So, I was sitting in my Character and Conflict class last Tuesday afternoon. This class demands a great deal of soul searching and self-honesty. I have been a member of Narcotics Anonymous for ten years now and writing on my step work has already given me a great deal of practice. There was a lot of writing on Step 4, which many people dread. I was not one of them because I was anxious to know why I was always in a great deal of psychic pain when I was young. The professor put on a Miley Cyrus song at the beginning of class and asked us to listen to it. I've always been a classic rock and pop type of person, but the melody and the words took me back to when I was young. The professor asked for comments, so I told him that the song reminded me of why I felt the need to do so many drugs when I was young. I was constantly plagued with the idea that I was not thin enough, pretty enough, rich enough, smart enough (especially the thin and pretty). As I told the class this, I saw most of the young ladies nodding their heads. They have the same insecurities that I did back in the 80's, sadly enough. The next thing I said was, "If I could go back and talk to my 21 year old self, I would tell her, don't sweat the small stuff, honey. You are enough in every single way." And I was, but I was always the kind of girl that carried around an extra 15 pounds. Society said we must be thin in order to be beautiful, so I did a lot of speed so that I could have that kind of beauty. The thing is what young girls don't realize is that they already are beautiful as they are. I hope I got through to some of them. Sometimes I see that the more things change, the more they stay the same.
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That has not been my experience. The step work is shared with a sponsor, of which I have had 3 since 2006. I have never had a problem, but you do have to use good judgment when choosing a sponsor.
The funny thing is that nowadays society is telling people being fat or even grotesquely obese is beautiful. There's nothing wrong with society having an ideal, especially if the ideal inspires people to take care of themselves and pursue health. People just have to realize it's ok if you don't meet the ideal, it's an ideal for a reason and the majority of people won't meet it.
Being a few pounds overweight is one thing, but being monstrously fat is unhealthy and should not be condoned, or in anyway promoted as fine. I am not talking about people who are a little overweight or chubby. I am also not here to mock or treat them poorly.
I am talking about the rise in people who are or near morbid obesity. The health issues that are caused be this and a society that is getting lazier and fatter is not a good thing. Your body is a temple, not the whole village.
I am talking about the rise in people who are or near morbid obesity. The health issues that are caused be this and a society that is getting lazier and fatter is not a good thing. Your body is a temple, not the whole village.
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