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BobbehKaze

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Hello bluelight. I've been familiar with this website for quite some time as generally a drug question typed into google redirects here. Here's a little history on me.

I started dating this girl about a year ago and a few months in, I find out she's addicted to heroin. I didn't know what to say because i was very against it at the time. She wanted me to try it with her...so I did and man it was the best high I'd ever expirienced in my life. We continued to use about every other day, not focusing our whole lives around it, but we liked it and it was something we enjoyed doing together. Over time, things got worse, we needed more than we could afford and she began to get hostile and angry when she needed it. I'd only been using a few months so it wasn't so bad for me. Our usage put me so far down into debt, destroyed my credit score, closed my bank account, my car broke down and I can't afford to fix it, she lost her job and I'm two weeks late on rent as of today without a dollar in my pocket. On top of all this, I know she's sleeping with her ex but she doesn't know that I know. I need to kick her out, but I need her unemployment checks for rent and bills.

Everything was great until she came along and when she leaves, all I'll have to remember her with is no credit, my name on bank account black lists, an eviction and a heroin addiction...thanks...best girlfriend ever.
 
<3 sorry to hear that Bob. Come check out some of our threads in the Recovery section The Dark Side, Sober Living, Mental Health.

Things will get better. Get off the heroin. Work on paying off your debts..if that means working..do it. Get some money into a bank account if you can.

It can all be repaired man. You're not that far into it. I'm glad you got a glimpse so early. You can pull yourself out. Trust me! <3
 
Wow... what a nightmare. So sorry to hear that this woman had such a negative impact on your life. Some people are just lifesuckers. That's my term to describe people like your ex. They take and take and take some more until you have nothing left, Oh yeah and they never give back. I had a "friend" who was being abused by her husband and in an attempt to help her get away from the situation, I took her into my house so she could get on her feet and be in a healthy environment. Well, a week or 2 into her stay with me, I find out she's using heroin. To make a long story short, she pretty much just used my house to get high and have a little vacation away from the hubby. If I had known that she had left him several times before, I probably would have never tried to help her in the 1st place.
I would try to get her out of your life ASAP. She's toxic and you can get back on your feet again... Just not with her around. She'll just bring you down while you're trying to make improvements in your life. Best of luck to you

Zippy
 
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