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boltfan909

boltfan909

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Ok, some of you may have read my other thread about going to Vegas for my Wife and I's first roll. Well everything was cool except 1 thing did happen that has me kinda sad (this may have A LITTLE to do with some slight depression being that I popped a total of 2.5 pills over a 2 day span etc etc). ANNNYWAY, the Wife and I have talked about bringing another women into the bedroom here and there. Mainly during the heat of the moment then we realize that its more fantasy than anything. WELL on Sat night (we were there with her best friend and her bf) the bf and I went down to do some gambling. About 20 minutes later my wife comes down and tells me they hooked up (her friend and her), and I dont mean just like kissed..toys were involved etc. At first I thought it was pretty cool but the more I think of it, the more I really feel uncomfortable and kinda feel like she cheated. Whenever we discussed another female it was always together, not like her alone. The other thing that bothers me is she REALLY liked it. Has anyone had something like this happen>? At certain times im completely ok with it bc its a female, who can offer things I can't...other times im soooo bothered I get sick to my stomach!


Like I said, looking for some advice (hopefully someone else has had something similiar happen and can help a brotha out!). Even if it's not directly related, but the same idea (basically you or he/she did something while on E that make u feel really bad/sad/awkard when you came down etc)
 
purplefirefly said:
I think this will be better suited for slr, but I'll let this stay here for now. It most likely will be moved though.
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yea i wasn't real sure where to put it all I know is more than likely none of this would have happened if we werent rolling balls..
 
Damn, I have been lurking....following your other thread too. I was thinking.....Man, I want to go to Vegas and drop E. Now today it's like....Damn, I want to have sex with two women at the same time.

Boltfan you are a party god!
 
masterdome said:
Damn, I have been lurking....following your other thread too. I was thinking.....Man, I want to go to Vegas and drop E. Now today it's like....Damn, I want to have sex with two women at the same time.

Boltfan you are a party god!
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lol! Good times!
 
Thalamus Zurc said:
Just keep your pimp hand strong, that's all I can say.
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Thanks for the advice brother! lol... Yea I think the majority of my shitty feelings are due to the fact we rolled pretty hard 2 nights in a row (for my first time mind you) so I am just feeling pretty shitty overall.. The relieving thing is she was flat out spilling her beans and definitely made it clear she has 0 interest in bringing in another guy, that definitely made me feel better bc there is 0 chance of that shit happening. I get pissed thinking about it lmao
 
^^^ Coathanger? What the fuck?

boltfan909, my advice is to have more sex with your wife.

After all, here are the possibilities. This is a very simplistic way to chart this out, but bear with me.

(1) Your wife was rolling with a close female friend and they decided to find out what might happen if they hooked up without any men involved. They had a great time. Your wife decides that sex with her friend is way better than sex with you. The problem that you are now presented with is, how can you make sex with your wife better? That sounds to me like a really fun problem to solve.
(2) Your wife was rolling with a close female friend and they decided to find out what might happen if they hooked up without any men involved. They had a great time. Your wife decides that sex with you will BE better if she invites another woman into your bedroom. You now have an even more fun problem: how do you make sure that sex with your wife AND another woman stays fun, enjoyable, and comfortable for everyone involved?
(3) Your wife was rolling with a close female friend and they decided to find out what might happen if they hooked up without any men involved. They had a great time. Your wife decides that her curiosity has been satisfied and she can go back to just having sex with you. You now have no problems, I guess.

Look, no matter which way you look at this, the only way forward is to HAVE MORE SEX, and maybe figure out new ways of having sex, so that you're having better sex. Having more sex and better sex is the only way to solve whatever problems you might have. You are totally golden, dude. Just relax and enjoy.
 
Pans-Advocate said:
^^^ Coathanger? What the fuck?

boltfan909, my advice is to have more sex with your wife.

After all, here are the possibilities. This is a very simplistic way to chart this out, but bear with me.

(1) Your wife was rolling with a close female friend and they decided to find out what might happen if they hooked up without any men involved. They had a great time. Your wife decides that sex with her friend is way better than sex with you. The problem that you are now presented with is, how can you make sex with your wife better? That sounds to me like a really fun problem to solve.
(2) Your wife was rolling with a close female friend and they decided to find out what might happen if they hooked up without any men involved. They had a great time. Your wife decides that sex with you will BE better if she invites another woman into your bedroom. You now have an even more fun problem: how do you make sure that sex with your wife AND another woman stays fun, enjoyable, and comfortable for everyone involved?
(3) Your wife was rolling with a close female friend and they decided to find out what might happen if they hooked up without any men involved. They had a great time. Your wife decides that her curiosity has been satisfied and she can go back to just having sex with you. You now have no problems, I guess.

Look, no matter which way you look at this, the only way forward is to HAVE MORE SEX, and maybe figure out new ways of having sex, so that you're having better sex. Having more sex and better sex is the only way to solve whatever problems you might have. You are totally golden, dude. Just relax and enjoy.
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Thanks man... In all complete honesty I def think #2 is the case...In fact we went down and gambled more after her little encounter.. I was still feeling pretty good and chatty. When we were standing at the roulette table some hot ass blonde came walking up so I started bs'n with her, kinda giving her pointers and what-not. When she left my Wife asked why i didn't invite her up. Kinda thought she was kidding, but when we got back to the room we fucked like crazed animals as we talked about the blondie... Pretty sure she still is all in on our sex, just seems she likes the puss as well lol
 
firstmoment said:
you might want to give her some good sex. you know, the kind where you make her come a few times and she is ready to pass out before its your turn. i suggest a lot of making out and pleasuring her above the shoulders then slowly working your way down. and then lots of oral before the show actually starts. just to instill in her mind that no one can give her what you can.

even though im not in a relationship with one woman. i do that to them the first time, and for some reason they call me all the time to get it again.
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Amen... Bringing the A game is a must now huh? lol competition has arrived lmao..thanks guys
 
Oh sweety don't for one sec worrie about this!
If she wanted to be with another women she would be! It dosn't mean she is bi either! It just means she Is COMPLETLY confertabul with YOU!!! and her self! If she wants you in on it then belive me! She is doing it for you just as much as for herself! She most truly love you!

And the fact that she came staight to you and told you about it... Yep she wanted your BODY!!!!

I would deff. make it clear tho that that is something you should talk about and do together... Hell at least tell ya FIRST! And let you watch!!! Then you will really beable to see how much she is thinking about you while its happening!!!

XOXOX
 
So amazed said:
Oh sweety don't for one sec worrie about this!
If she wanted to be with another women she would be! It dosn't mean she is bi either! It just means she Is COMPLETLY confertabul with YOU!!! and her self! If she wants you in on it then belive me! She is doing it for you just as much as for herself! She most truly love you!

And the fact that she came staight to you and told you about it... Yep she wanted your BODY!!!!

I would deff. make it clear tho that that is something you should talk about and do together... Hell at least tell ya FIRST! And let you watch!!! Then you will really beable to see how much she is thinking about you while its happening!!!

XOXOX
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:) thank you! Yea, she said she wants to see another women please me but is afraid she may be a little weirded out/hurt after.. I am in no rush, whatever she's cool with, I am cool with (of course, excluding ANY men). Time will tell but thanks for the reassurance! Cheers!
 
boltfan909 said:
:) thank you! Yea, she said she wants to see another women please me but is afraid she may be a little weirded out/hurt after.. I am in no rush, whatever she's cool with, I am cool with (of course, excluding ANY men). Time will tell but thanks for the reassurance! Cheers!
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Ok then if that is what she said , and you want her to be confertabul with everything and have a good experiance then this is what i suggest doing...

Let the other girl please you in everyway! while she is FOCAS on your wifey 110% kiss her and tell her you love her etc... and please her! It will be alot more easy to do when ya'll are in a cunffy enviorment. And have a wonderful time...
If you and the other woman are mainly focased on her or if you are both focased on the other woman YOU will both have a good time...

And ONLY do this everyonce in a while... Keep it special.... JUST LIKE THE X!! every few months makes it better!
Moderation and hydration!
Lucky Man you!!!

XOXOX
 
boltfan909 said:
Thanks for the advice brother! lol... Yea I think the majority of my shitty feelings are due to the fact we rolled pretty hard 2 nights in a row (for my first time mind you) so I am just feeling pretty shitty overall.. The relieving thing is she was flat out spilling her beans and definitely made it clear she has 0 interest in bringing in another guy, that definitely made me feel better bc there is 0 chance of that shit happening. I get pissed thinking about it lmao
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My personal feelings are this. I've been with my gf for five and a half years. We've fucked around with all sorts of people apart and together. At the end of the day, we both know that we love the other very dearly. It only makes sense to trust that if you and your wife love each other, you have nothing to worry about. Think about it -- if she was actually cheating on you, wouldn't she have tried to hide what she did?
 
So amazed said:
Ok then if that is what she said , and you want her to be confertabul with everything and have a good experiance then this is what i suggest doing...

Let the other girl please you in everyway! while she is FOCAS on your wifey 110% kiss her and tell her you love her etc... and please her! It will be alot more easy to do when ya'll are in a cunffy enviorment. And have a wonderful time...
If you and the other woman are mainly focased on her or if you are both focased on the other woman YOU will both have a good time...

And ONLY do this everyonce in a while... Keep it special.... JUST LIKE THE X!! every few months makes it better!
Moderation and hydration!
Lucky Man you!!!

XOXOX
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Thanks again, and AMEN! lol

AylaV said:
My personal feelings are this. I've been with my gf for five and a half years. We've fucked around with all sorts of people apart and together. At the end of the day, we both know that we love the other very dearly. It only makes sense to trust that if you and your wife love each other, you have nothing to worry about. Think about it -- if she was actually cheating on you, wouldn't she have tried to hide what she did?
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I agree man, it was DEFINITELY reassuring that she came down and told me right away. I've told her in the past I wouldn't feel like it was cheating if it was another women because they can offer things I can't. Another guy would def bother me. Anywho we will take it slow and steady and see where it goes. No rush!
 
It all depends on what kind of relationship that you have together. I personally, I do not have any interest in any sort of open relationship at all, I don't like to share. If it was me, I would have felt significantly betrayed. But that's just what I expect from my relationship. Everyone is different and you may expect something completely different from yours.

To me, being in love isn't going behind your partners back and fooling around with anyone else...that's just me though and that is not something I would ever tolerate in a relationship.
 
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