MY heads fucked

[jungo87]

I'm 23 m living in uk and ismoke weed everyday, take valium most nights, drink every day take the odd DHC to escape for a couple of hours. Even my own shit med like seroquel and mirtazapine i'll take it. I've got loadsa of diff pharms, thing is my mood is going down everyday, i'm lonely since i split with my ex.. i've had one night stands but i'm after a r/ship and it hurts so much not to have the love of a women

 

[burn out]

if you stop abusing drugs and give it time, you will find a relationship.

 

[jungo87]

if you stop abusing drugs and give it time, you will find a relationship.

I wish i'm just not confident enough,i'm nearly finished my 2nd bottle of wine, took 25mg valium in total oh and a blue so that makes it 35mg. i also took a DHC 30mg tab. I'm going to roll a joint then pass out wake up at god knows when see this post and realise what a fucking embarresment i am withis post

 

[ColtDan]

[I know what you're saying but please be a little bit more sensitive - n3o] stop abusing drugs

 

[n3ophy7e]

I'm 23 m living in uk and ismoke weed everyday, take valium most nights, drink every day take the odd DHC to escape for a couple of hours. Even my own shit med like seroquel and mirtazapine i'll take it. I've got loadsa of diff pharms, thing is my mood is going down everyday, i'm lonely since i split with my ex.. i've had one night stands but i'm after a r/ship and it hurts so much not to have the love of a women

Hey jungo, firsly I'm sorry to hear you're in such a bad place at the moment, I hope you can find happiness soon mate
You're relying too heavily on drugs to give you solace/relief from your emotional pain. This is a dead-end, because you will only keep climbing deeper and deeper in to addiction without actually solving any of your problems. Have you ever spoken to a counsellor about what you're going through? I think this will really help you. Even just the act of verbalising your thoughts can help to sort things out in your head.
The drugs you're using/abusing are only making you feel worse in the end, if you can try and work through your emotions/thoughts without needing drugs to numb yourself, you will get through this rough patch faster.

 

[K-Dazed]

N3o always has it right. Try and quit the drugs mate, and slowly everything will fall into place. Get out and be social, try and make new friends. Do other hobbies, go to the mall or the gym or something. Finds ways to cope and be happy without drugs, and slowly everything will fall into place.

 

[Unbreakable]

seems like you are co-dependent to women/relationship.... It sucks i know....Every since i lost my virginity i had a girlfriend until i took a break from relationships for about one year to get my head straight....It might be a good thing for you to try.... plus when your not seeking the relationship one will find itself in front of you.... You just have to get out the house and try to positive girls don't want some dude that is all down.... Keep your head high and swallow some of those benzo's and just mellow out and live your life.....

 

[Jabberwocky]

this is like an amped up version of me. i'm fairly sure i do this to mask boredom and loneliness, but in the end this substance abuse just makes it easier for me to continue being bored and lonely, because i have something that makes that state just about bearable. i'm guessing your self confidence has also just taken a massive beating, so doing anything to change the situation very difficult to you.

unfortunately i don't have any answers or advice for you, just wanted to say i feel your pain!

incidentally, i'm going to be forced to quit this shit soon as i'm staying with my boss for a fortnight on a work trip, and am hoping i don't just start again when i get back. if you have any similar opportunities, take them!! even though i'm dreading not having my shit i'm really looking forward to kicking it, at least for a few weeks.

 

[Legerity]

Hey I hope you're able to find the companionship you want. Feeling lonely and wanting companionship isn't necessarily "co-dependence", it is very human to want to be with other people. I also think it is important to be able to be content on our own, because a lot of time we have to spend by ourselves.

But you don't need to destroy yourself because of it. If you can give yourself a chance to grieve your breakup you can move on and find somebody else to share your life with. It's not worth destroying your life over...