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My brother in deep sh*t and he lives with me ...

cucarot

cucarot

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He has been always a crazy drug addict ( crack,meth,esctacy, speacial k , alcohol ) ..when he does it .. he does it till he can't take it anymore and he sometimes has to go to the hospital when he can't ..sometimes..right after he leaves the hospital he would use drug again till he can't ..He has been living with me 4 couple yrs and recently he been using coke everyday ..Seeing him doing same thing everyday and realizing that there are 2 ways he will eventually get : 1.. crazy ..2 OD ... and I have told him that several times and he never listened ..I'm thinking about telling him to leave my place to live on his own so that he can be more responsible and hopefully he will realize what he is doing is bad but I don't know if it's wrong to tell him to leave whilehe is in deep sh*t ..plse help ....
 
Sometimes you just have to let someone fall and hit rock bottom before they learn to take responsibility for themselves. Maybe you could make an agreement that the next time you know he's using he has to leave and he can't come back until he agrees to quit using hard drugs. I would try to elaborate a little more but i'm off to work. Hope you find an answer that will help. I'm sure his drug use affects you as much as it does him. Good luck and report back.
 
yeah its hard as im sure you love your brother but in sum ways you enable him to use by keeping a roof over his head and being supportive maybe if he had more responsibilites he would clean up or be more moderate in his use but i think you need to give him a ultimatom but if you do you have to stick to it and be serious kinda tough love gd luck
 
Sounds harsh, but you need to kick his ass to the curb. As said above, as long as you enable him he is going to continue to do what he is doing. He has to fall hard and he has to hit rock bottom and realize what the drugs are doing to him. Then you have yourself if you want to continue to live as you are? You need to take care of YOU first and foremost!
 
Agree with above post. You are enabling his drug using behavior, and it is effecting you negatively. Tough love is the opposite of enabling, and it's tough on him as well as you. I'd recommend downloading/watching episodes of the TV show Intervention to help you decide what you want to do. Good luck, I wish you, and him, the best. Welcome to the front-line of the true `war on drugs.`
 
Kick his ass out, you worrying is neg. Attention makes him feel good seriously I understand what our going through (my dad and mom) there better now... Seriously though the main drugs that he could be addicted to is not so much ecstasy but crack,coke,meth,painkillers... But kick his ass out seriously if you think he is going to OD then make him exp. Life with out a safe house to go to...

-Shayzon!
 
kick him out cut off his cash flow, coke is expensive. nothing other than force will stop him at this point.
 
I don't think its right to abandon your brother in his time of need. Try to help him without kicking him out of your house. At least that's what I would do.

I have seen too many addicts kicked out of their mom's/brother's/sister's houses only to get worse. It usually does not improve the situation to kick the person out.

But you know your brother better than me, so maybe he is the type of person to respond to that kind of thing.
 
Thanks everyone 4 your help ..

I think I will let him go to live on his own when it's the right time . He is in the situation where he would feel very sad and angry if I'm not carefully how to tell him to leave .I'm afraid that he will go to my mother's home to live and it's not a good idea because my mother will be his maid and he will keep using his drug use . I've just found out that he has been using crack again which in the past (10 yrs ago )almost ruined mylife and his and now he is ruining his again.He is 33 yrs old and still being the same old same old as he is 20 ...sooner or later he will be in mental hospital or grave yard and that's the truth :(

@Shayzon : He does buy it and I do use too but I've quit almost a week now and I won't use it again anytime soon .

Thanks everyone again for your help .
 
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