Okay fellas, I think it's high time you get a "nice-single-girls" opinion on this thread.
{And my 2cents goes a little something like this}...
I personally dont think that there is any point in categorising something like this. I can easily say that "We are all individuals blah, blah, blah....we have all experienced basically the same things, blah, blah"... but what it really comes down to is the person inside of you, the person you choose to be with and what stage you are both in in your lives. It's a matter of what you both want from each other and your future together, combined with the soul that you were blessed with and how much you understand such things.
{personal experience time}...
The longest and probably most degrading relationship I have been in was with a nice guy who was bad...{wtf? i know, but just listen} He was a typical "nice" guy who loved me to the worlds end, would do anything for me...{was a major speed freak at the same time, but that hardly had an imapct...cough, cough}. The only thing that seriously got in the way was how overprotective he was of me. Blah, blah, blah we were together 10-12 months, blah, blah, blah...I lost myself in his life. It has already been said that what people experience in relationships is what defines our next relationship, not to mention what helps us to define ourselves. What we don't understand is that the extent of what we experience with one person makes us hesitant to experience it with another of the same "stereotype".
There is nothing in my opinion that can define a "nice-guy" due to the fact that to some extent, in some stage of a persons life
they will be a "nice-guy". This may not occur because he was born that way, or wants to be that way, but because there was something in his life that made him that way.
Now, being a "nice-girl" I tend to take offence to the statements that nice guys attract phsycho chicks. Yes, I admit I have my moments {generally more often than some} but there is still a point where I will be so involved in a person I would willingly do anything for them, no matter what the consequence. Relationships are all part of the learning in life. You take it as it comes and learn from the experience it has given you, yet that doesn't mean that you wont be scared the next time around.
{And because all you guys bagged us women out, to an extent...}
I tend to take the view that all guys in the earlier stages of their lives are not willing enough to be open with themsleves emotionally, therefore they don't let themselves become too attached. {Insert constant-casual-sex-relationships here}. But when it comes to the point that they reach that other level {the one where chicks are already at...hehe} they don't know how to behave in an adult relationship.
Chicks don't "expect" guys to let them walk all over you, they don't constantly test you and they are not purely in existence to fuck with your minds. You just think they are. Nice guys are people who know what they want, know who they are and know how to treat a girl as a guy. Admittedly, sometimes girls do their own heads in trying to figure out all you "nice-guys", but it would all work out if we stopped being so suspicious of the others emotions and thoughts. Because in all honesty, they are exactly the same as what you would be thinking {ie: no devious plots to try and make you insane by being unsure of what you are and are not meant to be doing in a relationship}
{And through all this babble I have learnt?}
That i am way too young to be looking for what I look for in a relationship with someone my age. So until I am about 25 my mind is made up that I will never find the guy that knows how to be in a "nice" relationship, cause generally it constitutes in getting my herat broken everytime I stupidly think "Yeah, yeah, he's the one!!" And then he screws some other girl...
And such is life really.
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*Immerse Your Soul In Love*
