New faces and posi vibes

[PetalToTheMetal]

Any advice on meeting more people and making new friends? I lot of the people I've known have moved, and I'm unhappy with who I presently hang around with. There isn't much to do in the town I live in, beside the library or going to Wal-Mart, but I've considered moving when I have the money. Internet friends are cool, but it would be nice to have more people to actually hang out and enjoy life with. People that are positive influence, instead of people who just end up making me feel even lonelier. Any advice, protips?

 

[neversickanymore]

Volunteering for a cause you believe is a great way to meet like minded people. Anything that you do that jives with your heart.. i know it may sound a little cheesy, but its not. Get involved with what you love and feel passionate about and you will naturally fall in with your own.

 

[Smoky]

I hear you, most of mine had babies and moved to Marin.
NSA has a good point. I've met some interesting folks at like Zen centers, and/or meditation groups - lots of folks with substance use active or in recovery.
And or volunteering at an animal shelter… or something you love. Or just taking a new class, educationally or athletic in nature. Follow your bliss and you will find likeminded people

 

[The Doc.]

How bout getting out of the house,logging off the computer and meeting people?

Time doesn't always change things, doing things changes situations such as this. Not doing anything leaves things exactly as they are. You can't just keep sitting around and hoping for the best

 

[herbavore]

Meetup.com gets people connected around different interests--everything and anything. And it isn't like a singles club because all sorts of people participate regardless of their relationship status--it's focused on shared activities and making friends.

 

[Maya]

Move to vancity and ill be a positive fwend :D

Besides the suggestions posted above, i would like to ask do you have any relatives around your area? Maybe one of your cousins would wanna hang out or something?

 

[Americanfloosie]

Volunteering for a cause you believe is a great way to meet like minded people. Anything that you do that jives with your heart.. i know it may sound a little cheesy, but its not. Get involved with what you love and feel passionate about and you will naturally fall in with your own.

This is sound advice. I luckily fell into a charity group in my area that not only gives back but knows how to have a good time ie: social parties, sporting events ect. They are a few recovering people in the group too so no one is pressured to drink. Giving back also feels really really good. And most the time it's just donating your time!

 

[herbavore]

^Not only does it do good for the community but it gets you out of yourself, out of your own world where your own emotions and thoughts are always front and center. It can do wonders just to be focused on other people or animals or the environment where you live.

 

[RivieraLife]

Taking classes certainly worked for me. Helped me to meet people who were passionate about the same things. I was nervous as fuck at first and didn't speak to anyone, but gradually people spoke to me, or sometimes I had good days, and now - I wouldn't say I had close friends or anything, but I do socialise with people outside of my druggie-circles. Which is a big change.