newborns

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ill be a father at the end of this month ,I know I don't know any of you on a personal level but any advice? words of encouragement ?

little worried about her love for her dog and not wanting to keep him outside,huge german shep ..100lbs ,although not aggressive towards humans it still has me worried hes hyper likes to jump etc

sadly I feel alone cause she thinks theres not going to be ANY problems ,I have talked to her,but its like I swear I think shes thinking the baby is just going to sleep all night ,say ok im ready to eat and eat it all ,never cry etc ....shes never been around babies and I try and bring all this up but shes like nope its going to be fine ,since I cant be there 24-7 right now I cant help but be scared,not that shes going to hurt him in any way..i feel like im making her out to be a negligent parent and that's not what I want at all and it makes me feel like shit

ive made her watch videos etc but that's not the same as experience around babies,im hoping her motherly instincts take over and there is no problems whatso ever

 

[One Thousand Words]

Sometimes you have to just chuck them in and sink or swim.

Look around you, we all survived childhood, not everyone with the greatest of parents. It's not easy but by the same token it's not that hard either. Some kids will be perfect little angels, sleep and eat when you want, others will be right little shits.

I wouldn't worry about your dog, my friends has a husky and a newborn and they are the best of friends. Smart dogs will recognise the importance of your new family member and will protect not harm.

 

[Journyman16]

Just make sure the dog is not pushed aside - shepherds are mostly damn good with kids. The ones that aren't have been twisted by fuckwit owners.

There's a DVD about the sounds babies make - I think I saw it on a torrent download site so maybe get that and have a listen - Baby Language I think... Dunstan is the author...

Just be calm and supportive - one view is that women are by definition insane when they have babies as all their priorities change. If you hassle her and make things uncomfortable you may ruin the relationship. Just help where you can and if she wants to talk, just listen - mostly us blokes want to fix things so probably the two most important bits of advice are...

SHUT UP & LISTEN!

and

If you are at the birth and right handed, give her your left hand to hold - the damage wont be as bad that way. :D