My sexless mairage.

[Brittyluff]

First and fore most my husband is the coolest fucking guy ever. We have been together two years. The first year was full of amazing sex. The second I was pregnant . I had no lobido what so ever while pregnant. Our baby is six months old now. Still not much sex. We never see each other cause I work 6am-1pm he wrks1pm-9pm. By the time he gets off work I just wanna go to bed. How can we get back to normal?

 

[drancer]

First and foremost delete his porn stash, that's half the problem solved.

 

[BlueSaffron]

you have to figure out a way to make time for eachother. if you're tired at night when he gets home, have a cup of coffee or three. or stay up and have sex with him anyway, even if you ARE tired. he should do the same for you. You just need to make an effort. hire a babysitter once in a while, for a few hours at least, and spend those two hours together in bed.

how can you fix you guys not having sex? have sex.

 

[llama112]

Do you both work EVERY day at that time? Even weekends? If so, that's a LOT of work... I think you both need some time off work.

My boyfriend and I both work a lot. Like, 10-12 hour days are normal for us. By the time I get home, I have about an hour before I go to bed. We never have sex during the week but we have sex every weekend. We make time for it. We usually hang out one evening on the weekend, just chill, and we have sex.

 

[purplefirefly]

You need to make time for yourselves. You need a hot date night, weekly if possible, but at least every couple of weeks. One day your child is going to be grown and on their own so your live for one another is equally as important if you want to be with one another for the long term. You need something else, besides your child, to keep you together.

It's extremely difficult and there never seems to be enough hours in the day but if it's something you both want then you will find a way to make it work. It gets tricky when people get complacent or take one another for granted. You gotta find the spark and bring it back and never stop talking to one another.

 

[pofacedhoe]

you need to make special date nights/arrange a time when everything else goes out the window and put the sex back into things. this requires a talk between you two because the pregnancy interrupted your old pattern so you must make a new one

 

[iLoveYouWithaKnife]

I agree with planning nights and times for yourselves and etc. but also- I say just go for it. You get off work first, so that gives you time to do what you have to (chore-wise, errands, etc). You know his routine at night when he gets home- whether it be he sits down to eat, or takes a shower, or reads the paper- let him still have that little bit of time to unwind- and the I say just go for it.

I know you said that by the time he gets home from work you just want to go to bed, and I get that because you have work at 6am- but you don't need to be getting it on for 4 hours.... just give him a little bit of time- I even bet that you sleep better and wake happier