My boyfriend wants to take heroin

[deez_nuggs]

I say there is plenty you can do. You can talk with him and work out a system of trust. If he can't trust you, you wouldn't trust him and vise versa. you wont change his attitudes or his thoughts, but you can sure as hell do whatever you feel appropriate to help him see your perspective. Theres no reason to say, "fuck it do what you want, i dont care," unless you mean it.

 

[Carl Landrover]

mannn mannn... mannn....!! Does he know it steals your soul? I don't usually regret things... but heroin is one of the things in my life that I seriously could have done just fine without...

What heroin will do/most likely do to you

-takes joy away, be prepared to feel numb and fake happiness for as long as you use.
-turns you into a liar
-turns you into a thief (unless your rich)
-makes you cry the first time you inject when you see blood running down both your arms and you fuck up the only shot you had left.
-is completely exhausting because you never get to rest except for a few hours everyday after you score.
-turns you into a complete slave to drug dealers and to your withdrawals. (eventually the boundaries of what you don't do in order to not be sick become blurry and you find yourself shooting up with toilet water using a dirty needle in a fucking mcdonalds bathroom or some custy shit like that)
-ruins your sex drive
-constipates you
-probably ruins your hygiene
-totally screws over your brain
-is incredibly addictive after just one shot (even though you puke during the first shot) [you would think that would stop us huh]?
-takes your good friends away, or at the least, puts them on hold.
-introduces you to some of the most fucked up people on this planet.
-creates a serious chance of violence occurring in your life
-possibly makes you homeless, and at the least is going to make havoc of your living situation.
-hurts everyone around you because your fucking useless and a constant source of usery.
-possible jail sentence
-did I mention withdrawals? I think withdrawals probably feel like what it feels like in the last 2 weeks before you die of wasting away.
-has a tendency to turn you into a "second class citizen"
-will at least make you a full out beggar once in your life, but probably you will beg often. If even its begging for a ride.

The list goes on... I personally have had everyone of these things happen to me :/ (not shooting toilet water though ) and I am not really an exception to the rule or anything.. Just normal junky lifestyle really...

SHOW HIM THIS!!

I agree with a lot of this post, but several of these are unfair stereotypes and generalizations. In a few months it'll be 5 years since I first did heroin and I've never stolen, been homeless, or dealt with any sort of violence (knock on wood).

I've never even gotten constipated from it before, though I know a lot of other people have.


This is getting way ahead of everything though. Based on what the OP said, he has never even used heroin before, so her BF being a crazy strung out junky is still fairly far off.

If he's never used before, he might not even like heroin. What opiate experience does he have? Jumping right into heroin is pretty weird, he's not giong to be able to do much at all. A few dollars could get a non-tolerant person blasted.

The focus here shouldn't be on heroin and the possibilites or outcomes of what happens if/when he becomes addicted. The focus should be on his depression and/or why he wants to escape. The focus should be his extreme alcohol consumption. If he hasn't even done heroin yet then this is the stuff that the OP should be focusing on. If that doesn't seem like a good focal point, then it seems like it'd be a waiting game. Waiting to see how long before the relationship ends and waiting to see how long before he drops to an even lower level.

 

[SececaRD]

Well Theres absolutly nothing you can do........

 

[PinpointSteez]

first of all, hearts out too you. i have my own opiate demons but ive delt with coke addicted boyfriends and its painful.
heroin is a terrible idea for anyone who likes to "escape"
all i can say is try to give him the reality, like everyone has said above.
good luck girl

 

[MiamiRoxi30s]

Just watch Requiem for a Dream together so you both
know your future.One of the few movies that made me want to
take a 24 hour shower.
Good luck either way

 

[Draigan]

Sepher - In Canada eh, theres always junkies with tons of needles, water, fresh spoons, all that crap because they hand the kits out by the hundreds!!

Carl - I said it may happen to you! Lucky for you man Everything there happened to me lol.

 

[wtblife]

So that's 700ml or just shy of we call a "fifth" (750ml) in the US ? That is an insane alcohol tolerance, he's gonna kill himself in 10 years if he's really drinking like that.

Idk I can easily handle that much and be fine as long as I don't smoke (when I drink and smoke a lot I puke), I mean of course it matters how quickly this is being downed, but over a couple hours I could easily pull this off without puking and I only drink on occasion. It seems like everyone in my family can just handle their liquor, idk.

I've only puked once ever from alcohol by itself and that was after downing half a handle of whiskey in bout two hours because it was my first time drinking and I was dumb... I couldn't walk by myself, but I remember the night and managed to bang into a few walls and get to the toilet down the hall by myself. Ended up sleeping on that toilet...

Anyway, alcohol is disgusting >.<

 

[unsettled]

If your boyfriend wants to take heroin he will take heroin, it's that simple, people tend to do what they want to do, we can't control others.

I don't know your boyfriends history with opiates but if he doesn't have any experience with them tell him to try some vicodin or something and tell him they are very similar.

I recently tried H for the first time and I know it was not the wisest choice, but I had been curious for years and the way it all happened was very "aligned" in some strange way, like it was meant to happen. Call it a rationalization or whatever but I think years of thinking about it manifested an opportunity to try it at the exact right time.

I had been using Pods, Subs, Vicodin, Oxycodone..etc... but not Heroin, when I tried Heroin I felt like "Oh, this is just like all the other opiates I've been using but like all the other opiates it has it's own unique qualities" I mean it really felt like Morphine with an initial rush that you don't get with Morphine, after that rush passes it felt like Morphine.

My point is everyone makes a huge deal about heroin and I think it gets blown out of proportion, what if your bf really wanted to try OC assuming he hasn't already, would you have created this thread?

He may try H and not even like it, however if he likes other opiates he'll probably like it, no doubt.

Anyway, just some random thoughts on the subject, time will tell if I regret my decision, but bottom line for me is I've been dependent on opiates for the past year anyway, I was just trying to stay out of withdrawal. I also have a ton of musical heroes who were junkies at one point or another and I always wanted to know what they were feeling when they played that music on that drug....just personal reasons for my trial of H, but we all have our reasons.

You can't control him, if he tries it and it rules his life you should leave him, don't try and control him, I think it's the wrong way to approach the situation. We all require a certain amount of personal freedom and free will, if too much of this is intruded upon within a relationship it almost always causes problems. Let him know your feelings, communicate as much as you can, and then let go. Let him do what he wants because he Will do what he wants. That's all you can really do, not easy I know but we can't control others.

Like I said, just my two cents here. And I wrote this under the influence of Heroin so feel free to disregard my drug addled ramblings. The "Sterotypical" junkie is the minority, most junkies are people you wouldn't even notice used. Most of the people I know who are addicted to H or other Opiates hold down jobs, go to school, have families..... not saying it doesn't cause problems, just saying you probably know some opiate addicts yourself that you have no idea are opiate addicts.

 

[sex_bomb]

u r in for a wild ride ...........if u got no kids and aint married ....u shore u wana go along for the ride ???? its a dark ride

best of luck

 

[tlks2Angels]

Ur not going to be able to stop him and considering his prob. With coke and booze it doesn't look good. Heroin is a feeling that can't b. Matched in my opinion. And if he's already depressed bell fall in love...and 9 x out. Of 10 that love will come before anything. And the extent of. his habits sounds like it could end up fatal. I suggest you really talk to him about getting help even if hes kicked the coke habit he's still looking for an outlet to deal with his depression and still is in need of professional help. As an addict myself I can say that just bc u say not to do it prob. Means shit...not that he doesnt love u but the pull and want is stronger. And hes only going to get help if he wanta. It ....he has to do it for him or its meaningless.....heroin is a long hard road that hurts believe me.

 

[britfag1]

I have just quit.

TELL HIM TO DON@T DO IT FOR WHATEVER FUCKING REASON HE GIVES!!!