Needing advice on relationship + drugs.

[Noodle]

Do you mean to say that this belongs more in Sex, Love, and Relationships more than it belongs in Psychedelic Drugs? Because I had originally posted it in SLR. If you moved it to Psychedelic Drugs, though, sorry 'bout the mix-up.

"slr > pd" means this thread was moved from SLR to PD.

I think you need to approach your partner with the information that those in this forum might better be able to provide for you.

Regular experienced users of Psychedelics might have more life experience, personal knowledge, and information to draw from and share with you.

In my mind your partner is being unresonable. But that is another issue entirely.

 

[swilow]

I suspect some of the more vicious answers come from a lonely place

There's several rational arguments you could use: MDMA is unlikely to cause cardiac arrest, or anything needing CPR. On the other hand, alcohol and painkillers could both require CPR use, if taken in excess. I would assume your boyfriend hasn't needed you to perform CPR on him, so what reason does he have for thinking you will need it?

But ti-for-tat arguing never really works in a relationship, and I'd wager his problem is more related to you going into the desert with a stranger WITHOUT HIM, then it is about you taking a pretty common drug.

The things you'd need if you were desertbound:

- Water and lots of it. More then you think you could need.
- Sunburn cream. Makes sense.
- A means of creating shade. Ie. a tent or the like
- First aid kit. Bit excessive, but why not?
- A sober person who can drive if needed.
- No alcohol.

If you take care of these things, then your boyfriend shouldn't be bothered. If he still is, you need to decide whether to respect his wishes or just do what you want to do.

Me and Miss Willow have disagreed on drugs a few times; so I try and ensure that she knows whats going on if I'm tripping (what drug, how much, etc.), but I also make sure that I'm not being the annoying tripped out idiot; I try and take myself to a place where I can sit outside in the backyard just chilling out...

But with MDMA, I used to pop around to her house, and she'd be chewing her face off with xtc-ness :D It didn't bother me, except that she would sometimes want to drive places (and usually I'd be fucked up too), so I would instigate a walk-about. You can't control your partner, and it would be shit if if you did, but you can try and be rational and safety-conscious.

 

[yellowoak]

Thanks for all of the help, everyone. I'm still having long and emotionally charged discussions about it, but it seems like I'm making progress. We at least clearly understand each others' positions now - I'm just going to have to work on slowly convincing him. He dropped the CPR requirement, but the sober sitter one has remained. I've found a friend who might be willing to accommodate, but I'm going to have to ask her to not smoke any pot the entire time she's there, which feels like I'm being rather imposing. I understand where he's coming from, but...

Next time, I'll just make sure he comes along.

 

[The Hebrew Hammer]

oh shit, if this idiot needs your sober sitter to not smoke pot even, then he is just fucking clueless, ditch him, and come hollar at me lol

You should ask him if its ok if your sitter drinks, if he says yes, leave him, if he says no, throw it in his face how retarded his logic is.

 

[sheepie]

oh shit, if this idiot needs your sober sitter to not smoke pot even, then he is just fucking clueless, ditch him, and come hollar at me lol

You should ask him if its ok if your sitter drinks, if he says yes, leave him, if he says no, throw it in his face how retarded his logic is.

Hahaha

Yeah your bf's kind of a dumbass. I say, spike something he eats/drinks with MDMA, then, when he's high, explain him stuff and he will understand