My brother is ruining his life im not sure what he is on last time it was mixture of almost anything, he was doing great then all of a sudden hes right back where he was before. he lost his job with a bad crowd, he asks me for money and i know its the wrong thing but i feel compelled to give it to him. I kinda feel like it was my fault my dad didnt treat him well and i was the favourite got all the help and love and attention and i feel if it was equal he would be at the same place i am now going to university and overall enjoying life. Any words of wisdom or help from anyone in my situation would be greatly appreciated.
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My brother
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The way your parents decide to treat you or your brother are not your fault at all. It's up to you if you want to give him money or not. If you have an idea what he is spending it on then it's your choice if that is something you want to help support or not.
And you never know what will come out of any situation. My biggest changes always happened after going through complete hell.
And you never know what will come out of any situation. My biggest changes always happened after going through complete hell.
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I'm not in your situation at all but I can hear that you are genuinely worried about your brother. Probably giving him respect for his choices will go farther than anything(doesn't sound like he gets any kind of respect from your parents). I don't really believe in "bad crowds" and everybody gravitates towards people that accept them. If you can find ways to accept him where he is and let him know that, you will be more support than you can imagine. Good luck to both of you.
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