And that's ALL this guy has been doing lately. He wasn't that way before. We were always pretty open to each other about our feelings and how we feel about the other. At the same time, things have always been rocky between us until recently... and believe me, I've fought hard for our friendship despite all of the drama we started out with. Just when I thought things were cooling down, now there's a NEW obstacle I'm being forced to deal with from him.
Before yesterday, I'd pretty much had my mind made up about what I was going to do. I had begun to feel a sort of distance from him that wasn't there before, so I figured something was going on over on his end. Maybe he got a new girlfriend, or maybe he couldn't get past the bullshit and didn't want to actually try to be friends. Regardless, I decided maybe it wasn't worth the effort anymore, and started biding my time. Playing it cool, waiting for the right time to tell him that maybe it was time to go our separate ways.
But yesterday, he finally decided to text me ALL BY HIMSELF. About a week ago, I told him I'd hit him up yesterday while I was in the area and see if we could chill. Completely forgot about it. He texted me and was like, "What happened?!" and seemed annoyed that I had forgotten to call him. So I was like, Oh okay... maybe he does want to be friends after all. I told him I was really sorry, that it had just been a busy week, and maybe we could chill later this week. He started ignoring me. So I finally just told him I'd call him tomorrow (which is today).
I had every intention on calling him, because I felt bad. But now I don't, because he's sending mixed signals again. Ignoring my texts.. eh, no big deal. Then today, I noticed he was completely ignoring my friend request that I'd sent like a week ago. I know this because it still showed up on my newsfeed (for some strange reason) when he would add someone else. I saw today that he had added a few different people, but was still ignoring my friend request. Also not really a big deal. But ignoring my texts and friend request put together = a big deal.
So now I'm back to square one. He's acting like a dick. I don't even want to call him today anymore. I want to keep biding my time and go back to my original plan and eventually tell him our friendship is just not working. I don't feel like a friend is someone who gives off the impression of being indecisive about whether they ACTUALLY want to be your friend or not.
It's annoying. People who play games are stupid, they get you no where. At first, whatever. But when you keep it going on THIS long? At THIS point? Come on, man. He should have figured out by now he can be real with me and I'll be cool with it. But there he goes, playing games and sending mixed signals. Trying to reel me in, only to cast me back out... like he's done so many times before. Too bad it's not like that anymore. I've changed. The infatuation stage is over; I don't care as much anymore. I used to put up with that sort of behavior from him and always try to fix things, but not anymore. He's completely oblivious of the fact that he's not in control anymore... I'm not giving into his games anymore, haven't in quite a while... and all he's doing is pushing me away. He's going to wake up one day to find out that I'm gone, that I've been gone for a while. Gonna be too late and too far gone by then. I suppose I will call him today, just because I promised... and I feel bad for not calling him yesterday when I promised I would. I can't break a promise twice in a row, so yes I will talk to him, but it feels more like a chore.
A word to everyone out there: don't play games. If you must play games, don't drag it out. Stop the second you know the person is interested in getting to know you. Otherwise, they're going to catch on to what you're doing soon enough. And if you're playing games with a good catch... chances are they're just going to start figuring you're not interested, and stop caring themselves. No matter how you feel or what your motive behind it is, playing games never amounts to anything good. Games are for people who are insecure in themselves and cowardly. If your goal is to push the person away as far as possible, then by all means... knock yourselves out. But the best way to do anything is to just be straight up and honest with the person. For real.
Just wanted to get that out there. I'm a little frustrated at the moment.
Before yesterday, I'd pretty much had my mind made up about what I was going to do. I had begun to feel a sort of distance from him that wasn't there before, so I figured something was going on over on his end. Maybe he got a new girlfriend, or maybe he couldn't get past the bullshit and didn't want to actually try to be friends. Regardless, I decided maybe it wasn't worth the effort anymore, and started biding my time. Playing it cool, waiting for the right time to tell him that maybe it was time to go our separate ways.
But yesterday, he finally decided to text me ALL BY HIMSELF. About a week ago, I told him I'd hit him up yesterday while I was in the area and see if we could chill. Completely forgot about it. He texted me and was like, "What happened?!" and seemed annoyed that I had forgotten to call him. So I was like, Oh okay... maybe he does want to be friends after all. I told him I was really sorry, that it had just been a busy week, and maybe we could chill later this week. He started ignoring me. So I finally just told him I'd call him tomorrow (which is today).
I had every intention on calling him, because I felt bad. But now I don't, because he's sending mixed signals again. Ignoring my texts.. eh, no big deal. Then today, I noticed he was completely ignoring my friend request that I'd sent like a week ago. I know this because it still showed up on my newsfeed (for some strange reason) when he would add someone else. I saw today that he had added a few different people, but was still ignoring my friend request. Also not really a big deal. But ignoring my texts and friend request put together = a big deal.
So now I'm back to square one. He's acting like a dick. I don't even want to call him today anymore. I want to keep biding my time and go back to my original plan and eventually tell him our friendship is just not working. I don't feel like a friend is someone who gives off the impression of being indecisive about whether they ACTUALLY want to be your friend or not.
It's annoying. People who play games are stupid, they get you no where. At first, whatever. But when you keep it going on THIS long? At THIS point? Come on, man. He should have figured out by now he can be real with me and I'll be cool with it. But there he goes, playing games and sending mixed signals. Trying to reel me in, only to cast me back out... like he's done so many times before. Too bad it's not like that anymore. I've changed. The infatuation stage is over; I don't care as much anymore. I used to put up with that sort of behavior from him and always try to fix things, but not anymore. He's completely oblivious of the fact that he's not in control anymore... I'm not giving into his games anymore, haven't in quite a while... and all he's doing is pushing me away. He's going to wake up one day to find out that I'm gone, that I've been gone for a while. Gonna be too late and too far gone by then. I suppose I will call him today, just because I promised... and I feel bad for not calling him yesterday when I promised I would. I can't break a promise twice in a row, so yes I will talk to him, but it feels more like a chore.
A word to everyone out there: don't play games. If you must play games, don't drag it out. Stop the second you know the person is interested in getting to know you. Otherwise, they're going to catch on to what you're doing soon enough. And if you're playing games with a good catch... chances are they're just going to start figuring you're not interested, and stop caring themselves. No matter how you feel or what your motive behind it is, playing games never amounts to anything good. Games are for people who are insecure in themselves and cowardly. If your goal is to push the person away as far as possible, then by all means... knock yourselves out. But the best way to do anything is to just be straight up and honest with the person. For real.
Just wanted to get that out there. I'm a little frustrated at the moment.
But yeah I'll call you!" Um, okay. That doesn't explain why you've been ignoring me for the past day so I was like "I know but you've been ignoring me since last night... idk what's going on with you... but alright I'll just talk to you tomorrow." His response? "Nothings wrong and I'm not ignoring you. I just suck at texting." SINCE WHEN? What the fuck?! That pissed me off so I was just like, "Yeah and you suck at picking up your phone these days apparently too hah. But whatever I'll ttyl." And ended the conversation.