New rave friend

[ksas]

Just wanted to share my story and ask for some tips:

So last weekend I went to a warehouse rave and met a really nice girl, we were both on MDMA at the time and hit it off straight away. I met her friends and she met mine, we were dancing, kissing, hugging, holding each other throughout the night and it just felt so magical! I'm still fairly young and for the first time I really felt like I could be comfortable with a girl. We were both messy, hot, sweaty and this definitely put a lot of pressure off . We had an amazing time and agreed to meet for another party in a couple weeks. She lives quite far from me, about 45 mins drive. We've been texting each other since, getting to know each other a bit better and she says she wants to try speed at the next rave.
I'm inexperienced when it comes to girls so please leave any tips or advice!

 

[Felonious Monk]

So you were on MDMA, what's the question? Where do you go from here?

Did you get her number?

 

[MD Specialist]

A relationship that centers around being high together can easily end up in disaster. Have fun, enjoy your time with her but be careful. If the only time you two are together are at parties and intoxicated it could be nearly impossible to achieve something real from this.

 

[Mysterie]

@^^

We've been texting each other since

my advice is be yourself and be honest.

dont want to get too cynical but its not uncommon to feel a strong connection to ppl on mdma, so dont be too crushed if it feels real awkward next time you meet, or if one of you isnt vry attracted to the other person. might not be the case but oxytocin is a powerful chemical.

 

[pofacedhoe]

hmmm speed is only good for a few things- not sleeping, making you euphoric/paranoid and shagging like rabbits if you can get a boner...

how about you two meet up when not on drugs? why not do that...

 

[augustaB]

Nobody can tell, what the future holds for you.
You felt a connection at the rave. Will you feel a connection when you are both down?
Will your future relationship be governed by a need to feel this connection again, and so will you be driven to mdma again.
Will mdma be the only thing that holds you together?
Just see where it goes and don't be too disappointed if it all fizzles out.

 

[ksas]

how about you two meet up when not on drugs? why not do that...

Ahhh yes true, I was actually planning to meet up after the rave if things go well. I just thought that at a rave it would be a more relaxed setting with plenty of other people, so would take the edge off things a bit compared to if we were one-on-one in a cafe!

 

[Felonious Monk]

its not uncommon to feel a strong connection to ppl on mdma, so dont be too crushed if it feels real awkward next time you meet, or if one of you isnt vry attracted to the other person.

Just see where it goes and don't be too disappointed if it all fizzles out.

Keep both of these in mind and you can do ok.

Just because you met and maybe fell in love when you were rolling doesn't mean it's not real. It opens people up and allows them to be themselves in a revolutionary way, so you might have just gotten lucky and been able to skip the first uncomfortable steps of the relationship.

Or it might have just been the drugs.

So try to meet her sober and see where it goes. 45 minutes isn't really that far--you didn't say where you live or how old you are, but if it's for real and right it'll work out.
A second rave would be ok, it would be more comfortable, but it takes you even farther from meeting her on a normal level, a level that you could start a healthy relationship on.

 

[ksas]

Some solid advice, thanks everyone! I'll report back next week on how the date goes