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Not really sure what It is I want to be doing

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I'm really at a loss for which direction I want to take my life in. I just turned 24 and over the last 6 years I've been living with my parents, going back and forth to community college, and haven't had a job in over a year.

I have been going to community college but haven't gotten my degree yet. I don't really care about the degree anymore as I care about actually learning something and gaining some knowledge to better myself and to actually know something well.

There are numerous things I've always been interested in. I've always loved all the different drugs and how they work. I've always had an interest in that. Since we are in the Computer age so to speak I've had an interest in that.

I like to talk about politics and sociology as well.

If there was someway I could combine all of these things into something new.

I also love playing music, I forgot to mention that.

It just seems at this point in my life there are many things at my disposal and I just don't know where to go.

I know I still have to satisfy science courses and some other socical sciences.

I have an interest in many things but I really want to become good at a few things so I can propel and actually make something of myself.

It doesn't seem as confusing as it seems more challenging. Am I ready to step up to the plate? Hmmm.

I also want to travel but at the same time I've been tied down to living close to home because of a klonopin addiction I've developed. Recentley I've been cutting my dose down. That is my primary goal but I know I can't just sit in my parents house all day reading internet forums and doing nothing.

Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
 
what are you going to school for?

what do you want to accomplish? do you want to run your own business? do you value stability? etc.
 
it is exceedingly common to have this problem (btw: this is not an insult :)) get a job, ANY job. test the waters in whatever industry serendipity brings you. you will have a better understanding of what you want, when you discover those things you don't particularly like.

by your age, i had already worked at several places. felt a little aimless and lost for a while, but i found my feet. age does that to you, so there's no need to worry. :)
 
^ Thanks for that post dude.

It makes me feel a lot more comfortable about my own poisition. :)
 
cool, man. :)

R_E, you're welcome to pm me any time, mate. i tell you, having too many options is a curse, not a blessing!
 
I don't have much to add, other than I'm almost 24, have a Bachelors and a Masters degree in Linguistics, and have no idea where I want to go with that since I have other interests as well, I also haven't worked in a year and a half and not much else other than restaurant/call center work.

This post doesn't help your question at all, but just letting you know I'm sitting in a similar place in my life.
 
Hey,

I've just turned 21 and im the same i have no direction of were i want to go.
Like i have things i like to do, but people just keep telling me that there's no
way i could do that.
At the moment im at Uni, studying psychology, it's interesting but not something i want to do .. im only doing this course just to increase my Crap Marks from not trying at school.
 
You sound like me. I have always been good at many things and had a lot of options I could have pursued if I wanted to. I never went to college because I hated school and had a feeling whatever I would end up doing would not require schooling anyway. It wasn't until I was a few years past your age that I finally knew what I wanted as the main career in my life. You still have time to decide.
 
Being a renaissance type person (many skill sets and many interests) it is hard to find a fit in society. Most jobs require a specialization and multi-skill sets and interests are often frowned upon. On the flip side if you add the right tools to your back ground (some math, science, language, etc…) you can really go lots of places. If you are interested in many things get a basic certification in some skills (i.e., what was listed above) and go abroad and find a niche for a while and have fun. When it is over, go do something else. There are lots of places to go, you just have to reach out and see what is there. It works, believe me.
 
i feel you, OP

overwhelmed by all the possibilities, dont know where to start

but i think L2R has the right idea; that is, try everything !

it doesnt matter where you start, just start!
 
Thanks for the replies.

I have enrolled part-time at a local community college which I am familiar with. I'll be taking a sociology course and a Gay and Lesbian literature course.

The Gay and Lesbian literature course is a test for me in a way. I'm not going to lie, I've been sexually confused for a while.

Hopefully this gives me a boost to get things going again or perhaps for the first time.
 
good luck with those. if you can, try to get a job while you do them. don't let yourself be one of those people who constantly use schooling as the snooze button on the alarm clock of life. the earlier you get up, the more you will be able to do.
 
Well I can completely relate to the OPs first post. I am also 24, and while I do have my college degree (BS Industrial Tech), it really hasn't helped me in any significant way. After graduation 1.5 yrs ago I ended up moving home due to a few factors (an opiate addiction, family deaths, family members with addiction problems, and other financial difficulties). Got into a MMT clinic a year ago but since i'm a weed smoker, I have to drive daily which has me totally stuck in a rut and tethered here. Sorry I have nothing constructive to add, just wanted to let you know that your not alone and that I too have been, "sitting around at my parents house browsing internet forums" all day. It is largely a feeling of not knowing what to do now, like my whole life has been a horizontal axis and now that i'm technically done with the status quo of schooling I have a 3D axis and its almost overwhelming. I have been employed my whole life and never lost a job but have somehow managed to lose two in 2010. Its a big shit show man. Hang on though, we're gonna get through it somehow, someway.
 
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I'm in a similar position. I can't figure out what I want to do! For years, all during high school, I knew what I was going to do with my life so I worked really hard to get into university. Got it, and failed soo badly. I hated it! I had spent the last five years going for this and it wasn't what I wanted. So I dropped out after my first year and enrolled in college in a program that my mom said I'd be good at. Sure, I'm good at it (top of my class actually) but it's NOT what I want to do with my life, I guarantee that. I graduate soon, which is nice. I'll have the diploma. But not in something I want.

I guess I'll try and get a job after this in my "area" and explore from there.
 
fwiw even though i've "figured out" what i've wanted to do many times, i am still not satisfied with them. for example i love poker to death and have thought i would be a poker player until i died, but the other day i started questioning that. also i've wanted to become a teacher for most of my life and i still want to do that, but that doesnt stop me from wanting to do other things!

tl;dr: you'll never know what u want to do. just take it as it comes.
 
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