My partner and I have been together for about 9 months. Most of that time has been pretty good; we've had fun together, laughed a lot, and both love our beloved dogger.
Lately though, he has become withdrawn, sullen, and frankly, IMO, depressed. Admittedly he is under a lot of pressure, as his mom just dropped a bomb on him, and now he's taken it upon himself to support his whole worthless family. Our bills have DOUBLED b/c of THEIR poor financial mismanagement, and when I push him to refuse (bc people ought to take responsibility for their own actions!), he admonishes me by lauding his mother for her "saintliness."
Family pressure has him so stressed out that he's retreated to sleeping 12-16 hours a day, and feeling sorry for himself the rest. I try to help him as best I can, but he's in honesty become an energy-sucker!
I personally am pretty happy with myself and my life otherwise, but that is bc I CHOOSE to be proactive about my physical and mental well-being! I sleep 8 hrs AT NIGHT, eat healthy, exercise, take supplements and prescribed medications, and see my psychiatrist regularly.
My partner basically refuses to do any of the above. We joined a gym, but he usually refuses to go with me, he only eats IF I MAKE HIM FOOD, and denies being depressed at all! He won't see a mental health professional bc he's "anti-pharmies" and also claims he can't afford it (bs)...
I'm sort of at the end of my rope here. I'm tired of having my positive energy drained, tired of his victimizing behavior, and sometimes I just want to smack some sense into him.
If anyone has been in a similar situation, please tell me what you did or would do. And please don't simply say, "break up with him." He was there for me last winter when I was seriously depressed, so I at least owe him the same.
Lately though, he has become withdrawn, sullen, and frankly, IMO, depressed. Admittedly he is under a lot of pressure, as his mom just dropped a bomb on him, and now he's taken it upon himself to support his whole worthless family. Our bills have DOUBLED b/c of THEIR poor financial mismanagement, and when I push him to refuse (bc people ought to take responsibility for their own actions!), he admonishes me by lauding his mother for her "saintliness."
Family pressure has him so stressed out that he's retreated to sleeping 12-16 hours a day, and feeling sorry for himself the rest. I try to help him as best I can, but he's in honesty become an energy-sucker!
I personally am pretty happy with myself and my life otherwise, but that is bc I CHOOSE to be proactive about my physical and mental well-being! I sleep 8 hrs AT NIGHT, eat healthy, exercise, take supplements and prescribed medications, and see my psychiatrist regularly.
My partner basically refuses to do any of the above. We joined a gym, but he usually refuses to go with me, he only eats IF I MAKE HIM FOOD, and denies being depressed at all! He won't see a mental health professional bc he's "anti-pharmies" and also claims he can't afford it (bs)...
I'm sort of at the end of my rope here. I'm tired of having my positive energy drained, tired of his victimizing behavior, and sometimes I just want to smack some sense into him.
If anyone has been in a similar situation, please tell me what you did or would do. And please don't simply say, "break up with him." He was there for me last winter when I was seriously depressed, so I at least owe him the same.
