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Ok, so your stash gets found and someone helps themselves!!! What to do.

baysieguy1

baysieguy1

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So, here is a scenario for you. A scenario that may well have happened (testing my memory of what was in there).

You have a stash, said stash is hidden in a place that you don't need to be a rocket scientist to find. That said it has been in the same place for some time with no problem.
So it may be that an inquisitive young adult son may have found said stash and helped himself to some of the contents.

How do you handle this situation, do you confront and address the fact that you indeed take drugs or let it slip???
 
i kinda need more info

-how old is the inquisitive young adult?

-what drugs were in the stash (dont have to specify maybe just say 'opiates' for e.g.)

i think you gotta be open or they might make assumptions its okay and not know the HR side of it

i guess you have to ascertain whether or not they did take anything first
 
Well, Mysterie, you ask very good questions. So here are some answers

-20 yo
- bud and pills (MDMA based)

He is a smart kid and we know that he has had a smoke/bong along the way. Certainly not a stoner or anything. Not sure if he has taken anything harder than that, but of course, at 20, he could have.

I "think" that 4 buds and 1 pill have gone. The buds he may have expected to find, as although not in his face that we smoke, he knows at time we have done. As for the pill, it may have come as a surprise for him to find it.

I need to have a hard think about it and see if it is time for a quiet chat. But I am interested in other people's thoughts.

Most on here are younger and I would be interested on their thoughts from the 20yo's point of view as well.
 
You say he MAY have taken these things. How sure are you that he took them? Are you planning on asking about or accusing of? If unsure, is there any possibility that maybe you miscounted(aren't missing anything?)

I would definitely bring up the scenario/circumstance regardless-If it were me-depending on my relationship with that person... I'd perhaps imstill guilt and disappointment. It seems to be quite effective and often they'll reimburse either with cash equivalent or product.

However there ARE some people I'd "enforce" *in term used above* ;-) no doubt.
 
Woamotive, yes at this stage it is a may, and I need to rack my grey matter to remember what I took out last time I went in.

I am not bothered about the reimbursement, however as a parent I do respect that kids (be they 2 or 22, they are still kids) should know that they shouldn't just help themselves. As big ben mentioned, I need to decide also how much it really matters about him taken it. if he in fact did

My other concern, it was a pretty good pill and that worries me more, in that he may not have the due diligence that I tend to have when purchasing pills and could end up buying a dodgey one based on his experience with this one and that concerns me more I have to admit.
 
If you're talking about a family member, then thats definitely not cool. I would confront him if I were in your shoes because if you don't do anything about it now, then it's probably not the last time something like this is going to happen.
 
Id sit down and lay it out on the table. If you can, be smooth but serious at the same time. Tell him that you don't appreciate snooping and that stealing whatever it may be is disrespectful to whoever they're stealing from.

Then ask for the pill back :p
 
I would definately confront them but if it isn't 100% then I would do it in the least accussatory way that you possibly can. Really if he is 20 and is aware that you have dabbled in cannabis, the pill probably wont be shock of the century even if he hasn't been raiding your stash. You say that you are worried he might take that pill and go on to take more not knowing they suck, honestly I think if he took a random E from a family member at 20 years old it is not his first flip. Even if he hasn't or isn't taking pills it sounds like there is a possibility they are using drugs and they could gain from some of the knowledge you posses so I think that you should keep in mind that they could actualyl really benefit in the end from the confrontation.
 
If you aren't 100% sure I wouldn't risk damaging your relationship over such a small amount. Personally I'd either keep better track of what's in the stash in case it happens again (e.g. write down exactly what goes in and out when) or hide it better :)
 
I would confront him the issue and see his view/interests/curiosity with other drugs? Don't be harsh hear his side of things. I am 25 turning 26 and started experimenting with e around the same time. If the conversation turns into xtc and he admitted it, The best way to sit down is to tell him your not mad but rather that you should get the pill back and possibly consider the option of letting him experience it with you in a safe environment. Then how you can teach him H.r about the "e" scene as it is currently in Australia. Possibly use it as a reward down the future? I;m nto sure my bud is wearing off right now so i cant think too straight but that's my thoughts.
 
At least he got a good one? Unlike the crud other 20 yo's around the country are popping on any given weekend.

Hell, being 20 even if experienced he may of never had the real deal. Everyone needs to feel that, even if it does have to come from raiding your old mans stash :\ But in all seriousness if you were to put it to him hypothetically, like explain what your missing - say that "if" they took it, your not mad but that you cant just help yourself. Explain that not all pills are like that one, and do the whole HR preach pill reports etc.

My advice anyway =)
 
Thanks for all the input everyone

So, based on this only "may" have happened, I have decided to remove the other couple of pills and put the bud back. I figure I know exactly what is there now. If more goes missing, then I can address the situation.

Again, thanks for the input.

I would be interested in what younger boys and girls would "really" think of your parents if you found a stash of bud and pills, which was obviously theirs?
 
you've definitely made a good start by thinking about it, and asking the opinions of the people on this board.
the worst thing you could do (i guess) is getting angry/accusational first.

i don't have firsthand experience of a relationship of parental openness like this - my parents are old-fashioned and very anti-(illegal)drugs, so i wouldn't really know the right way to go about it.

i think calm conversations are the only way to go, though.
i used to have a friend who's father said "i'll share my weed with you, so long as you don't steal it."
nice idea, but she used to steal little bits anyway.
all the best!
 
baysieguy1 said:
I would be interested in what younger boys and girls would "really" think of your parents if you found a stash of bud and pills, which was obviously theirs?
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First thought would be what a relief..I honestly would prefer something like that scenario to unfold..that way I could be the one asking all the questions. Then once that has settled, I'll admit my sins.

I don't think i would be angry, except if they had been driving me up the wall with all that "drugs are bad" talk :\ when in the meantime, that's what they've been doing.
 
JoshE said:
First thought would be what a relief..I honestly would prefer something like that scenario to unfold..that way I could be the one asking all the questions. Then once that has settled, I'll admit my sins.

I don't think i would be angry, except if they had been driving me up the wall with all that "drugs are bad" talk :\ when in the meantime, that's what they've been doing.
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I'm 22 and this would be exactly my thought ^
 
I'm 22 and have a friend who raids her dad's quality stash. He's never mentioned it and just took away her keys (she doesn't live with him). I know that if my parents were using I wouldn't steal their stash in the first place... Especially if you don't want your parents to know you're using. I probably wouldn't ever mention it, but I'd have a giggle.

I think you should confront your son if he is stealing your stuff, but more in a HR way, ask why he felt uncomfortable to talk to you about use, especially given that he knows you have in the past. You'd be surprised what the right approach does. My mum knows what drugs I've done, my dad thinks mdma is the same as lsd. Both are my parents, but one knows and one is totally in the dark.

Parents can be pretty dorky about this sort of stuff, my dad pretended to not even know how to pronounce marijuana once, and I know he smoked back in the uni days. How pathetic is that, everyone knows how to pronounce it. Given your son already knows you use, appearing like megadork3000 won't be a problem. I'm sure you'll go fine, you clearly aren't looking to alienate him, you've just got to come up with the best approach for him :) Good luck!
 
baysieguy1 said:
I would be interested in what younger boys and girls would "really" think of your parents if you found a stash of bud and pills, which was obviously theirs?
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as an 18 yr old drug user i would say if my parents used weed / pills occasionally i would have a lot more respect for them

so long as they aren't really uncool about it or contradictory (hard on their kids)

and i know thats how my friends would react as well

and from reading other weed forums i know lots of dads get baked with their sons and i think that would be pretty sick
 
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