Moving back home to take care of parents

[TINK]

So I have been on a BL hiatus for a bit. A lot of things have been going on in my life. I have the best paying job and a pretty normal all be it not social life, but things are about to change. My parents are divorced and live seperately but in the same town, I am 6 hours away. It has come to the point where I now need to put my life on hold, change my lifestyle and everything. I have to move to a town I despise to take care of my parents. Long story short, my Mom has been paying the morgage on a house my brother owns and his wife is pissed off that they are not making any money off her (btw she is on social security) and they have told her she needs to move out. So, I have to buy a house in my home town and because I don't make millions, I too will have to live in that house as well. In addition to that my father had a stroke and can not drive and he lives in BFE. My sister is about to head off for graduate school, so I am all they will have. The only bright side to the whole situation is, I might have a job lined up already for me when I move.

It will be nice to be back around friends and family, but not so great living with my mother. We are complete opposites. I am a neat freak and she is a clutter whore. Trying to come up with enough money to get this house that have a mother-in-law unit in the back so I can be there for her without actually having to live with her. we also have our own brood of animals. I have a dog, 2 cats and a parrot. My mom has 2 dogs and a cat and if my sister doesn't move out soon, she has 2 cats. That is way too many animals for me. Plus my sister doesn't work and just lays around the house. If she doesn't leave for graduate school soon she will have a rude awakening. My mom lets her get away with anything and since the house will be in my name, she will play by my rules.

*taking the gloves off*

This will be interesting to say the least.

 

[Perpetual Indulgence]

You brother needs to tell his wife THIS IS FAMILY and mom stays in the house. I don't understand if your mom can pay a mortgage, why can't she pay rent elsewhere if your brother is insistent on kicking her out and expecting you to change your location? If you HAVE to buy a house, then why can't you stay where you are and give your mom money instead of moving in together? SO you are expected to support your sister too? Why isn't she helping your post stroke dad?

Perhaps I am cold. I would not do it. If my mom needed aid financially I would give it to her from afar or have her move in with me where I am professionally successful and keep my life the same.

 

[TINK]

Well apparently it is causing my brother and his wife to have tax issues. And she can pay the morgage but thats it she lives check to check. She has no savings and bad credit. And as far as moving instead of just sending her the money, I have been having some medical issues as well, so I could use the support of other family members there. My sister, a whole different ball game. She is helping my dad out. she has been driving him to dr visits and taking him grocery shopping. The thing is she has said for the past 2 years "I am going to grad school" but yet hasn't even taken the GRE. This is how spoiled this brat is. My mom and her looked at a 2 story house. My mom can't do stairs. So my sister says.. oh well I can live upstairs, then when I go to grad school TINK can have the upstairs. I was like WHOA! Little miss thing best step off. She has walked all over my mom for so long she has no clue what is coming her way. She is so lazy. She won't clean up her own stuff let alone my mom's stuff. I called her and said I am coming up there for a few days to go with mom house hunting and to fill out paperwork, the spare room better be cleared out. All she did was complain to my mom about it and said why can't I stay in a hotel. She had a job for a little bit and made 8K, but she didn't give a single dime to my mom to pay for any bill. It drives me crazy.

Like I said I think it will be better for me emotionally to get back around my friends and family, its just going to be a very difficult adjustment.