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I done a similar thing to you, just stopped calling people. Told everyone I stopped smoking weed (they only used to ring me when they wanted to scrounge weed) they all stopped calling me within 2 weeks.

It has been over 6 months since I spoke to a 'real' person face to face (apart from doctors and a dealer), it is hard but you just have to try and work around it and not let it get you down too much. Whenever I start to feel too lonely I just think of all the things that piss me off about my old so called 'friends' then I feel ok about being alone again.
 
As a little addendum: if you're not happy with this situation, then perhaps it's time for some new friends? Not even to the point of excluding the old; it's always good to refresh one's circles every now and then, infuse a little new blood into your social life. Not an easy thing to do, I know; especially when feeling low. What has worked well for me in that regard has been joining clubs. I was practising yoga at the same studio for a couple of years, and met some really cool people there (just be careful of the shiny yoga sorts; they like drinking Kool-Aid IME); joined a Vegan/Vegetarian club and met a surprisingly varied group of people there; and took a few drop-in art classes just for shits and giggles.
 
Are you sure you've not isolated yourself to the point where people have 'given up' so to speak?

I'm nearly 30 and feel that I've done the above to myself for most of my life. God knows why?

Self loathing and intimacy issues play a strong part in my life.
Crazy as it sounds, rehab made me realize certain things I'd never of seen in myself had it not been for other peoples perceptions.

Group therapy is a good start if you're serious about sorting out any issues.

Take care pal.
 
madog11 said:
Funny enough Vaya i have no druggy friends, i always do them alone.
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It is never good advice to encourage using drugs, but, if you are going to be using anyways, why not try to do drugs with other people. I can't imagine how easy it would be to find friends if I was using drugs alone at my house .

Maybe quit the drugs and find friends that you have things in common with . Join a club or a sport at school? This sounds corny as fuck as well, and I'm not too sure how old are , but maybe try an online dating site and trying to find yourself a girl friend. I know you can meet other members of the same sex who are looking for a friendship as well (they match you up with similar likes / dislikes i believe; I have never used a site like these but I have several friends who have met some nice girls and one friend who is getting MARRIED to someone he met on a site like !!!!)

Back to the first paragraph, from my experience, sober friends have much better morals/standards/friendship values on a whole as opposed to drug addicts/alcoholics.
 
b4rd said:
It is never good advice to encourage using drugs, but, if you are going to be using anyways, why not try to do drugs with other people. I can't imagine how easy it would be to find friends if I was using drugs alone at my house .

Maybe quit the drugs and find friends that you have things in common with . Join a club or a sport at school? This sounds corny as fuck as well, and I'm not too sure how old are , but maybe try an online dating site and trying to find yourself a girl friend. I know you can meet other members of the same sex who are looking for a friendship as well (they match you up with similar likes / dislikes i believe; I have never used a site like these but I have several friends who have met some nice girls and one friend who is getting MARRIED to someone he met on a site like !!!!)

Back to the first paragraph, from my experience, sober friends have much better morals/standards/friendship values on a whole as opposed to drug addicts/alcoholics.
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It seems to have always been assumed but you're the first one to outrightly say it, but I am a girl/woman/whatever you wanna call me. I think my name implies I'm male LOL. Tried sober friends, they just didn't stick. I was just on a bit of a downer people as a rule suck. I'm better off by myself.

P.S as stated in an earlier post i'm 23 and no longer in school :-) tried things like open mic nights etc.
 
if you don't care about your self why would anymore else? Drugs make you hate your self. You end up loving the drugs not your self.
You gotta work on that. If you can become happy with you self others will come back to you.
 
xxsicknessxx said:
if you don't care about your self why would anymore else? Drugs make you hate your self. You end up loving the drugs not your self.
You gotta work on that. If you can become happy with you self others will come back to you.
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I don't hate myself. Life is hard thats why i like drugs. That has nothing to do with who i am it's to do with the way the world is. I enjoy my own company drugs or not. I don't know what gave you the implication that i in anyway hated myself. I feel down sometimes but who doesn't, i get over it.
 
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