New Partner Questions

[Sticky Green]

I've been hanging out recently with someone I knew about 15 years ago in high school. We've had a drunk kiss or 2 in the past, but nothing lasting. Well recently we ran into each other randomly at a bar and have been talking for the past couple weeks. We've been on a couple casual dates since then. Every time we meet up she always seems to put a good effort into her appearance. After the last date she went in for a kiss in the car, but i just wasn't feeling it right then. Maybe a bit of anxiety. She was OK with it and asked if I was doing anything this week. I told her that I would find time and a more private/cozy place to hang out.

Last night I had her over my (parent's) place (she lives with her parents too). We just popped open a bottle of wine, talked and watched TV. So we tried the kiss thing again and it was all good. Maybe a bit stiff at first, but we both loosened up. After the show was over and we had a good bit of wine in us, we started making out fairly heavy. We both seemed pretty ready for sex, and both wanted it pretty bad, but something in me said my parent's house just isn't the place....especially with them there. If I had let my desires take over, it was most definitely leading to sex. All signs pointed to go. We basically wrapped it up after about 5-10 minutes of digging into each other and playfully dry humping.

So tonight I sent her a text saying "I still smell you on my clothes...mmmmm" and got a delayed reply...."awww, you're cute".

So my one question is.....is she really into me? I don't like the sounds of "awwww....you're cute".

My other question is, how do I bring up the STD question? I really don't care how many or who she has been with in the past, I just want to know if she's STD free now. I want to have a nice and long first sex session with some good oral. It seems like a rude question to ask and it would completely ruin the moment if I asked just before sex.

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

1. She wanted you to give her a good fucking and was disappointed you didn't.
2. Personally I would never 'bring up the STD question', I would either wear protection or just roll the dice (which is what I actually do). You're right it would totally ruin the moment in my eyes, but if it's important to you then I guess you have to do it. Hopefully someone else can help you with that one.

 

[llama112]

2. Personally I would never 'bring up the STD question', I would either wear protection or just roll the dice (which is what I actually do).

If you want to roll the dice and potentially ruin your life, then go for it.
But my recommendation? Ask. In fact, you should both go get tested to ensure you're safe.

 

[Beachcat]

I agree that she is in to you, and it is 100% not rude to ask the STD question ... If she took offense then she is immature...

I would want my partner to ask and to volunteer info about themselves. STDs are nothing to gamble with.

 

[Azure Cloud]

The only people offended by the STD question are those with an STD. Maybe meet for a casual coffee so you don't potentially kill the mood. Getting tested together could potentially be a fun adventure if you can keep the conversation fun and light hearted.