Nothing left

[Tiredperson]

My family has taken and taken from me and now I have nothing left. I can't even take care of myself. I have no friends. I'm afraid friends will just take from me like my family has. I'm trying to get my life together but no one is supporting me. I have a therapist but she sucks and I've had therapists before her and they've all sucked.

I need serious help. I need emotional support. However, I can't seem to find it anywhere.

 

[herbavore]

Perhaps the best thing you could do would be to separate yourself from people for a while, if possible. That is, if by family you mean parents, siblings and extended family. If you mean your own children, well, that is what children do (take from you) but it is usually more than made up for by how rewarding it is to get to be inside the wonderful bond that exists between children and their parents. If this bond is not wonderful, you have to look at yourself and ask, why not?

If everyone around you sucks (friends , family and a host of therapists) it usually means time for a perspective shift. Work on yourself, on your relationship with yourself and your own emotions. All other relationships follow that primary one.

 

[Moreaux]

It does sound that you may need to modify your perspective. I think it's easy to begin to feel that everyone is against you if you've been suffering from a deep depression for a long period of time. Sometimes when we feel low we become extremely sensitive and any previewed slight becomes amplified.

Regarding your family I suspect they have no idea how bad you are feeling and are not intentionally trying to make you feel worse. Can you have a dialog with them and discuss how you feel and how some of their actions are affecting you? I will give everyone an opportunity to air any grievances and concerns. It will also allow them to explain why they are doing or not doing specific actions, and may give you insight to their motivations and perceptions.

With respect to therapists - it's hard to find a good one, at least in my experience. Are you in a position where you can try out other ones? If not, tell your therapist that it's not working. They can modify their treatment and tactics and maybe find something that is more suitable to your needs.

 

[Ziiirp]

What did they take from you ? Materialistic commodities or emotional assistance without supporting you ? If it is the latter then you have to realize that the majority of western people is confused to the point, where they are simply not able to support anyone. They rather do not say anything before they give wrong advice. The best tipp I can give you is talking with people about topics they are interested as well instead of expecting them to show you the path, when they don't even know. Don't expect your relatives to tell you the next steps.

Instead apply techniques to sharpen your own ability to come to the right decisions. Don't seek a guardian, instead seek for practices, that let you become your own guardian.

 

[manboychef]

you can look at the glass being half full, or half empty. In reality the problem is with the size of the glass.

If your therapist isn't working then find another. It took me a long time to find one I was able to work with. If the meds aren't working, then work with your doctor.

The best thing you can do for your family is be honest. If they cannot be honest with you then you may have to do what I did at age 16. I left home. I couldn't deal with the way they were treating me, they would not help me with my problems, and in being the way they were it made me worse.

 

[Man in the Dark]

I feel the main concern is that you said you can't take care of yourself. We are here to help. Create an account and talk to some of the people who have been through some serious stuff. You caught the attention of 3 great and caring mods. We won't judge you and you can always PM people if you don't want your information public.