My GF is gonna end me!!!!! Help

Let me start by saying I am in no means a perfect man! I love my girlfriend but I'm afraid I'm falling out of love with her.She and I both use and I from time to time make ends meet through various ways that include substance of choice. None the less she steals from me when able! She also lies about it and when I'm out she is the first one on the phone trying to get str8 from competition!!!!

She's hot, and doesn't cheat, cooks, cleans, and though she doesn't want too even works a real job. She started as my friend so i care for her deeply but I dont think I can do this anymore. I'm trying desperately to stop and out chaotic relationship isn't helping.

Oh and not to mention I'm also very passive with her and I think she is taking advantage. She has anxiety attacks whenever we argue, or I'm left mad over something she has said or done. Either way she blows me and we put a pin in it for the day. But the days that follow are always the same arguing and threats and then make sex.

Its a brutal cycle and the sex ain't this damn good. BL help should I bouce, to the left that as*, i have other options. Way cleaner, happier, healthier girls.

 

it sounds like she is using you for free drugs. but that is only based on what you have typed here.

are there things you like about your girlfriend? like her personality? you can easily find someone else who will cook and clean.

 

man, sorry but it sounds like just a shitty relationship for both of you.
sounds like you both are holding it together on strictly superficial and shallow things.
I dunno, if you are questioning it, maybe you already know your answer?

 

If she's stealing, she's not even your friend. Friends do not do that shit, period. I would tell her it's time to go, but that's going to be hard if she's not working and/or has no money. This IS a sticky situation. Does she have anywhere to go? Since you've both got the same DOC in common, are you going to be able to stay away from her? What if you run out and she can hook you up and you all end up screwing around?

Animal Cookie is right... Cooking and cleaning are minor. If the woman steals from you and the sex is bad, I'd get the hell out of that relationship. My ex-boyfriend is going through a similar situation, but he cannot get rid of the girl. She cooks and cleans, too... but they haven't had sex in over a year. He's even offered to set her up in an apartment. She cries and promises to change and blah blah blah, but within a week she back to her old patterns of being a bitch who takes WAY too many roxicets.

Man.... women like that give us women with jobs who clean house, cook and give great blow jobs a bad name! ;-)

 

Sometimes the stealing isn't something that came from her original purposes on earth. I am in the same situ, but I married her. ;D

So lets turn to HST and his immortal words "Never turn your back on a drug"

The meaning of this is open to inturpritation, but I always came away thinking that more than most people have absolutely no control when it comes to knowing where the line is in a communal drug relationship. Even if you have an expressed amount that one can do more than the other, if the person is out of control (their own control over looming addiction) they just need help.

Not therapy, conversation or anything like that. Just hide it, and hide it good!

It can be out of sight / out of mind for almost all cases where true love exists. Hiding the stash will show you sooner than later where her priorities lie.

 

Thanx guys for the comments!!! This situation has been literally eating away at me. I havent even been online in a while trying to figure out what Im goin to do. She does work now but she quit her full-time job for a shitty part time job!!!

Telling me she's tired of me threatening to leave her if she doesn't do what she says. Im so over it but we have alot invested and I dont wanna leave her without anyone. She isnt even from this state and the friends she did have were losers or fuk buddies.

I think I just realized, I sound like Capt. Sav-A-Hoe.

You guys definitely gave me perspective on the situation, its time for me to throw the dueces.

 

This is my opinion...... U both r addicts! I know i am too.... as far as her getting from another person that is not personal she is an ADDICT!!! u should get clean rather through a program of some kind and just be in a relationship with ur self as long as it takes to understand what being in a healthy relationship means!!! I know u might have to cook and clean for ur self but a small price to pay for living a clean life right?? Im really not tryin to be mean ok?? But u got to get real with ur self and get better...........