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My Boyfriend is addticted to WoW

threelibras99

threelibras99

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I fucking hate the computer game World of Worldcraft. It's worse than fucking crack.

My boyfriend has been playing video games all his life. Before he met me, he was into WoW, but he didn't start playing again until 3 months into our relationship. I've noticed a significant different in our relationship when he's playing and when he's not. He plays for hours a day...I mean, he'll stay up til 3 or 4 in the morning playing this game and wake up the next day to do it all over again. Once he turns it on, he's gone, completely sucked into the game.

He's got his priorities messed up...not even his health comes before this game. His best friends also play WoW with him, and he considers it "hanging out with his friends" while he plays with them....which I think is ridiculous.

The other week, his computer broke down, and was in the shop for 2 weeks. During that 2 week's I swear, I felt like I was falling in love all over again. He was my prince charming....he shocked the hell out of me. He was spending the night at my house, multiple nights in a row, wanting to be with me every second....it was perfect. I felt like I was in a fucking fairytale.

When he got his computer back, things were just so different between us. Now we hardly spend as much time together, he REFUSES to spend the night at my house anymore, because he NEEDS to go home and play WoW(Him and I have been together for 9 months, and he literally can't give me ONE fucking night out of the month). He's got a short temper, he's meaner to me now......giving me more attitude than I need to deal with. He's lazy, won't even get a job cause he'd rather be home playing that game.

Anyway, We've compromised so that when I'm at his place, the game is off, because after all I'm there to be with him, not to watch him play a one-player game. But he's completely in denial about being addicted and tells me constantly that he plays because that's what he wants to do........I shouldnt be controlling.....It's driving me fucking crazy how stubborn hes being, because I feel like all he does is play that game, and then on his spare time he'll hang out with me. I feel neglected, because when I want to be with him or spend the night with him, I have to wait my turn, till he's done playing. I just feel like since I'm his girlfriend I should come before the game, but he's the other way around.


I miss the man I feel in love with and I don't know what to do; I feel like WoW is ruining our relationship. What do I do, I'm so frustrated!!!!!!!!!
 
this is a prime example of how people dont understand how MMOs(and by extention, the internet) works.

get this- its a whole different world, it actually exists, and its more fun than real life.

he really is hanging out with his friends. just because you dont understand doesnt make it silly.

however, you are right in that he needs to limit his time. buy him an egg timer, one that goes up to like 2 -4 hours.

besides, if he limits it to when you arent around, whats the big deal?
have you ever tried to play?
 
i would say he is not going to change.... i know people who play that game and other games like it and they are all way to hooked....all of them have always been hardcore gamers. You say he has a short temper so talking about it is probably not going to acheive much.... i would say live with it or tell him how you feel and and see if he is willing to atleast talk about changing
 
there really isnt much you can do about getting him off the game:

i was in your situation: i felt like my boyfriend hated me, everytime i would talk to him i would get silence lol, i thought i was being ignored. every night i would sit in front of the TV and wait for him to come sit with me. it would take hours until he came out and by that time I was ready to go to sleep. It was driving me crazy until one day i said ok...this is his life, let me try it and see what the big fucking deal is

A few days later i joined WoW, we talk more now than we used to because i play with him....its actually a lot of fun and if you join im sure your bf will help you and you will connect with him just like i have with my boyfriend

The game is a big part of his life and i had to accept that. I love him more than ever and you just need to give him a chance and see where he is coming from

Try and join, if you are into games you'll like it
 
exarkann said:
however, you are right in that he needs to limit his time. buy him an egg timer, one that goes up to like 2 -4 hours.

besides, if he limits it to when you arent around, whats the big deal?
have you ever tried to play?
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He doesnt think he needs to limit his time, because he feels like he can do whatever he wants, and he wants to play all fucking day.

Yes, I've made a priest, got to level 10....I didn't find it to be all that exciting. And I don't want you thinking I hate that he plays just because I don't find it amusing. I dislike it because he simply can't control his playing and it's getting to the point where it's affecting our relationship and I can't be with my boyfriend as much as I would enjoy.
 
ladyinthesky said:
there really isnt much you can do about getting him off the game:

i was in your situation: i felt like my boyfriend hated me, everytime i would talk to him i would get silence lol, i thought i was being ignored. every night i would sit in front of the TV and wait for him to come sit with me. it would take hours until he came out and by that time I was ready to go to sleep. It was driving me crazy until one day i said ok...this is his life, let me try it and see what the big fucking deal is

A few days later i joined WoW, we talk more now than we used to because i play with him....its actually a lot of fun and if you join im sure your bf will help you and you will connect with him just like i have with my boyfriend

The game is a big part of his life and i had to accept that. I love him more than ever and you just need to give him a chance and see where he is coming from

Try and join, if you are into games you'll like it
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I have played, and it's not my style....I can't get into it. And I don't want to play a computer game all day, I want to be with the love of my life!
 
threelibras, i think your concerns are totally valid. a lot of people get sucked into these games and neglect everything else. the ones that my brothers play all come with a warning. i don't envy your position at all because i would not want to compete with something that appears to be so addictive.

i'm including links to a few other threads that address the same topic - maybe there will be some helpful advice in there. just like any other habit, your boyfriend needs to recognize for himself that there is a need for change before anything lasting can happen... right now that doesn't really sound like the case :\

When The Other Woman's An Xbox

World of Warcraft.....ok bear with me here

Boys and Video games
 
It's all very unhealthy. I love my videogames but I always give my s/o the attention she deserves. We do reserve alone time so I can get my gaming in and she can do her nails, hair, woman shopping, etc. taken care of.

To me, nothings better than finishing up a level then seeing your lady walk through the door. Now that we got our initial cravings out of the way, we can take care of others! :P
 
absolutely! I played with my joy stick long enough. It's her turn. You show me a guy who chooses hours of video games over some good lovins and some quality time out of the house, and I'll show you someone with fucked up priorities and serious reality issues.

threelibras99: Have you put on weight? (please don't take offense)
 
Hah WoW threads are hilarious :)

On the same note, I lost one of my GF's to Everquest :( I wouldn't touch WoW with a ten foot pole. Now they're apparently making another one... sci-fi... rumoured to be a Starcraft MMO.

We're all doomed!!!
 
threelibras99 said:
LOL. I'm as skinny as a stick...5'9'' 120 lbs
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I just don't get it. Half the reason I play video games is because it kills the time between fucking. We'd bang, I'd go cook us something, we'd wash up, she'd do her thing and while i'm waiting for her, i'd jump on the ol' xbox and before I knew it, she'd be back and I'd have a fresh boner for her.

Now that's the good life.

That shit is only gonna get worse, hon. Make some threats...and if needs be, act on them.
 
Have you considered the possibility that the game really is more important to him than you are? It's not as unlikely as you may think, and it's something worth considering before you attempt to try and change how he spends his time.
 
GenericMind said:
Have you considered the possibility that the game really is more important to him than you are? It's not as unlikely as you may think, and it's something worth considering before you attempt to try and change how he spends his time.
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thats not right, are you saying that your games are more important than the person you are with...if you are with someone
 
He means... if he gets more enjoyment from his games then his GF... well... human logic isn't it?
 
Jimboach said:
That shit is only gonna get worse, hon. Make some threats...and if needs be, act on them.
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I actually did. I broke up with him 2 days ago. It was one of those nights where I had been excited cause he promised he was spending the night at my place with me on saturday. So I clean like crazy before I picked him up, had planned that we would paint my wall together, or paint some pots we bought so we could grow flowers together, go to Denny's at 3 in the morning for some munchies like old times. I just imagine the night being romantic, because our love is on fire ;)


He comes over, and immeidiately falls asleep.....then at 10pm wakes up and says, "oh by the way, I want you to drive me home in an hour". Why does he need to be home when he has no other obligations? OH YEAH, cause he needs his video game fix, which is apparently more important than spending the night in your supposid "soul mates" arms. (as if he hadn't been playing since he woke up til I picked him up later on that night 8( 8) 8) )


And that type of shit just happened too much. I would always build my expectations so high and just imagine what a great and romantic time I could be having with my man, but instead he just brings me down because of his addiction.


Since however we are broken up, we still care about each other. We talk everyday, and I'm sure we are going to stay close....we just need some space right now.
 
GenericMind said:
Have you considered the possibility that the game really is more important to him than you are? It's not as unlikely as you may think, and it's something worth considering before you attempt to try and change how he spends his time.
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Nah dude, this is abnormal behavior. It's a withdrawal from reality. You can try to relabel it all you want as an 'alternate reality' or whatever but the fact remains that it's not. It's code, imbedded in a CD-ROM, translated to an image displayed on a tv/monitor.

The long and the short of it is, you give him a reasonable ultimatum and act on it. Otherwise, any further misery is your own fault.

Edited for your last post: Good job! Stay strong and think of yourself. I know how us guys can be...I'm a fellow asshole, myself.
 
GenericMind said:
Have you considered the possibility that the game really is more important to him than you are? It's not as unlikely as you may think, and it's something worth considering before you attempt to try and change how he spends his time.
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Yes. That's why I feel neglected, because I feel like he wants/needs that game more than he wants/needs me.

But then when that game isn't around he treats me like a Queen. Like I'm the only thing he needs in his life.
 
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