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shell68

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Im not even sure if im in the correct forum but hopefully someone can give me some advice.

My 17yr old daughter has been taking mephedrone on a regular basis, mainly weekends but has done it in the week.

She admitted to me that she did 5g in one session but prior to this she had already had some side effects such as palpatations, stomach cramps, water infection and bleeding when going for a number 2. She has already had an ecg which the doctor said that the palpatations are due to the drugs.

Last weekend she did 2g and has been ill with cough and cold.....yes it could just be an everyday cold but i believe her defences are down whilst on the drug.

She has slept a lot this time, over a few days.

My questions are:

Can she overdose?

Is it hard to quit?

What as a parent can I do?
 
Hello shell68, welcome to bluelight! Yes, you're in the right subforum, mephedrone is an empathogen/entactogen. Sorry in advance for the long reply.

Above all, try to keep an honest and open relationship about this with her, but judging from your explanation I don't think that's going to be a problem. Nice to hear you have such a good bond with your daughter. This will make it easier for you to get through to her about this. Don't condemn her because of the simple fact she's using drugs, that will backfire

Yes she can overdose, but it's very hard to do so. The main issue she needs to keep an eye on is dehydration, as with any stimulant. If she's dancing or doing other physically exhausting activities it's a good idea to drink about 0.5l water or something like gatorade every hour, in sips, not at once. Also mephedrone has the tendency to cause compulsive redosing, which means users feel an almost irresistible urge to take more to keep the effects going. This can lead to them using much higher doses than they originally intended. A good idea for her would be to only take with her what she's planning to take. MDMA (ecstasy) is known to cause a pretty big suppressing effect on the immune system and the same is rumored to be true for mephedrone. I've heard quite a few reports of users that got sick right after a session.

Mephedrone for some can be heard to quit, if they have been going at it for a long time. The drug however does work a bit in diminishing returns, meaning tolerance builds fast and after using for a while you will feel almost nothing anymore, this has a bit of a self-limiting effects, but she still needs to keep an eye on her usage pattern.

The most important thing you as a parent can do is to keep having an open and understanding attitude towards it and to help her inform herself about the do's and don'ts of using drugs. Here and here are good places to start. Make sure she has a basic understanding of how the drug works in the brain, what the side-effects and repercussions of abuse are, dosage guidelines, dangerous combinations to make (for instance: mephedrone + MAOI anti-depressant can be fatal, the same is true for MAOI's + any potent serotonin releaser, like MDMA or methylone),...

Apart from that try to find out why she's using drugs, that's in my opinion one of the most important things. If she uses them to get a different perspective on life, for socializing, for relaxation, to have a good time with friends... that's all fine, but using to combat depression or anxiety or to make problems go away is a very bad idea and might turn out bad. She must realize this is not weed, or coffee, or... these are serious drugs which can have bad consequences when abused, used carelessly or used uninformed. Also try to get her to buy a testkit, that way she can have some certainty of what exactly she is putting in her body. 5g is a serious amount to do in one session by the way, that's probably the compulsive redosing that I mentioned above. The heart palpitations probably mean she's using too much, it happens with almost every stimulant out there, if abused they cause irregular heart rhythm and palpitations. She probably needs to cut down on her use

If you have any more questions don't hesitate to ask. And don't worry, this isn't the end of the world. Your child is using drugs, but if she uses them wisely and informed it isn't all that bad and they don't have to have consequences for her. I have memories because of drugs that I wouldn't trade in for the world. Drugs just aren't toys, she really needs to understand this. She's only 17 so she probably isn't thinking about consequences too much, but she really needs to when it comes to drugs
 
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Hi shell68, apart from BlueBull says which is a very complete response. As a guy with some years more than your daughter and learnt from experiencies in the life the best is keep the relation open with your daughter whateever she does and no get ungry because the facts, that only carry away the relation but i think that isn't your problem because you are writting here.
 
As a younger drug user myself, I'm really happy to see a thread like this started. It shows that you care enough to be active enough to want to do something about her drug use, but compassionate enough to understand that she's a person who makes mistakes. I really wish my parents could have gone this route.

I'm a 20 year old, and I know that I'm going to take drugs when I'm comfortable with it. The only reason I haven't fallen into addiction, haven't been to jail and I'm relatively healthy is because when I was a younger teen getting into smoking, I read everything I could about drugs. I made sure that if I was going to take something, I'd might as well know exactly what it's going to do and how much of it to do to have a good experience. A lot of kids never did that, and once they start experimenting they don't know the limits, what to expect, what the negative aspects of it were, etc.

What you can do, and BlueBull put this pretty well, is talk to her about why she's did these drugs, and why she continues to do them. If she just feels like experimenting and now she likes it, fine. Don't be the parent who lets her party at her house constantly, but just accept that she's young and she just discovered new perspectives. She needs to educate herself on these substances BEFORE she takes anything else. Erowid.org is a great site to start learning about drugs, interactions, and read first-hand accounts to actual experiences. Mephedrone is one of the harder drugs and if she has irregular heart beats/palpitations its a good sign for her to take a 6 month break, at least. This also shows signs of heavier use, which could be due to underlying issues.

As a parent, just be there for her. Exercise together, eat healthier and her body will heal as well as building a bond between the two of you. Plan out "family nights" (sounds a little cheesy, but they work), where you play games, watch a movie or just talk. Any way to bond with her to show her that you care and you'll be great. However if you fester on the fact that she does drugs, it'll likely drive her to a worse place.

Best of luck to both you and your daughter.
 
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