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Ok so how many of you guys would let your woman....

All these quotes seem to hit somewhere for me.

Originally posted by Chalk
The only problem is that it's not very manly and i'd feel out of place doing it, like thats a side of you you dont want your woman seeing. I don't think my GF's dominant enough to initiate it anyway :)
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Especially this bit about not feeling very manly. It seems to totally go against the grain so to speak.

Originally posted by SweetIrony, Inc.
And oh jeez, I gotta go out on a limb here and say that I would probably give it a try with someone whom I supremely trusted and felt very...very close to. And it'd have to be a very small strap on...lol... Nothing over like 4 inches.
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It would have to be major fantasy of my s/o's that I was deeply in love with and completely trusted for me to even consider going there. It kind of scares me thinking about it.

Originally posted by maryjane
It seems that guys who are straight still have tiny little hangups about being 'gay'... I think the idea of a girl taking them is nice, until something that looks like a penis is involved.
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While I know having a pretend penis looking thing shoved up your arse by your female lover is nothing to do with being gay, I still can't shrug the penis looking bit. If I was going to cop it like this it would have to one of those smaller jelly type things, rather than some hardcore phallic looking thing.
 
I think I'd give it a go. Its certainly not a big fantasy of mine or anything, but I'm pretty open to trying most things. At the very least it would be interesting to get a better perspective on what it feels like to be penetrated. And who knows, maybe it would be really hot?

I think the size of the strap-on would be the most worrying thing to me. I've never gone shopping for one, but I sure wouldn't want something huge up there. A finger slipped inside during a blowjob or whatever is actually really nice. The one time my partner hit the right spot (the male g-spot or whatever), I had a mindblowing orgasm. But a finger is much smaller than a strap on.

Hmm... And yeah, right person, right time, all of that applies to. But I'd be a hypocrite if I wasn't open to that and was still interested in anal sex (as the penetrator).

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I think if she were willing to let me do it to her, then she should be allowed to reciprocate in said fashion. That said, she'd probably have to bind me to the bed first (which is pretty kinky in its own right. :))

Then again, I think it's going to be a good number of years before I have to worry about such an issue.
 
I'd give it a go. Altho, I'd question why she wants to do it. Is she really getting any "pleasure" from it? Or does she just want to fuck me in the arse coz I fucked her in the arse?
 
glowbug, whats up with the crazy response to the noob(clockers). ive been around for a while(and yes I lurked around a while before I created an account) and still consider myself a noob but being that im not gay and married his or her response sounds pretty much right on to how I feel about this question. here is another vote for: not a chance in hell!!!

Remember that everybody once was a noob and feels as strong as you do about their opinion. Be cool!!!
 
^^^ I think glowbug was pissed off with the "stupid question" comment - rightly so IMO.

Back to the topic on hand; I would go for it, but I would hope we would move up to it gradually. And I would also hope that it would mean I could stick my dildo up her arse.
 
There is a way to voice your opinion that shows respect and consideration for everybody else here, and there is a way to voice your opinion that will be offensive to others.

Clockers said it was a stupid question. By the answers this thread has received it is clear that it was not a stupid question at all. If you think something is stupid or has no relevance to you, simply do not answer the thread. There is no need to go in there and tell them that YOU think it is stupid.
 
quiet roar and Beatlebot, the point that i was trying to make is that to some people the question is "STUPID". That is my opinion!!! Do you want to tell me to STFU because I feel that way. If that is your opinion then you are no better then glowbug. The funny thing is that i signed up for my account before you did. "Don't tell me about how long you lurked around before you signed up to the website."

Im glad somebody who has been around less time then me responded to my post. Does it offend you that I challenged your seniority or your opinion?

Don't look down on somebodies opinion because they have been around less time then you. If you have a problem with there opinion so be it but don't discount there opinion because there new.
 
Well, maybe if you took more time looking through this site you would already know how I feel about newbies and post counts. There is an example of it here

Despite my post count and the fact that I am a moderator, most people still consider me a newbie. I don't see why you are so het up about the issue anyway, the comments weren't addressed to you, were they?

Clockers opened up with abusive language, and he got a little of it back. Fair game in my opinion.

Now this is a thread about men being anally penetrated by their partners. If you wish to discuss your own personal issues further I suggest you take to PM so this thread can go back on topic. You may even wish to start your own new thread on the subject if you feel so strongly about it.

I will not tolerate any more off topic replies
 
Drugz, I told that to clockers because the guy had a grand total of 5 posts and had been on BL less than a month, so quite frankly he had NO IDEA whether the question was stupid or not in comparison to other threads posted over the life of this forum.

Moreover, even IF he DID have an idea of its comparative worth, it's a generally promoted policy in this forum that if you think a question is stupid, the better practice is to ignore it and just not post anything, rather than blaze your way in with inflammatory statements, causing potential flame wars.

And yes, I believe that if you ARE that wet behind the ears on this site, then you have no business making such statements. It's not an "I'm older school than you so I can Lord it over you" thing...it's an accumulated basis of knowledge of how people in this forum generally respect each other's posts, which, imo, clockers clearly exhibited a lack of appreciation therefor.

Now, you somehow think that I'm being "uncool" by telling the guy to keep his inflammatory, non-contributory opinion to himself, but in all honesty you have no idea how I generally post or you would know that I RARELY say things like that...in fact, I think that IS the first time I've ever told anyone on this site to "shut the fuck up" in the 5 years I've been here. Clearly you have no knowledge of my posting tendencies, so spare me the diatribe, okay?

So you're married and straight and the topic has no relevance to you...hooray for you! Maybe it DOES have relevance to others. Posting a "not a chance in hell" position on the question is A-Okay, but calling another person's question "stupid" is not, especially when it's abundantly clear that the question ISN'T stupid. Of course you can still fire away with such banal "stupid question" commentary, but you open yourself up to the very same type of response I posted.

You wanna call someone else's thoughts stupid, go ahead, but don't get pissed when I tell you in response that your opinion is worthless. That's the way the "opinions" game works, ya know.

EDIT: Sorry BB...didn't see your last post before I replied.
 
nickyj had a good point a few post back, anal sex for guys is pleasurable which is why theres a point in doing it, but what would the girl get out of it? She can't feel any sensation from the strap-on, so it would be kind of weird having her just rocking back and forth with no real pleasure going with that. I suppose the pleasure would be in the dominating which brings us back to the kind of girls and guys who are up for trying it. Both of you would have to like dominating and being dominated, and be a little freaky :)
 
do you think that they may have strap ons that have a effect on the female. like ones that have a member on the side for them so when the go the motions so to say that they get some pleasure. Because think about this what do lebians do when they wear a strap on. I know it maybe the thought that gets them off but there has to be something that allows them to experience that pleasure also. Just a thought or two

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More on topic,

My s/o,

Wants to do it with me casue i get to do it to her.She also states that ill enjoy it then laughts about it.

I refuse to do it casue i will see myself less "manly" thats 100% of my reason.Even if it was some super hot chick ~ or that jelly thing,still No with a capital n.
Even though i hassle for it i respect that she doesnt want it with good reason in my case - but was worth a try. :)

Im very open to new things but this is rong Imo anyway.Still everyman for them selves if you enjoy the thought then go for it.
 
fairnymph said:
I have issues with doing this to a man because it would make him seem less 'manly' in my eyes. I have some very stereotypical gender views, when it comes to my personal sexual preferences.
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This is how I feel. Plus I'm a bit squeamish about other people's assholes... I'd rather be the penetrated than the penetrator anyway. Obviously though I'd do it if the guy really wanted me to.

Otherwise I think it's really cool that some guys in this thread have admitted that they have/would do it. It's like Beatlebot said about the girls often having to 'push their comfort boundaries'... Sometimes a guy will insist on anal sex but NO WAY would he ever let her do it to him.. kinda unfair to ask your partner to do something you wouldn't do yourself (unless your partner wants to do it wihtout you insisting).
 
This is not a stupid question and Beatlebot is not a newbie in our eyes!

I think it would be interesting to strap one on, but a handheld toy might offer a little more control and make the man more comfortable.

Jellylike toys are fun for everyone!
 
would i do it? in a second! in fact, the strapon is a much-loved, albeit highly under-used member of our sex toy family at chez popper_tart.
there's a whole range of issues as to why it's so underused these days, but that's an entirely different thread.
what i'd really like to get my hands on are some how-to resources for ladies to master the technique. i've found that a lot of women have difficulty with the basic thrusting motions. i chalk it up to not being used to having to work the tool. 8)
 
Chalk said:
... anal sex for guys is pleasurable which is why theres a point in doing it, but what would the girl get out of it?

... I suppose the pleasure would be in the dominating which brings us back to the kind of girls and guys who are up for trying it.
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this thread is intriguing me for this reason:

i am very submissive with male partners, i am penetrated and very much a "bottom". but as a bisexual i am also very aware of my dominant fantasies and i always feel like im "the man" in a girl-girl situation.

so i know how much i get off playing the unusual role. alot of it was curiosity before it happened, how does it feel to fuck someone? the fact i feel nothing from the strap-on is totally irrelevant, because i have my dick in a girl and im making her take it. :D

i also think it's hot that a guy might be curious about what recieving is like. and since it would be your girlfriend doing it to ya, is it really about being "gay" or gay-curious or just about feeling kinky in a role you have never tried before?

i know i said i was bi, and my experience is related to that, but i think i might have a similar thrill with switching positions with a male partner.

in fact i do get the sensation of being dominant at times when recieving oral. if im standing against a wall and have a man kneeling down licking my clit, i love looking at him like he's my pornstar-slut-trick and im the one using him to get off. i guess it's a silent thought i have in my head, maybe an expression on my face, but it's what id imagine the strap-on scenario would make me feel.

i think guys feel like guys even with a active aggressive female bouncing on top of them. and that's cool, you're "manly".

i guess if you're the kind of guy who thinks I'm manly for getting off being the dominant one w/ girls, then perhaps you wouldn't like to be with any ungirly girl. am i right?

anyway this whole thing is very interesting. and pretty hot.

here's another perspective.. i particularly like playing "the guy" with a girl who has never been with girls before-- a "strait" girl. i get off that she is in a new role, and is kinda vulnerable as such. i feel dominant because im taking her cues and taking control.

for a guy to show his vulnerable side(no pun intended) and let the girl have some control... whew! what a guy, how kinky..

i tend to always love the experiences that bend the preconceptions of what sex should be like.
 
popper_tart said:
i've found that a lot of women have difficulty with the basic thrusting motions.
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true!! i would want to be a good thruster, and may be anxious about my thrusting prowress.. :(

but on the other hand, with anal you need quite a bit of practice before thrusting is even possible. for me i still sometimes can't be fucked, only penetrated. drugs help. ;) also, this may be heresay but i believe guys are, ahem, much easier?
 
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