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Meeting s.o. In rehab

It's kind of like falling for a co worker there is a large chance it will end badly
 
the potential to drag each other back down is kinda high.

to be honest rehab and all these things are helpful but what will get you off hard drugs is if deep down you want to do it for yourself

so from that point i say go for it? the problem is that when you split you will have had no drug free time being single and you might revert back to being high to deal with the pain.
 
bad bad bad.

You are in the MN area. My friend met his former SO at Hazelden. They were both in for Heroin and started fraternizing there. They'd meet on walks on the grounds. She wasn't ready to quit. He was, but was smitten with her. Drugs won out. Long story short, eight months after they got out, they were living under a bridge in winter, panhandling for dope to keep from getting sick. In Minnesota. Honestly lucky they didn't freeze to death. He ended up leaving her, moving in with family and got clean. It's your call. I'd just say it's a BAD idea.
 
I'll take a different viewpoint here and say that you can get to know the real characteristics of a person in a rehab, so potentially that could be beneficial.

However, there is a potential for it to go bad, so good luck to whomever chooses that route, because many of the drugs people are in rehab for are physically 'addictive', and at the end of the day two people trying to quit a substance (especially the same substance) is bound to have consequences beyond the control of one another, potentially leading to new co-dependent relationships - obviously not beneficial.
 
Eh... in my expierence.. two drug addicts together. I mean... maybe if you're DOC's are totally different but.. if not, the chances of you two dragging each other down into the mud and having a very unhealthy relationship are high. Again, just my opinion from my own experiences.
 
I have done this once a long, long time ago. she was great and also a fellow Virgo too. we met in rehab around my hometown, although she was from NY. she was a beautiful person, a little bit older than me. although we did get high together a couple times we didn't break up because of that - we broke up because of the distance

last I heard she was doing well. but this was quite some time ago. I often wonder how she is doing and would like to catch up
 
It could technically work out. I mean, if you happen to have a great friendship that turns into a relationship through rehab then awesome. BUT I would not recommend actively LOOKING for a relationship through rehab.
 
In all the times I've been in detox and rehab, IMO it's just kind of gross and pathetic(no offense to you) seeing it from the outside...Usually, it's just SO obvious that the people involved are just looking for anything to block out the feelings of low self-esteem and depression...and it's always the main thing that people get kicked out of rehab for....
 
^Yea, I saw two people fall SO bad for each other in rehab, they were madly "in love" writing love letters and hiding them behind the pictures on the walls, thinking of what they were gonna name their kids.. weird shit.. both of them fresh into rehab too, the nyc IV dope junkie and the southern belle chronic alcoholic (RIP)...
 
people are vulnerable in rehab, some way more than others and some people prey on the more weak. imo.
who would want to be in a relationship with someone who is weak , not well, and does not have their shit together?
i have been to rehab twice and had relationships from the guys i met in there and all ended up really bad. Escalated drug use and every kind of abuse you can think of. That was just from my experiences, imo I do not think if you met someone in rehab it would ever work out very long term.
 
Such a bad idea.

I would elaborate with a story or two, but I am not up for it.

No, bad idea.

Its ok for a wham bam thank you maam thing, but do I even need to explain this. Half of the chicks in rehab/detox are prostitutes. Just no. OK.

I don't care how cute she was, its a disaster.
 
Having done a lot of rehabilitation I've seen about 25-30 couples start in detox, rehab, or anonymous meetings. Only one I know of that went well.
 
There are always the quickies in the bathroom in detox. People get horny coming off of opies. Too bad in todays day and age they got cameras everywhere you go.

I remember climbing out the window at one detox place to meet up with a gal for some sex. She climbed out her window too. It was a one story building.

But yeah nothing serious ever comes out of it and if does its usually a disaster.
 
^It's so nasty in detox...I've seen it almost every time I've been though...

Half the guys in detox haven't even haven't even jerked off in over 30 days, and the girls that wanna fuck have sucked every coke dealers dick within a 50 mile radius...not a good combo!

I wonder what it would be like if I was dopesick and all these women were offering me 50 dollars to fuck or eat their pussy....It must be rough for some of these dopefiend chicks trying to give head to some nasty motherfucker when they're dopesick, but I'm getting off track....
 
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Its quick. Between being ultra horny and not wanting to get kicked out. Its quick.

I only went to detox for alcohol. I am not going to detox for a drug that won't kill me if I stop taking it.

I do see your point. I don't think I have jacked off in a year. I have had sex, but no drug is gonna stop me from having sex, but yeah drugs do kill your sex drive and when it returns you spill your seed quick. Still it happens in detox. A lot.
 
Yeah its a bad idea, I havent read the other responses but my quick opinion is.
Your both there because you have a drug problem... So that means your experiencing some dysfunction and instability... both of you.
If you mean for a longterm thing like meet someone and be together once your out, it never works, I've been in treatment a good bit, and observing others and my experience hardly anybody really stays together once their out.
To have a successful relationship, 1st you have to love and respect yourself, then know your independent and comfortable in life...

As for a no strings attached thing, sure it could work, still you may find yourself stuck on the person, or wanting to get rid of them, and that would be hard because you'd be living at the same place. Plus you can easily get kicked out and most relapse at that point, I did. ha.... anywho.... Its just a sketch situation... defiantly if you wanna get down while your there just be careful and do some digging as to the in's and out's of whats possible to get away with.
Oh yeah also if your serious about recovery there is no way in hell this is a good idea at all. All of your focus would be on your rehab romance and not on the valuable information your there for.
 
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