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Posted a similar post in SLR but I've edited it enough that I hope this'll be okay 
(also: hi EADD! Hope you're all doing well here!
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[warning: very long post but worth reading if only for pure entertainment]
Soooo as anyone who's been around here long enough knows, I've been engaged to mrcientist for over a year now and we're getting married this July
So there's another EADD meetup success story
We couldn't be happier. But there's a rather erm, hefty issue in the (lucky for me) form of my fiancé's family.
You'd fall asleep before I'd even explained half of it but here's the gist:
My fiancé's younger sister, who's around my age, is putting her best efforts in (which, considering how pathetic and stupid she is, aren't doing much) to break us up. She actually sent me a text saying she 'couldn't wait until mrcientist realised how much of a fucked up psycho I was and dumped me'.
That was said after I opened up my biggest secret and shame to my fiancé's family - having been kidnapped and gang raped a few years ago. Her reaction? Tell me I was pathetic, that she'd been through 'way worse' (I asked her if she'd ever been raped and she said no) and that the way I'd dealt with it was stupid and disrespectful to others (?!). After that, trying to rise above the situation, I let it go for the sake of the family dynamic.
So before reading this next bit, just keep in mind that I let incredibly offensive, fucked up and traumatic comments about my rape go. (Oh also, she contacted some of my friends that she didn't know and tried to convince them that I was exaggerating the whole thing as a cry for attention).
Fast forward a couple weeks to one lovely evening where she - having no mental illness aside for vague anxiety disoder [I'm not belittling anxiety disorders by any means, having a pretty bad one myself] suddenly decided that her boyfriend wasn't giving her the attention she 'deserved', knocked him down to the floor, kicked him in the balls for quite a while, punched him, slapped him, etc. Oh, and all this before insulting her autistic bother as well as my fiancé for being a 'drug addict' (note: about 6 months clean at that time). 2 minutes later she was crying for my fiancé to come and see her because he was the only one who 'understood her' - despite being a scummy drug addict, you know
Couple weeks later, they were back together (think you're getting a gist of how fucked up they both are by now) and I sent her boyfriend a message telling him that having been in an abusive relationship myself, I know how hard it is to get out but now that it'd become physically abusive as well he just needed to run as far away as he could from her. About 30 seconds later I get a message from my fiancé's sister (we'll call her cuntface) hurling abuse at me, and telling me to keep my nose out of their business.
Now, I'm pretty sure you'll all agree: physical assault or abuse is EVERYONE's business, regardless of the sex of the victim. Would you walk by a grl getting beaten up in the street by a guy? Didn't think so. It's everyone's business.
So then cuntface spent a whole day sending me the most insulting texts she could think of - until I finally told her that in the end, I'd just gotten a really easy offer for an MA at UCL the day she got into a polytechnic. I know how braggy that was but no one insults my fiancé like that and gets away with it.
After that we didn't speak for weeks, silent treatment etc. Until tonight:her boyfriend (we'll call him 'dickhead pretending to have a brain') sent me (through two different people cuz he didn't have the balls to say it to my face) a long message which was a mishmash of insults and nonsense - which is quite funny because he said I couldn't spell when the only texts I've ever sent him have been quite benzoed
Last night, my fiancé really bravely poured his heart out to his sister and told her how much it hurt him how she'd been treating both him and me (considering he's been an INCREDIBLE brother to her her whole life) and her reply ignored all of that completely and just focused on insulting me.
I might also add that she's not coming to our wedding. Personally I don't give a fuck if she doesn't want to be there for me, but what kind of dickhead doesn't go to her brother's wedding just because she doesn't get along with his bride, even though may I add, I've apologised profusely to her, even about things that I shouldn't have been apologising for just to get her to go to her brother's wedding.
And now tonight, she finally agreed for the four of us to talk on the phone. Naively I actually thought this would go well...yeah. She kept saying that my interference about the abuse in their relationship (WHICH I APOLOGISED FOR) was sooo much worse than her deriding my gang rape (WHICH SHE ABSOLUTELY DID NOT APOLOGISE FOR)
Both my fiancé and I have spoken to his dad since and because he's not a complete retard, things are okay with him. Not so sure about his mother though. All in all, a lovely day!
If any of you guys have any kind of advice on how to deal with this situation we'd be so grateful - please just don't say 'ignore it' or 'get over it' because it is a bit more serious and complex than that.
Let me just add, by the way, that his parents are, instead of helping their son out financially once in a while, expecting me, a 20 year old student, to dip into my savings instead even though they've got a fuckload of money in their own savings.
So yeah. Act like they don't exist? Find sneaky plans to get back at them little by little? Have me punch cuntface's boyfriend in the face (since apparently it's cool for a girl to beat up a guy...![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
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Cheers guys. Hope you're all doing well 
Pagey & mrcientist
(also: hi EADD! Hope you're all doing well here!
)[warning: very long post but worth reading if only for pure entertainment]
Soooo as anyone who's been around here long enough knows, I've been engaged to mrcientist for over a year now and we're getting married this July
So there's another EADD meetup success story
We couldn't be happier. But there's a rather erm, hefty issue in the (lucky for me) form of my fiancé's family.
You'd fall asleep before I'd even explained half of it but here's the gist:
My fiancé's younger sister, who's around my age, is putting her best efforts in (which, considering how pathetic and stupid she is, aren't doing much) to break us up. She actually sent me a text saying she 'couldn't wait until mrcientist realised how much of a fucked up psycho I was and dumped me'.
That was said after I opened up my biggest secret and shame to my fiancé's family - having been kidnapped and gang raped a few years ago. Her reaction? Tell me I was pathetic, that she'd been through 'way worse' (I asked her if she'd ever been raped and she said no) and that the way I'd dealt with it was stupid and disrespectful to others (?!). After that, trying to rise above the situation, I let it go for the sake of the family dynamic.
So before reading this next bit, just keep in mind that I let incredibly offensive, fucked up and traumatic comments about my rape go. (Oh also, she contacted some of my friends that she didn't know and tried to convince them that I was exaggerating the whole thing as a cry for attention).
Fast forward a couple weeks to one lovely evening where she - having no mental illness aside for vague anxiety disoder [I'm not belittling anxiety disorders by any means, having a pretty bad one myself] suddenly decided that her boyfriend wasn't giving her the attention she 'deserved', knocked him down to the floor, kicked him in the balls for quite a while, punched him, slapped him, etc. Oh, and all this before insulting her autistic bother as well as my fiancé for being a 'drug addict' (note: about 6 months clean at that time). 2 minutes later she was crying for my fiancé to come and see her because he was the only one who 'understood her' - despite being a scummy drug addict, you know
Couple weeks later, they were back together (think you're getting a gist of how fucked up they both are by now) and I sent her boyfriend a message telling him that having been in an abusive relationship myself, I know how hard it is to get out but now that it'd become physically abusive as well he just needed to run as far away as he could from her. About 30 seconds later I get a message from my fiancé's sister (we'll call her cuntface) hurling abuse at me, and telling me to keep my nose out of their business.
Now, I'm pretty sure you'll all agree: physical assault or abuse is EVERYONE's business, regardless of the sex of the victim. Would you walk by a grl getting beaten up in the street by a guy? Didn't think so. It's everyone's business.
So then cuntface spent a whole day sending me the most insulting texts she could think of - until I finally told her that in the end, I'd just gotten a really easy offer for an MA at UCL the day she got into a polytechnic. I know how braggy that was but no one insults my fiancé like that and gets away with it.
After that we didn't speak for weeks, silent treatment etc. Until tonight:her boyfriend (we'll call him 'dickhead pretending to have a brain') sent me (through two different people cuz he didn't have the balls to say it to my face) a long message which was a mishmash of insults and nonsense - which is quite funny because he said I couldn't spell when the only texts I've ever sent him have been quite benzoed
Last night, my fiancé really bravely poured his heart out to his sister and told her how much it hurt him how she'd been treating both him and me (considering he's been an INCREDIBLE brother to her her whole life) and her reply ignored all of that completely and just focused on insulting me.
I might also add that she's not coming to our wedding. Personally I don't give a fuck if she doesn't want to be there for me, but what kind of dickhead doesn't go to her brother's wedding just because she doesn't get along with his bride, even though may I add, I've apologised profusely to her, even about things that I shouldn't have been apologising for just to get her to go to her brother's wedding.
And now tonight, she finally agreed for the four of us to talk on the phone. Naively I actually thought this would go well...yeah. She kept saying that my interference about the abuse in their relationship (WHICH I APOLOGISED FOR) was sooo much worse than her deriding my gang rape (WHICH SHE ABSOLUTELY DID NOT APOLOGISE FOR)
Both my fiancé and I have spoken to his dad since and because he's not a complete retard, things are okay with him. Not so sure about his mother though. All in all, a lovely day!
If any of you guys have any kind of advice on how to deal with this situation we'd be so grateful - please just don't say 'ignore it' or 'get over it' because it is a bit more serious and complex than that.
Let me just add, by the way, that his parents are, instead of helping their son out financially once in a while, expecting me, a 20 year old student, to dip into my savings instead even though they've got a fuckload of money in their own savings.
So yeah. Act like they don't exist? Find sneaky plans to get back at them little by little? Have me punch cuntface's boyfriend in the face (since apparently it's cool for a girl to beat up a guy...
)Cheers guys. Hope you're all doing well
Pagey & mrcientist
