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Need help with my Mother

I think weed is one of the most subjective drugs out there, some people function fine on it and it never interferes with their life. Others it totally messes with them in ways they don't even notice until years later. It's hard to know at your age which category you'll fall into.

If you're determined to keep smoking and she's not going to change her mind you need to figure out a way to not get caught. That's what I always did until my parents just accepted I was a pot head.

I smoked pot daily for fifteen years and don't have any regrets, but there was a price to pay, it set off my love for addictive psychoactive chemicals. Rules, even the ones you make for your self (especially the ones you make for yourself) are made to be broken. Be careful, just don't base your life around weed, that gets pathetic real quick. I love weed, if it didn't give me a panic attack almost every time I used it I would still smoke it often.
 
I agree with pretty much all of the previous posters on most of their input. But I really don't think anything is going to convince your mother to view weed in a positive way. People have opinions, especially about drugs, and they are not going to change. That doesn't make her naive or dumb, just opinionated. And especially with your sister's antics, it has just reinforced her thinking on the drug.

I would keep your usage a secret and try to use it without her knowing. My mother was the same way when I used to smoke everyday. I can't even count how many pipes she's confiscated, and a crusher/keefer as well. Hundreds worth of stuff, really. I tried to give her material to read that was weed-positive, but it was fruitless.

I smoked weed since I was 14, and for a few years it was everyday. And I managed to do it without my mother's knowledge. She had her suspicions, but no proof to go on. 11 years later I no longer smoke weed, except for the very occasional hit, but I do have a great fondness for opiates instead. Not sure it was really a 'gateway', I think it was more the friends I had were doing them, they were available and I always seek out new experiences.

So, just keep it under wraps, that's all. And if it does start to interfere with your life, cut down a bit. That's the one thing I regret not doing when I should have. But I don't regret starting using it and the many wonderful experiences I had with it (that I can remember, at any rate!).
 
For fucks sake , be a man show some fucking repsect to the woman that gave birth to you
and stop bitching about her on here, she is only worried about you, dont complain to her about how its legal here or decriminalyzed there....when you become a parent you´ll understand what worrying for your child means!! if you wanna smoke then smoke but dont make a case for doing it to her, do it in your own leisure time give her some respect man!!
 
narky1 said:
For fucks sake , be a man show some fucking repsect to the woman that gave birth to you
and stop bitching about her on here, she is only worried about you, dont complain to her about how its legal here or decriminalyzed there....when you become a parent you´ll understand what worrying for your child means!! if you wanna smoke then smoke but dont make a case for doing it to her, do it in your own leisure time give her some respect man!!
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I must say, I completely agree with this. And I'm not even a parent yet. But I can imagine a parent's concern about their child getting in to drugs, so I can understand the OP's mother's perspective.
 
there are some people who will always be set in their ways, and there is not much you can do about it. if some epic discovery came out that disproved Jesus, I guarantee you most people who believe in him would still firmly believe. Cant you just not do it around your mom? She doesn't need to know everything you do. I think weed is great but I know that there will always be people that have a stigma against it, no matter how many studies and facts you throw at them.

My boyfriends mom absolutely hates weed and gets really mad if she finds out that he's smoking it. She thinks there is nothing good about it, and she is a successful CEO of an engineering firm.
My boyfriends dad likes to smoke weed himself time to time to relax, and doesn't care if my boyfriend does it. His dad is a successful architect. Two people, both smart and successful, that have totally different views. (they are divorced btw)

Part of the reason my boyfriends mom hates him smoking weed is because my boyfriend got arrested and had to go to rehab before for harder drugs, and she thinks weed will eventually lead him to those drugs again. Moms only get worried and angry because they care and love you. So in this situation, instead of bringing up some study you heard about how weed is not a gateway drug, just be happy that your mom cares for you, and keep your habit on the DL
 
burntserkits said:
Perhaps you should present her with some quality info on weed as well as statistics and scientific info so that she may better understand it. Many parents place weed in the same categories of harder and harsher drugs because they don't fully understand this wonderful plant. But when it's all said and done, what's more important....family or drugs? You gotta view things from her perspective if you want her to do the same for you... :\
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There's no guarantee that if you're understanding and empathetic to your parents views that they will be understanding or empathetic to your side. I have major issues with my mother, and explain some of the things she does really lends to my anxiety and depression, and in the end I can only realize that the only person I can change is myself and thinking I can make other people change is naive. Because even though she's had a major part in two of my suicide attempts, she refuses to change the way she acts for my benefit, so what I have to do is realize I can't change her and all I can do is try to use my coping skills so that I don't catastrophize things and act on impulse. I'm not a religious person, but the serenity prayer is actually very useful.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
 
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