for spying and maiing his female friends,i loved him,and he called me saturday night crying that he missed me etc,but I ****** up.angry i told him to get lost i met someone new...i apologised next day, i mean he still calls me up and doesn't speak to hear my voice,and looks at my pics online.he just won't repy to my mai in 3 weeks i keep texting him like mad and can see he is online every day..do i give up?
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My boyfriend dumped me 3 weeks ago?
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GenericMind
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I'd be pretty pissed too if my girlfriend was spying on me and mailing my female friends. Did you apologize?
lostsoul.On.E
Bluelighter
Thats pretty bad what you did. Did he give you any reason to go and do what you did? And what generic brought up, have you apologized? You might be able to get away with this one but if you keep it up he will be gone, fast.
BrahamCracker
Bluelighter
yeah that is a huge turn off. Im not trying to hurt your feeling any more, but i can understand why hes mad. wait it out a little and see if he comes around, maybe he's just waiting for you to change. After a while you should try to show him that you can change.
PS, can you explain why you were spying and mailing his friends? The only logical reason is he was cheating, or you thought. I know women get REALLY jealous at times, but c'mon.
PS, can you explain why you were spying and mailing his friends? The only logical reason is he was cheating, or you thought. I know women get REALLY jealous at times, but c'mon.
BrahamCracker
Bluelighter
yeah that is a huge turn off. Im not trying to hurt your feeling any more, but i can understand why hes mad. wait it out a little and see if he comes around, maybe he's just waiting for you to change. After a while you should try to show him that you can change.
PS, can you explain why you were spying and mailing his friends? The only logical reason is he was cheating, or you thought. I know women get REALLY jealous at times, but c'mon.
PS, can you explain why you were spying and mailing his friends? The only logical reason is he was cheating, or you thought. I know women get REALLY jealous at times, but c'mon.
i just found out my boyfriend has been spying on me and is accusing me of cheating on him... he has terribly bad intel...
if you must resort to spying, have the curtsey of dumping the person well before you get to that point
leave anyone who does too...
if you must resort to spying, have the curtsey of dumping the person well before you get to that point
leave anyone who does too...
panic in paradise
Bluelighter
sounds like you may of pushed him over when he called, and you said that you were seeing someone else.
sounds like thats what he was afraid of all along...
if he really has/had no reason to worry, and he can realize the freedom of not feeling jealous all the time, and understand where his jealousies come from, and that not trusting you is an insult to you both - there is ground to stand on for you both.
what you said was the last thing he wanted to hear(according to his actions), and you knew that, or knew he would shut up if he heard that.
if its meant to be, time will tell.
so let time be, let him know why you said what you did, let him see you really are someone who cares for him and that he really can trust -but- he needs to prove his trust, and honesty understand why spying on you, sucks...
im sure he wouldnt appreciate being spied on, for the same reasons as you...
the golden rule does apply here.
you will both be rewarded by trusting each other, and knowing you just do.
sounds like thats what he was afraid of all along...
if he really has/had no reason to worry, and he can realize the freedom of not feeling jealous all the time, and understand where his jealousies come from, and that not trusting you is an insult to you both - there is ground to stand on for you both.
what you said was the last thing he wanted to hear(according to his actions), and you knew that, or knew he would shut up if he heard that.
if its meant to be, time will tell.
so let time be, let him know why you said what you did, let him see you really are someone who cares for him and that he really can trust -but- he needs to prove his trust, and honesty understand why spying on you, sucks...
im sure he wouldnt appreciate being spied on, for the same reasons as you...
the golden rule does apply here.
you will both be rewarded by trusting each other, and knowing you just do.
hyroller
Bluelighter
this relationship obviously needed to end. sorry, and I don't mean this is a bad way, but you are not relationship material right now from the sounds of things. try to exert some control over your jealous & possessive tendencies before you begin a new relationship if you don't want a repeat performance....
panic in paradise
Bluelighter
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i took this differently reading it...
heh
yeah, if he calls and doesnt say anything, period.
that would be a big no no for me, too much.
pictures on-line, well there is a line, a line that should be set for the sanity of both of you.
ill be honest and say ive been in the process of a divorce for the past 5 weeks or something?? and i knew straight away i was going to feel the need to process, be at home, desensitizing, not working my self up... the opposite, pictures, ouuuch, but i had to, because they are everywhere of us. + i wanted to get past hurting seeing them, sooner.
they became less of a massive stream of memories and feelings, and more retrospection and a memory of that moment(most the time), frozen there, not me frozen in a moment here.
umm.
yeah, so maybe hes longing, & processing.
not hurting and stewing.
calling and not saying much, poor guy, maybe...
calling and not saying anything?
if you live with your parents, get one of them to answer a few times, to start.
if you still feel the same about him, and he knocks off the spy-guy stuff, well dont brake it off.
give it sometime maybe, how long you two been together?
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i took this differently reading it...
heh
yeah, if he calls and doesnt say anything, period.
that would be a big no no for me, too much.
pictures on-line, well there is a line, a line that should be set for the sanity of both of you.
ill be honest and say ive been in the process of a divorce for the past 5 weeks or something?? and i knew straight away i was going to feel the need to process, be at home, desensitizing, not working my self up... the opposite, pictures, ouuuch, but i had to, because they are everywhere of us. + i wanted to get past hurting seeing them, sooner.
they became less of a massive stream of memories and feelings, and more retrospection and a memory of that moment(most the time), frozen there, not me frozen in a moment here.
umm.
yeah, so maybe hes longing, & processing.
not hurting and stewing.
calling and not saying much, poor guy, maybe...
calling and not saying anything?
if you live with your parents, get one of them to answer a few times, to start.
if you still feel the same about him, and he knocks off the spy-guy stuff, well dont brake it off.
give it sometime maybe, how long you two been together?
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this is weird, but imo you can't do any wrong here if you follow your heart
if you want him back badly enough, and it doesn't work out, the way i see it, your want only expedited your learning (be it the hard way)
and if not, no biggie
if you want him back badly enough, and it doesn't work out, the way i see it, your want only expedited your learning (be it the hard way)
and if not, no biggie
This thread is so beneath me. When I was 16 or 17 I was into this sort of thing... checking email, voicemail, txts but it is a waste of time and energy. Now that I'm 25 I always have more than one woman as backup. Now they spend THEIR time and energy pusuing me while I play around. I accomplish a lot, and if a woman strays, lol, I move on to a NEW woman. Variety is the spice of life. It is so beautiful. 
Dre1990
Bluelighter
Damn, why is everybody bashing her so hard? There is very few people who never spied on partner...especially in this era of Facebook
Mel22
Bluelight Crew
And go messaging all of his female friends? That is completely and totally unacceptable in every way, if the messages were anything like I'm imagining that is.
OP - you need to seriously take a look at yourself, identify your insecurities and work on them in order to have any hope of finding a normal, healthy relationship.
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