Need a little advice ...

[PeacePipeChief]

So Ive recently moved from Sydney to the NSW/QLD border .
In Sydney I had many extremely close friends , family sort of thing between around 20 people , literally like a family to eachother . We all take drugs togeather , spend our lives togeather , and help eachother through absolutely everything .
After a roller coaster life in drugs over the past few years , I finally escaped it and have moved up here with my brother and his fiancé .
The problem here is that in Sydney , it is likely I will continue to use drugs on weekends and smoke weed and drink on weekdays (not chronically) and the chance of me getting a job is 50/50 . But up here , I will move progress in life , to say , having a full time job eventually , and not using drugs until I find weed and drinking a fair bit , plus codeine not that regularly . However my girlfriend and his fiancé constantly have immature arguments and get out of hand so easily and are so childish about it . Plus my brother is quite difficult to live with , and if he also drinks , almost unbearable . He doesn't drink often but I'm pretty sure hell drink around 3 times a week with the amount I will .

Any advice would be greatly appreciated .
PeacePipeChief

 

[herbavore]

Congratulations on taking steps to turn your life around! It sounds like you are going to have to really be flexible and roll with the punches while you wait for things to fall into place (your own home, new friends, job, etc.) It takes time to build a group of friends but in the meantime is there any way that you and your girlfriend could spend time together at her place rather than yours to cut down on the friction between she and your brother's fiance? Did you move to Sydney with your girlfriend or is that a new relationship?

Also, is your brother aware that his drinking is making things hard for you? Would he be willing to moderate his around you as a way to support your own efforts at changing?

 

[PeacePipeChief]

I don't have a girlfriend , it's just me him and his fiancé in an apartment in qld , it was his first time being drunk around me last night and I kno he won't change for anyone :/ plus he's a hassle to live with . I came up with a solution though , I'm going to trial living here with income until I have an answer (I have no income ATM)
Thanks for your feedback , greatly appreciated .

 

[DexterMeth]

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[DexterMeth]

So Ive recently moved from Sydney to the NSW/QLD border .
In Sydney I had many extremely close friends , family sort of thing between around 20 people , literally like a family to eachother . We all take drugs togeather , spend our lives togeather , and help eachother through absolutely everything .
After a roller coaster life in drugs over the past few years , I finally escaped it and have moved up here with my brother and his fiancé .
The problem here is that in Sydney , it is likely I will continue to use drugs on weekends and smoke weed and drink on weekdays (not chronically) and the chance of me getting a job is 50/50 . But up here , I will move progress in life , to say , having a full time job eventually , and not using drugs until I find weed and drinking a fair bit , plus codeine not that regularly . However my girlfriend and his fiancé constantly have immature arguments and get out of hand so easily and are so childish about it . Plus my brother is quite difficult to live with , and if he also drinks , almost unbearable . He doesn't drink often but I'm pretty sure hell drink around 3 times a week with the amount I will .

Any advice would be greatly appreciated .
PeacePipeChief

I'm confused.

That aside, tell each of them how they are really getting to you, without saying it in an offending way or angry way. Let them know you aren't trying to offend them, that you don't hate them or dislike them and that they're driving you to a further downward spiral, or something to that degree.

Keep in mind, you are just as much a part of the problem as them.

Alcohol and cannabis are drugs too btw, and alcohol is the worse drug there is period.

 

[Vaya]

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