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My Boyfriend is addticted to WoW

Good for you triple-scales. You have your whole life ahead of you, there are a million quality dudes out there who have a life, and have something to actually contribute to yours. Fuck that geek.

And when he comes crawling back to you, which I can almost guarantee you he will , you tell him to fuck off. He had his chance(s).
 
threelibras99 said:
He's got his priorities messed up...not even his health comes before this game. His best friends also play WoW with him, and he considers it "hanging out with his friends" while he plays with them....which I think is ridiculous.

The other week, his computer broke down, and was in the shop for 2 weeks. During that 2 week's I swear, I felt like I was falling in love all over again. He was my prince charming....he shocked the hell out of me. He was spending the night at my house, multiple nights in a row, wanting to be with me every second....it was perfect. I felt like I was in a fucking fairytale.
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He's a dependent person as are most drug users. He's succeeding in this fantasy life and he's getting constant boosts of dopamine for his efforts. It is self-enforcing. It's an activity he enjoys and he's dependent on it. I don't know if you can do anything about his dependency but tell him what is up. Show him this thread. Tell him that you're not taking it away from him, but that he's being inconsiderate if he really is spending that much time with it. He knows it's not healthy. Don't make it a contentious issue. Make it about him and about you. Tell him he's abusing your relationship (if it's true which it sounds like). He needs new interests but I can't imagine you telling him that will help.

Peace,
PL
 
Oh so I guess you already broke up with him and he's 20 and you're 17. Yeah... my advice is don't worry about it. Think about the worse pain you've ever been in and know that it can be worse. Much worse. Think about the practicality of this relationship. I've never met a woman whom has an accurate picture of "her man" anyways. Always some idealized picture and inferred intent. You'll get along fine. Find someone you share values with. That is more important than anything. If you don't have similar values then even similar interests won't help. And if he values spending time by himself and you value being a princess there is a disparity there. Jesus christ I just remembered how much I hate high school girls. Not you darling. All the other ones.

PAX,
PL
 
My friend's roommate dropped out of college to play WoW. We all figured he would get sick of it after a month or so of playing for 18 hrs a day...

Nope.

His room looks like a garbage dump, he has no life whatsoever, and he'll retreat into his room when there are a bunch of us hanging out at the apartment because he has "real things to do". For awhile we joked about selling his character on ebay... How much would a high-level WoW character go for??
 
HAHAH this thread it funny

its sad because it is true

i never touched wow because i know i will be addicted

i have a few friends that are addicts to that
 
A guy I used to live with played WoW to the detriment of his marriage and his wife left him.

The thing is that it wasn't really WoW, he was fucked in the head and instead of dealing with his problems, he retreated into a fantasy world. He tried to quit a few times but he didn't fill the time he used to spend playing WoW with anything. So he just went back to it.

Fucking computer games. They're an amazing waste of time and give some people yet another way of screwing up their lives. Why the hell would you spend time chasing around some nonexistent rewards in a fantasy game? Why not, say, read a book? Or talk to an actual human being?
 
Yes, I bet he is.

BUT, he's 20 years old, with no car, no job, no school, no responsibilites, and no girlfriend.

I'm 17, have a job, own a car, just started college, and I'm doing fine.

You do the fucking math, and tell me who is missing out on life.......
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lol, you sound like my ex-gf... the one that dropped me for playing too much EverQuest online, this was about 6 years ago I believe... now it's different.

Her, renting a shit house, working at a childcare centre for low wage, not looking that flash.

Me, graduated with my B.Medical Science +working as a biochemist, studying my B.Medicine/Surgery, healthiest I've been in my life and not playing games anymore.

Turned out that breakup was all I needed to change my life forever and when I saw her years later... she tried to get back with me the first night... but I told her to go fuck herself :D
 
i meant exactly what i said.

real life is a depressing place. fantasy life can be whatever you want it to be.

he is probally depressed about you braking up with him, and so i imagine that he has turned to the one thing thats left that brings him pleasure, as a coping measure.

i had no intention of attacking you, i was just trying to give you a little insight. not everyone likes the same things.


and actually, i'm what would be called a casual gamer. i'm not very good at most of the games i like, i just like to play them. i put maybe 5-7 hours a week into games.


but in the end, there is no difference between playing games, working on cars, running a marathon, being in a band, watching tv, or any other pastime that people can get into. there is always the potential for an addiction of some sort.
 
moopE said:
depends on gear etc. but usually around $100- $180 :)
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That is only if you sell it to a company like IGE, they rip you off and resell your character for 4X the amount they gave you. If he has mostly epics and all of his keys i am sure he could get $700-$1200 for it
 
The problem here isn't WoW. The problem is that you are boring him. If it wasn't WoW, it would be poker, or sports, or knitting.
 
Don't talk to him... even as friends.

Leave him to his video games for a while, and before you know it, he'll come crawling back prepared to listen to some reason!

He gets agitated when you speak to him while he's playing, because reality is intruding on his fantasy. Therefore speaking to him each day isn't allowing him the chance to miss you - on the contrary, it's making him quite complacent. It means he's being left to his fantasy, and has you as a safety net in reality.

He doesn't consider you gone... he considers you there, but leaving him alone.

You're right where he wants you.

Don't be that person. Endure the pain it takes to leave, and set up your life as if he's not coming back [of course, he will...] but live your life as if he won't.

He'll come back because the pain of loss [which he's not experiencing at the moment... as I said, he still considers you 'there'] will intrude on his fantasy the same way you do when you try to speak to him.

Give him a month or two to experience this pain, don't take it as an insult if he's not bidding for your heart immediately. Remember: he's lost in his own little world, it's going to be hard for him to find his way out, but eventually, he'll basically be BEGGING you to help him.

He'll fast apologize for what a prick he's been, when he's finally forced to look at the shitful reality he created around him!
 
Fallen1 said:
The problem here isn't WoW. The problem is that you are boring him. If it wasn't WoW, it would be poker, or sports, or knitting.
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That's an interesting insight.

Before the gaming, did your relationship lack excitement? Did you guys do fun things as a couple? People tend to forget there's two sides to these stories.
 
This is a hard one. I too am very attached to WoW. From what i know about myself, this game over rides everythings else in my life tbh. The only reason im here tonight is because ive been submerged in wow for so long i really needed a break tonight, which is truely rare.

I feel sorry for you being on the receiving end of this treatment, however my only suggestion is for you to move on with your own life and leave him behind. One day when he is ready, he will give it up and realise what hes lost. Its not fair for you to have to go through this.

I guess in many ways Im okay with this life as It doesnt really effect anyone but me.

For all those those out there who just seem to laugh it off, its such a hard thing to explain really unless you truely been there. It is worse than crack :)
 
That is only if you sell it to a company like IGE, they rip you off and resell your character for 4X the amount they gave you. If he has mostly epics and all of his keys i am sure he could get $700-$1200 for it
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1200 bucks?!? for a video game character?!? Are you serious?!?

I'm surprised some hacker hasn't figured out a way to just create high level characters and sell them bitches.
 
Are you dating my brother?;)

It's a problem. My brother lives unemployed in my parents basement playing WoW all the time. I don't see any end in sight. I will probably be doing the same thing 10 years from now.

I love video games, but he's in too deep.
 
youarewhatyouis said:
1200 bucks?!? for a video game character?!? Are you serious?!?

I'm surprised some hacker hasn't figured out a way to just create high level characters and sell them bitches.
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That's nothing. Someone spent $100,000.oo USD on virtual property for his character in one of the newer games.
 
Holy hell, that's so sad. Then again, if you're loaded enough to be spending that much money on crap like that, good for you... :/
 
Doppelganger said:
Don't talk to him... even as friends.

Leave him to his video games for a while, and before you know it, he'll come crawling back prepared to listen to some reason!

He gets agitated when you speak to him while he's playing, because reality is intruding on his fantasy. Therefore speaking to him each day isn't allowing him the chance to miss you - on the contrary, it's making him quite complacent. It means he's being left to his fantasy, and has you as a safety net in reality.

He doesn't consider you gone... he considers you there, but leaving him alone.

You're right where he wants you.

Don't be that person. Endure the pain it takes to leave, and set up your life as if he's not coming back [of course, he will...] but live your life as if he won't.

He'll come back because the pain of loss [which he's not experiencing at the moment... as I said, he still considers you 'there'] will intrude on his fantasy the same way you do when you try to speak to him.

Give him a month or two to experience this pain, don't take it as an insult if he's not bidding for your heart immediately. Remember: he's lost in his own little world, it's going to be hard for him to find his way out, but eventually, he'll basically be BEGGING you to help him.

He'll fast apologize for what a prick he's been, when he's finally forced to look at the shitful reality he created around him!
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I liked reading this, because I think it's true. Right now, we are split up, but our love is still there. He's taking this break up as a "vacation". He thinks I'm sitting at home, sad, waiting for him to come back to me, because that's how it's always been in the past. But this time I'm stronger, I'm not letting a loser like him think he has control in this situation, because he doesnt, even though he thinks he does. I'm not going to talk to him anymore, I'm moving on with my life......when the time comes, and he realizes what really happened to him in the real world, then he'll be in for a rude awakening. I'm tired of dealing with all his stress......I deserve so much more than he could ever offer.
 
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