Need some advice dealing with depression stress and expecting a child soon.

[Lucylovesmolly1]

So I need some good advice I feel like I am going crazy. I've been with my girl for about 6 months now and I love her very much but about 3 months ago she became pregnant. When I found out I was very happy and excited I still am but I am really worried about my ability to properly raise a child. Two nights ago I had to travel across Chicago to pick up a quad of bud it was ok decent but when I woke up the next morning somebody stole the weed I bought and replaced it with some really shitty weed I know it sounds crazy and all. Not sure what to do anymore what happened that night happens way to often. I suspect my parents to behind all this bullshit but I know this sounds pretty far fetched. Problem is I feel like I need weed to function in life sometimes. It's really crazy because I can pick up any other drug like LSD, DMT, Molly, ect. Without them feeling like they need to intervene. Which to me doesn't make much sense because as we all know weed is probably the safest drug hands down. I really would like to get out of this city and start life else where but my girlfriend doesn't feel the same which hurts but I obviously understand. Moving to Colorado is a huge commitment but we had talked about this before and she said she was willing. I know I probably sound like the biggest asshole in the world even considering leaving my pregnant girl to move across country. I've personally wasted tens of thousands of dollars in the last 5 years making new connections.

 

[Allein]

Hey, whilst I'm not going to suggest that any drug use is a great thing smoking a bit of weed isnt the end of the world and as long as you arent doing so in the house or in the presence of the child then it shouldn't be a huge issue, would you drink a glass of beer as a parent ??

I had and continue to have doubts about being a parent, I have 2 children 7 and 12. You can only be yourself, love them and make sure they know you do....isn't that all you wanted as a child ?

As a father you may well find the first few months hard, I did and know many men that found the same, it can be hard to build a bond with the baby when they are so dependant on their mother and their reactions and responses to you are not so obvious. Make sure you support your partner as best as you can during that time and take the time to just sit and hold that child, I still treasure memories of singing my special version of twinkle twinkle little star to my children at 2am when they were but a few weeks old.

You intentions are good or you would have posted the above, if you want to give up smoking weed do so, I gave up both tobacco and hash during my partners first pregnancy but I've had other substance issues since, I'm imperfect .... we all are but never forget that to your children you do reach the dizzy heights of perfection, you will be that child's father regardless, have a bit of faith in yourself, love, care and cherish them in any way you can

 

[FEDOR85]

Hey, whilst I'm not going to suggest that any drug use is a great thing smoking a bit of weed isnt the end of the world and as long as you arent doing so in the house or in the presence of the child then it shouldn't be a huge issue, would you drink a glass of beer as a parent ??

I had and continue to have doubts about being a parent, I have 2 children 7 and 12. You can only be the yourself, love them and make sure they know you do....isnt that all you wanted as a child ?

As a father you may well find the first few months hard, I did and know many that found the same, it can be hard to build a bond with the baby when they are so dependant on their mother and their reactions and responses to you are not so obvious. Make sure you support your partner as best as you can during that time and take the time to just sit and hold that child, I still treasure memories of singing my special version of twinkle twinkle little star to my children at 2am when they were but a few weeks old.

You intentions are good or you would have posted the above, if you want to give up smoking weed do so, I gave up both tobacco and hash during my partners first pregnancy but I've had other substance issues since, I'm imperfect .... we all are but never forget that to your children you do reach the dizzy heights of perfection, you will be that child's father regardless, have a bit of faith in yourself, love, care and cherish them in any way you can

Amen, great advice for future or current parents. Less of the worry, you can only do your best folks. Easier said than done I know...