My girlfriend's psycho ex boyfriend.

[MarvelRains]

I recently met an amazing woman who has swept me of my feet. She is very attractive, well spoken and gets along with all my friends and family and I get along with her friends and family to and better yet she tells me she likes me "Perfect"...

one problem she has a Psych ex-boyfriend (AKA Psycho). actually they were engaged but have been separated for about 6 months now. She tells me that he use to beat her and abuse her verbally and do the crazy boyfriend thing almost every time they went out.

So everything seamed to be going perfectly between us until just last week he sent her a text message that he was in hospital because he tried to commit suicide (classic case of seeking attention). This was the first contact he had tried to make with her in a few months and just 3 days ago (June 18th) she receives a call from Psycho's mother telling her that on Saturday night he beat the shit out of his own father.

"thanks for calling Psychos mother"

Now she is so scared for her self and for me that he will come kill her or me. I don't think he know about me, lucky for me. but she seams to think he is capable of murder and now she will not let me come over to here house and she is to scared to leave her house. she is trying to protect me but this will ruin our relation ship.

she will not change her phone number. she thinks a restraining order will not keep him a way so she wont get one. though I'm sure it would. and she is so scared to leave here house but she wont even entertain the idea of moving to another house.

whats should I do? any suggestions.

 

[Tommyboy]

She should really get this documented with a restraining order. I think that carrying some pepper spray wouldn't be too extreme, just check the legality of it in your area.

 

[Floating Zebra]

Tell her to stay with you at your place for a while, since he doesn't know you, he wouldn't know where you live or how to find her. Dodge this man completely. Get her a new number, if you'd like. That's all I can think of. Take care.

 

[Wellwellwell]

Keep in mind she could be lying exaggerating. Especially if she is a druggie chick and I think based off of the fact that you post on blue light there is a chance of that.

I have met many woman over the years that have given me ridiculous sob stories that turned out to be lies.

Be careful man

 

[Swift Serenity]

Keep in mind she could be lying exaggerating. Especially if she is a druggie chick and I think based off of the fact that you post on blue light there is a chance of that.

I have met many woman over the years that have given me ridiculous sob stories that turned out to be lies.

Be careful man

fosho

 

[amapola]

I'm going to send this over to SLR for you OP as it won't get as much attention just sitting in Homeless. If the mods there think is a little too off topic then they can try SO or somewhere else.

HT >>> SLR

 

[hyroller]

Sounds like there is more to the story if she is not willing to act logically to protect herself from him i.e. changing phone numbers... tis an odd one... did you ever convince her to get a restraining order against him? as others have suggested, it would be the only measure that could ensure everyone's safety to the highest possible degree...

 

[xeros]

call the cops, tell them what an evil bastard he is.

 

[alasdairm]

she thinks a restraining order will not keep him a way so she wont get one. though I'm sure it would.

i tend to agree with her. a restraining order likely won't - in and of itself - keep him away. it will, however, give you recourse if he decides to come visiting.

cases like this are tough - he hasn't threatened you or done anything physical towards you so you're in a tough spot. i would push your gf for the restraining order just in case. further, i'd be alert and vigilant and take common sense steps to not expose yourself without becoming a prisoner to the issue.

alasdair

 

[LilbabiC]

she will not change her phone number. she thinks a restraining order will not keep him a way so she wont get one. though I'm sure it would. and she is so scared to leave here house but she wont even entertain the idea of moving to another house.

IMO - If she were truly scared for her own life she would change her phone number and move. Maybe she is the one looking for a little attention and exaggerating the situation.

 

[Sexfiend]

I don't think she's being straight with you.

Based on her not allowing you to come around to her house because she is scared.
But also too scared to leave the house.

Sounds like she's sidelining or maybe keeping you as a backup, while she try's to get back with her ex, or even maybe her ex is used as an excuse while she is messing around with someone else.

If she says she can't be with you anywhere, then she's lying, at the very least she's not that motivated to see you and at the worst, she getting with someone else.

 

[8L4YN3]

I think this girl is bullshitting, like hyroller said definitely more to the story than you are being told. Sorry to hear all this man, i know just how much relationship bullshit stresses and upsets man. Hope it works out for the best mate. But it really is painfully obvious she is still involved with other dude and keeping you as some sort of back up or something along those lines. If i were you i'd just cut my loses and find a new girl mate.

 

[D-ported]

I've never met an awesome chick who has a psycho ex that she isnt playing games with. What do you think makes ten go
Crazy?! I was dating a nurse practioner for several Months and she told me about her ex she was engaged to but he was 15 years her senior, a black anesthesiologist, and didn't want any more children. I met her family, she stayed at my place 4-5 nights a week, I stayed at her apartment she shared with another NP. Nothing unusual... Until she flipped out on me one night because I did not want to have sex with her after she accused me
Of "just fucking her." I didn't give the emotional response she desired and made her leave. She slammed my door twice before falling down the stairs after stealing a martini glass and driving away DUI. The next night I went out with a friend and my cousin and around 3:30 am from her phone a message from
Her fiancé asking about us. He kept callings For Three months wanting to know everything. He was psycho because of her! I'm Sure he's a great guy just not her type and she is a stupid slut pretending
To be what guys want because she is so racked in her skull.

I suggest watch your back and don't get emotionally involved.