not sure when I should text something like, i'm really glad that we started talking, I've enjoyed talking to you a lot, or something similar, maybe wait a few days before I say something like that.
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Only do that once it's become clear that there will be no bed-sharing!

You don't want to encourage things to go in the "just good friends" directions until you've given up on the "getting your hole".
 
Mugz said:
is that not something that someone that wants to take it further would say, would it put me in the friend zone?
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I think it is "I've enjoyed talking to you a lot" is heading towards the friend zone. Doesn't necessarily put you right in it, but it sends that signal. "We seem to get on very well, how about taking things further" - while still shite - would be better.
 
Stop fretting mugz, she's probably seen more jap's eyes than an oriental optician. You're well in there mate.
 
Mugz said:
haha, thanks again marmz for the words of encouragement. I'm really enjoying all the texts and the conversations that we are having, my phone hasn't stopped beeping all day, if we don't end up being a couple or going on a real date, then at least I have most definitely made a friend through this and that is something to be snoofull about in itself. Of course I hope it leads to more, but I'll lleave the ball in her court with that after my last suggestion and responses for a meet up concluded that we should chat more first. If any meet occurs I doubt it will be until I get back from the fringe festival anyway, giving us plenty of time to chat. I would rather a sooner meet, will ask again next week, gonna try and think of a good date in her town, as I think she would be more comfortable dating in her town than coming to cambridge to date as she can always just disappear easily in her home town if things are not going too well.
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I wouldn't bother with trying to think of a kooky romantic date that creates memories if I was in your shoes. Just keep it as a short and sweet introduction, preferably with a nice bottle of wine as an icebreaker so you can have a good talk. Don't keep it dragging on to the point that it gets uncomfortable, say over an hour or two. Then up the ante to a date where kissing is an easy thing to 'fall in to', say by going to the cinema, or going dancing or something. Then really put the icing on the cake with an interesting date, like kayaking but obviously not that. Maybe a nice little walk to a local beauty spot with a hamper with some snacks and drink in it. Try and spend the whole day together, so that it is just a natural continuation for her to come over to your place at the end or you to go over to hers.

That's just my attempt at trying to be vaguely serious. O and when you meet her don't give her a vague complement like "you like nice", give a direct one that requires attention to detail. Look for the thing that looks like she put the most effort into, and make a compliment about that. If she is actually fit a run of the mill generic complement will just fly over her head.
 
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No I'd say for once knockando is spot on. I'd almost say your texting her a bit much without the right kind of convo going on if that makes sense. It's tricky for me to say that certainly without knowing what kind of opponent we're dealing with here though.

I've been pondering if this thread should be moved to the lounge? And if so would we all be checking in?
 
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