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My friend is dating my EX wife...SMH

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MrNoDramaMan101

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So, I got a text message today from my best friends telling me that he is in love with my ex wife. My ex left me about two years ago. I was not abusive, didn't drink, do drugs, hit her, etc. She moved back to our home town about an hour away and has moved in with and is apparently "in love" with my best friend. He told me in his text that this didn't cause my divorce . We don't live in the same town and I haven't seen her in a year or him since October. Strangely enough I am not breaking down about the whole thing. Haven't cried or gotten really angry, but at the same time this feels like a betrayal.
I didn't respond to his message. I just deleted him from my contacts and left him with silence. I guess I am wondering what any one else thinks about the situation.
 
well there is always this sort of etiquitte between friends on past lovers ect, how goof of a friend is he? why did yous two break up in the first place?

my thinking wud be shock; id probably have done the same as i hate confrontation nowadays, as u say he is your "best friend" maybe u need to reavulate the people that are around you, on the other hand, guy cud legit be in love with her ajd didnt know how else to tell you?

id probably jus forget about him tbh.
 
Bare_head said:
well there is always this sort of etiquitte between friends on past lovers ect, how goof of a friend is he? why did yous two break up in the first place?

my thinking wud be shock; id probably have done the same as i hate confrontation nowadays, as u say he is your "best friend" maybe u need to reavulate the people that are around you, on the other hand, guy cud legit be in love with her ajd didnt know how else to tell you?

id probably jus forget about him tbh.
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He was the best man at my wedding..
We've known each other since middle school
We divorced beause of the constant arguments about money us never spending time together
Work took up alot of our time away from each other
 
if i were you id beat that guy with a baseball bat, im just joking about that, but in all seriousness i dont understand your jealousy especially since your not even in the same town.
 
He doesn't seem like a great friend. He is in a tough position - choose his best friend or the woman that he loves. I get that. Maybe he thought he waited enough time. But I think there should be a level or respect between people who are supposed to be best friends and he didn't really live up to that, he doesn't seem to be being a good friend.
 
llama112 said:
He doesn't seem like a great friend. He is in a tough position - choose his best friend or the woman that he loves. I get that. Maybe he thought he waited enough time. But I think there should be a level or respect between people who are supposed to be best friends and he didn't really live up to that, he doesn't seem to be being a good friend.
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I just feel that a good friend would have at least discussed it with me IN PERSON BEFORE he started to date her. ("Hey buddy I'm dating your ex wife"). That's not something you tell someone over a text...shameful.
 
MrNoDramaMan101 said:
You can say that again...still haven't contacted him since obviously just thinking with his small head..
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I could see if he just fucked her on a one night stand or something, but texting you and saying he's in love with her is wack. He basically traded his best man for a girl.
 
Corazon said:
I could see if he just fucked her on a one night stand or something, but texting you and saying he's in love with her is wack. He basically traded his best man for a girl.
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True..true I just never understood why people always seem to choose to betray or screw over their own FRIENDS rather than some random person, or even their enemy. All the people out there in the world and they chose to go after their friends ex's...SMH I don't get people.
 
MrNoDramaMan101 said:
I just feel that a good friend would have at least discussed it with me IN PERSON BEFORE he started to date her. ("Hey buddy I'm dating your ex wife"). That's not something you tell someone over a text...shameful.
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I am in total agreement with you as to this point. Your former friend should have been more of a decent human being about this.

Anyone who thinks this is anything more than a crock of shit power play should have their head examined.
 
he's not a friend and they were up to something before because its just got fishy wisps of bullshit lies from every angle but even if they waited dont you think he would have talked to you about it before?

i fancied my friends boyfriend and she used to cheat on him. also when off our tits he was kissing my hand and feeling up my crotch but it went no further. i asked her recently if its okay to hit that shit up IF it ever happens and she was cool with it. because she means more to me than his sexy body and huge, pretty, juicy cock (which i saw when both of them were naked on a bed during a mandy binge scenario).

the amount of respect you give towards your friends is directly linked to how much you value the friendship.

and i have shat on people i didn't care about primarily cos it didn't matter if the "friendship" died off
 
Hmm. I took a friends former girl out. They were on and off from middle school into college. I had a crush on her from kindergarten until they started dating. I don't think he knew that, and I didn't want to say. I don't remember feeling jealous. Just that she wasn't for me. But I think he stopped talking to me when her and I messed around at college. They had been broken up for months. She and I had been frequently talking on ICQ.

It wasn't a huge loss though.

One of my exes began to date one of two guys from my home town to go to the college I met her at, after we ended. Then she got with the other, his roommate. Both were acquainted with me. Friends of friends. Same social group. Friends enough. Later, she told me it was, they thought, to be closer to me. To stay in my loop. This is one reason I didn't mind. It was just confusing. I was silent at first, but in this, I put it on the girl. Guys have cocks. Guys are territory grabbers. And with the girl, I just saw her not knowing how to reach me. I didnt know how to reach her either from where I was.

I don't know. "Friends" are active. Its up to you if you want to maintain a friendship with him. He obviously thought enough to tell you.

Not to be insensitive, but she isn't your territory. If you weren't getting along, let it go. Not saying be active friends, but I would stay amicable, if yoi ever interact.

I guess I am used to being alone at this point. I don't really trust many people... That they really "care" about "me" anyways. Altruism doesn't exist. Its a fancy deception.

I would probably do the same, and feel the same, though. I wouldnt actively pursue him as a friend, but I guess I wouldn't shut down completely. But not saying anything back is the way I'd go too right now.
 
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I am about to marry one of my friends ex's. We hooked up 2 years or so after they broke up. He was pissed and hasn't spoken to me since but I have many more friends than soul mates on this planet. If he was a better boyfriend then perhaps they would be still together but he wasn't.

That pain you are feeling is just pride fucking with you. You don't own another human just because you fucked her first. Once you divorced she was free to see whoever she wants. If you think the two of you are better together then fight for her. If he was a good friend then obviously you consider him to be a solid human, why shouldn't she be happy with a nice guy?
 
One Thousand Words said:
I am about to marry one of my friends ex's. We hooked up 2 years or so after they broke up. He was pissed and hasn't spoken to me since but I have many more friends than soul mates on this planet. If he was a better boyfriend then perhaps they would be still together but he wasn't.

That pain you are feeling is just pride fucking with you. You don't own another human just because you fucked her first. Once you divorced she was free to see whoever she wants. If you think the two of you are better together then fight for her. If he was a good friend then obviously you consider him to be a solid human, why shouldn't she be happy with a nice guy?
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Perfectly put. Couldn't have said it better myself.
 
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