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My boyfriend thinks I "cheated," but I disagree

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Ksa said:
^ Brother, if you learn how to read when you're 6, then, a week after you know the alphabet, your mother beats you up because you skip some letters when you read out loud and you can't read fast enough, will you get mad? Will you get mad yes or no? Then you argue, my mother beat me because my reading was hurting her ears and to let me know I shouldn't hurt other people. I say no, it is normal for a 6 year old, who is in the process of learning how to read to make certain mistakes! You can't punish the child! Give it time.

Same thing here, the child is 16 y.o. she makes mistakes, it's normal. Who are you to come say otherwise? You never made mistakes when you were 16? You expect her to be perfect? Then you all bash her because she did this and that? Go bash adults lol.
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Seriously mate, dial back the amphetamines.lol
You dont have to turn every post into some sort of logic riddle in order to make a point. Yes, the OP is immature and that is likely due to her age (or lack of) but wheres the maturity in your convoluted, rambling posts, designed to numb the readers mind to such a degree they are unable to form a response?.
If your going to make a point, at least make it relevant.

@OP, your right in the fact that you didnt cheat as your relationship was over but can you truthfully say that your next choice of sexual oartner was not influenced partly byrevenge?
You already stated that he ended the relationship and 'broke your heart', it seems to me that you would have good reason to want to get back at him and sleeping with his friend (loosely termed) was the perfect opportunity.
The problem now is that although at the moment your bf is all forgiving etc because hes in a haze of dopamine and oxytocin at getting back together, the knowledge of what you did will sit in his mind lkke a poison and will eventually surface and taint your relationship.
I wouldnt be planning your retirement together if I were you.
 
^ So lets date a rapist from online and sacrifice our safety because someone's feelings might be hurt? If you were her FATHER. If you were her FATHER. Would you prefer she dated some rapist stranger from online or date her friend's friend that she KNOWS and that you MET personally?

You ask her to date someone else and not hurt her friend or whatever because in all truth you don't give a shit about her. She learned to be like that from you guys.

At least she learned from me to be selfish and place her needs first so I hope you can all realize that she won't listen to YOU. You're wasting your time here. She's not replying to any of you, noticed?
 
pofacedhoe said:
^anyone who turns opinion into math is talking complete ass. i just cant engage with that personally



okay, but that applies to everything all the time. do you cheat? i have (in the past as an 18 year old) and it was a big fucking mistake that i wouldn't do again.

my main worry with a partner is not are they going to cheat, its whos bringing what std's home. i dont feel possessive over people but i dont want to catch something either
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No. The closest that I have ever come to cheated was getting back together with my ex, then finding out that she was off the next day fucking another guy. I had sex with a girl the following day, because I didn't feel like there was an genuineness to the relationship in the first place. She was just playing me again, like I had been many times before. I didn't feel like it was cheating, but I did do it to for immature reasons. I wanted immediate appreciation that I currently lacked, and the new girl gave me that.

So, aside from that ( if you want to call it cheating ), I have never cheated and never will. I would feel like a failure to my partner if I did. I don't want to let my friends or partners down, because I ask that same integrity and loyalty of them. I like making people happy and want to be appreciated, and I can't do that If I'll do bad things behind their back.

If you don't feel possessive of people, then you are obviously more emotionally mature than I am. I'll get there one of these days :)
 
Wtf? Date a rapist? Sacrifice safety? Meet someone online? Did I miss a whole section of this thread? When did the rapist and online dating come into play?

Anyways, what are you saying KSA, that nothing she did was wrong, at all, and that she should be commended for her actions? Are you honestly saying she should get a pat on the back and a 'you go girl?' That's cool if you do think that, I'm just trying to sift through your comments.
 
What?! Where is this coming from?.
I usually find your posts entertaining ksa but im worried you might be having some sort of episode...
For a start, who said ANYTHING about dating online and getting raped? You are the only person bringing that up, repeatedly.
Are you suggesting that the only dating options the OP has are online or her bf friends? I highly doubt that.
If I were her father I would hope to have instilled enough morals and common-sense for her to not put herself in this situation.
Also, I dont appreciate you putting words in MY mouth and throwing out suggestions of what I would want her to do.
Read my post again ksa, I only gave the OP my view on the situation and my prediction for the future of there relationship. At no point did I give advice on what she should do regarding dating.
Youre not the OP's personal saviour either. So stop portraying yourself as such, while using the the OPs thread as your personal soap-box from which to vent your own anxietys and convoluted metaphors.
Regardless of whether the OP is reading or not, I would still have typed this post. If for no other reason then to hopefully rein in your rapidly growing ego.
I can only hope that in the future your posts will again be at least rooted in reality again, instead of reading like a tabloid shock headline.
 
Ksa said:
If fruits and vegetables, were jealous of each-other...shopping at the grocery store would be a nightmare. If you eat an apple, the peach gets jealous, if you eat a peach the apple gets jealous. What is this nonsense? Life is good when you have many experiences. She's not married, she can taste and enjoy what she wants.



I know, you want to be right, and I jeopardize your righteousness by making you doubt. Who gave me such a right to do that? If a man wants to be right he should be able to at the expense of everyone else! Even if he's wrong.
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Now you're just trolling with your retarded riddle examples. I don't know what drugs you're on, but you sound insane and aren't making any sense. No offense.

"If fruits and vegetables were jealous of each other.." I mean.. really?

Sorry, but you don't seem like you're in the proper sane headspace to give any advice to anybody. I'm sure you're loving the attention though.

Don't feed the trolls people.
 
My views are very open, I admit it. My advice was for her to get a bf among her circle of friends so that she knows the person rather than dating someone online and be exposed to abuse/rape. Who says this? Not Ksa from Bluelight, but Dr. Phil in his book "Life Code". Go tell him he's not in his right mind.

I would appreciate if moderators would cut down on the insults, I know I'm persecuted for my views, my job is hard xD
 
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It's not meant to insult. You're not seeing clearly how you are actually sounding to a sane normal person. You really do sound deranged. I don't know if it's the drugs you're on or whatever, but I'm just letting you know. You sound like you need serious help.

Online dating, and rape.. have nothing to do with this. She's 16, consensual age.. and she was very much consensual. She was consensual with her boyfriend and she was consensual when she banged his best friend out of spite..
 
What does Dr. Phil and dating online have to do with anything? Are you suggesting that people can only meet other people online unless they're in their circle of friends. And she wasn't going for a new BF, she just wanted to get laid and she fucked her ex's BF.
 
Mr.Scagnattie said:
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It's not meant to insult. You're not seeing clearly how you are actually sounding to a sane normal person. You really do sound deranged. I don't know if it's the drugs you're on or whatever, but I'm just letting you know. You sound like you need serious help.
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You disappoint me. Watch this video and then read my post again:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ocbZhRQS9I

You watch too much CNN that's your issue. Watch that too and then you go watch CNN. And please don't tell me words like "retarded" and "not sane" aren't insulting...
 
Ksa said:
You disappoint me. Watch this video and then read my post again:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ocbZhRQS9I

You watch too much CNN that's your issue. Watch that too and then you go watch CNN.
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CNN? I don't watch the CNN at all... and again.. what does that have to do with anything that's being discussed here?

Every post you make just sounds more and more insane.
 
Mr.Scagnattie said:
CNN? I don't watch the CNN at all... and again.. what does that have to do with anything that's being discussed here?

Every post you make just sounds more and more insane.
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I said, before you derailed this topic:

"If fruits and vegetables, were jealous of each-other...shopping at the grocery store would be a nightmare. If you eat an apple, the peach gets jealous, if you eat a peach the apple gets jealous. What is this nonsense? Life is good when you have many experiences. She's not married, she can taste and enjoy what she wants."

This simply means she can hit on her ex-bf's friend and have fun with him, and if her ex is hurt, it is his own jealousy and emotional immaturity that's hurting him, not her.

What's insane about that? The next time you're calling me insane I'm reporting you lol...
 
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He disappoints you? That comments laughable.
Who the hell made your brand of logic the gold standard?
I cant work out if your on too many drugs, trying to aggravate people or just a complete fruit cake. Maybe a mix of all three.
Please, seek help.
 
bennyZA said:
So KSA, would you be okay with your buddy fucking your ex within days of breaking up? That's totally okay with you?
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Of course, it already happened to me, I was with a girl, she was from the same country as me and I found her so-so, wasn't really my style, but my friend liked her so I told him here you go have. Where's the problem? I knew my friend so I knew she was in good hands, I knew her parents too.

bunge said:
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He disappoints you? That comments laughable.
Who the hell made your brand of logic the gold standard?
I cant work out if your on too many drugs, trying to aggravate people or just a complete fruit cake. Maybe a mix of all three.
Please, seek help.
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He dissapointed me, not because of his logic, but because of his insults, which are inevitable when his logical arguments fail to come about.
 
Ksa said:
Of course, it already happened to me, I was with a girl, she was from the same country as me and I found her so-so, wasn't really my style, but my friend liked her so I told him here you go have. Where's the problem? I knew my friend so I knew she was in good hands, I knew her parents too.
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Seriously? I have to explain to you the difference between passin off some chick and banging your friends girlfriend right after they broke up. I think most people universally disagree with the idea that fucking your friends ex is okay.
 
You are all going completely off topic, I'm going to close it. OP, if you'd like this re-opened, just PM me, we can clear it up and re-open it if you'd like.
 
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