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My poor boyfriend

phoenixrain88

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I have been reflecting on how I tend to take my feelings out on my boyfriend--abusing his willingness to put up with an endless stream of attention-sucking demonstrations of misery! He has been there beside me throughout my withdrawal and growing pains.

What gift can I give or gesture should I perform, in keeping with the holidays, to try to make up for it? Or at least to show that I recognize what he does and appreciate it beyond measure, even when I lose sight of that appreciation from moment to moment (and sometimes day to day ...)
 
How about you tell him to sit down for the day and you will do everything you can for him.
Cook him a nice meal, pour him a beer and just explain to him how you know that you've been a pain in the arse to live with, but that you are so thankful that he is still there for you and how in the new year you intend to treat him better and take time to enjoy walks etc together.
 
^^ Agreed.

phoenixrain, tell him with WORDS how much you love and appreciate him, and tell him that you're grateful for everything he's done for you, despite the difficult times you've had. That will mean more than any present ever could :)
It would also be a lovely gesture to get him a really nice/meaningful gift or to do something really special for him <3
 
OP ive been experiencing the exact same thing with my g/f and can relate to how it can make you feel shitty they put up with everything, they must really love us!! You basicly made this thread for my exact situation...small world:\
I'm glad this was brought up today and im gonna be takin maxalife & n3o's advice on this occasion. I think deep down they know (our partners) we cant help how we are, but they still there, And we should make them aware of just how much that means to us as much as possible.
Wishing you all the best of luck<3
 
Once my previous girl realized I can put up with some shit, she started abusing that trait. "Abusing his willingness to put up with an endless stream of attention-sucking demonstrations of misery" seems pretty spot on. I warned her when we first started dating, that I'm a nice guy, and can put up with a bit of BS, but I avoid confrontation when I can't handle it anymore, and I would have to leave her; it came down to that.

So, appreciate him while you still have him! Or else he might just find someone else who will. ;)
 
Yup show em how much by telling him. Showing him I guess lol
Then give him a blowjob!! Thats what I want for xmas!! Lol
 
There is no better feeling in the world than a partner pouring you a beer and telling you how much you're appreciated :)
 
I'll third the blowjob suggestion for sure. I'm a guy, and honestly its this easy. Suck his dick two or three times more often than you do now and make him a sandwich every now and then.

Us guys aren't complicated creatures. If you want him to feel appreciated this is all you need to do. There aren't many things that I can think of as pleasurable as an unexpected blowjob.

Tell him to have a seat and lay back, walk in front of him, unzip, get on your knees, then blow him to Kingdom Cum.
 
I personally don't see how anything sexual can make up for this (this has nothing to do with sex, and sex doesn't make up for the mental effort needed to deal with these issues in a real relationship imo). Just show you care, and are making strides to change/work through your problems. Hes willing to put up with you because he cares and sees the beauty in you, so if you prove him right to being a beautiful person on the inside, then everything will be fine.
Agree.
 
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