hi..
i am new on here. i am not sure where else to turn. i hope it is okay i joined, as i am looking for support and information on methadone withdrawal because my SO is in the process.
he has been titrating with a doctor at a clinic for about 2 years now. i am very proud of his decision and glad he is doing it in a safe way. i am also having a hard time.
i noticed that he is distant and gives me no attention anymore. he does nothing to show he loves me, notices me, cares about me. is this to be expected? i know titrating and withdrawals are different for everyone. i am just having trouble coping with what is happening in our relationship. i bring this up sometimes because i try and be patient and compassionate, but sometimes i hit the end of my rope. i feel like we are roommates at this point, and roommates that barely talk or engage. there is no sex. there is no romance. there is no passion. he says this is all from the methadone titration and that things will get better when he is done, which will probably be in another year. i just feel no connection between us. luckily, he is never abusive or straight forwardly mean to me, but i do feel very neglected, especially compared to how loved he used to make me feel.
i dont want to sound harsh because, like i said, i am very supportive of this. i feel that i am a patient and compassionate person, but it would help if anyone else can share their experiences. any advice for what i should do? i am working on some of my codependent traits, but i also feel like anyone would be upset in my situation. i guess things were not completely perfect with us even before the methadone titration started, but i will say that things have gotten pretty bad. i will speak to him and he will not respond. when i bring this to his attention or just say "forget it,' he gets pissed. i feel disrespected and unimportant. he is focused on doing other stuff all the time. we do nothing together. he does not want to do anything, but his own hobbies. i am just feeling stuck. i go through ups and downs with this, but this week has really gotten me down. we have been discussing things a lot and it just feels like we hit a wall. he gets upset about what I'm saying and i feel like he doesn't get it. along with all these negative interactions and how i feel, we do nothing fun and do not have any fun/good/bonding moments that even things out even a little bit.
i really would love any insights, thoughts, etc. i am open to any support or even any criticism. am i being unfair here? do i need to keep quiet and let him detox? i just really fear that things will never get better, while also trying to support him. part of me is afraid this is not just from the methadone. maybe the relationship is just damned.
i am new on here. i am not sure where else to turn. i hope it is okay i joined, as i am looking for support and information on methadone withdrawal because my SO is in the process.
he has been titrating with a doctor at a clinic for about 2 years now. i am very proud of his decision and glad he is doing it in a safe way. i am also having a hard time.
i noticed that he is distant and gives me no attention anymore. he does nothing to show he loves me, notices me, cares about me. is this to be expected? i know titrating and withdrawals are different for everyone. i am just having trouble coping with what is happening in our relationship. i bring this up sometimes because i try and be patient and compassionate, but sometimes i hit the end of my rope. i feel like we are roommates at this point, and roommates that barely talk or engage. there is no sex. there is no romance. there is no passion. he says this is all from the methadone titration and that things will get better when he is done, which will probably be in another year. i just feel no connection between us. luckily, he is never abusive or straight forwardly mean to me, but i do feel very neglected, especially compared to how loved he used to make me feel.
i dont want to sound harsh because, like i said, i am very supportive of this. i feel that i am a patient and compassionate person, but it would help if anyone else can share their experiences. any advice for what i should do? i am working on some of my codependent traits, but i also feel like anyone would be upset in my situation. i guess things were not completely perfect with us even before the methadone titration started, but i will say that things have gotten pretty bad. i will speak to him and he will not respond. when i bring this to his attention or just say "forget it,' he gets pissed. i feel disrespected and unimportant. he is focused on doing other stuff all the time. we do nothing together. he does not want to do anything, but his own hobbies. i am just feeling stuck. i go through ups and downs with this, but this week has really gotten me down. we have been discussing things a lot and it just feels like we hit a wall. he gets upset about what I'm saying and i feel like he doesn't get it. along with all these negative interactions and how i feel, we do nothing fun and do not have any fun/good/bonding moments that even things out even a little bit.
i really would love any insights, thoughts, etc. i am open to any support or even any criticism. am i being unfair here? do i need to keep quiet and let him detox? i just really fear that things will never get better, while also trying to support him. part of me is afraid this is not just from the methadone. maybe the relationship is just damned.
