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Hi everyone. Just wondering if MDMA really can be used for couple's therapy. Has anyone used it with an ex or current boyfriend/girlfriend and worked out problems and fell in love again?

Me and my ex are about to take MDMA together, but I was wondering if it has the potential to get us back together? I am not saying that it's going to, but does it have the potential to? Personal stories about relationship conflicts and taking MDMA or taking MDMA with an ex fixing a relationship or making it worse would be awesome! My ex-gf broke up with me because she said she was not "in love" with me but still loves me a lot and more then a friend. Will MDMA spark her forgotten love for me? Will we be able to talk and feel empathetic and more connected with each other? And will these effects/ feelings last after not being on the pill?
 
lol you might say things to each other the you dont really mean while under the influence , I heard a story of a guy proposing to his ex girlfriend while rolling. Of course he regretted it in the morning, but also MDMA is great for opening up your mind and taught process, I say go for it.
 
You may feel a deep connection while rolling but i doubt it will last very long past that. I wouldn't go into the experience expecting anything of that nature. If it happens it happens but remember that it may just be the drugs talking.
 
IMO i truly believe that when my wife and I roll it does bring us closer together, even after the drugs are gone but, if a relationship is doomed then it probably wont work out in your favor.

Sounds like she wanted to cheat without actually cheating that's why she split with you and probably hooked up with someone else and now regrets it. jus sayin
 
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, and I believe MDMA can catalyze this evolution.
That being said, if it's not meant to be, I don't think it will be a fine ride... .

In your heart you know now already if you'll be together or not, or at least if this is going to be an experience which benefits the both of you. (The talking I mean, not the MDMA per se.)
MDMA can be helpful to find out what the heart wants, but is certainly not necessary.
 
Before you go into the roll with her I would highly recommend putting away ALL expectations. Do not try to guide the experience on your own by having a predetermined idea of where you would like it to lead. You two will likely learn a lot about one another during the roll, but it is impossible to say whether it will be what you want to hear/learn. That being said I think mdma does help in ironing out long standing issues between two people. My girlfriend and I roll roughly 4-5 times a year, and each time we have it has seemingly brought us closer and helped us bring up topics that were perhaps to touchy or difficult to dig into otherwise. I think you will have a great experience, and hopefully it will be one to remember, but try to go into it without a goal or ideal end scenario in mind.

Happy Trails :)
 
I believe in the ability of mdma to open yourself to solutions. On the other hand why do it with your ex?
She might not be your ex in the morning. Is that something you want? After all she already ended up being your ex once, do you want to go through that again?
 
From personal experience, any issues you two discuss and believe you worked out during your roll together will come back up again when you're sober. I drunkenly cheated on my ex with a stranger a year ago, we rolled 2 weeks later at an event and he said he'd forgiven me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. When sober, it would come back up because it was eating him up daily. We rolled together for about a year after the incident, which involved him telling me he had forgiven me and wanted to be with me always. He left me 3 months ago because he said he couldn't take the thought anymore. MDMA is quick fix...if you can't mend the problem with your sober minds, then I believe you'll be lead on by what is said while under its influence and ultimately be let down.
 
Yeah mdma can't fix shit if your gf cheats on you when shes drunk.
 
When under the influence of MDMA it is very easy to tell someone that you love them, even though it isn't true. I have done it many times including with an ex in which I told her that i still love her even though I didnt. Its like you remember all the good things and memories you had with that person and forget all the bad things they have done to you.
 
Stoned Immaculate said:
From personal experience, any issues you two discuss and believe you worked out during your roll together will come back up again when you're sober. I drunkenly cheated on my ex with a stranger a year ago, we rolled 2 weeks later at an event and he said he'd forgiven me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. When sober, it would come back up because it was eating him up daily. We rolled together for about a year after the incident, which involved him telling me he had forgiven me and wanted to be with me always. He left me 3 months ago because he said he couldn't take the thought anymore. MDMA is quick fix...if you can't mend the problem with your sober minds, then I believe you'll be lead on by what is said while under its influence and ultimately be let down.
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When under the influence of MDMA it is very easy to tell someone that you love them, even though it isn't true. I have done it many times including with an ex in which I told her that i still love her even though I didnt. Its like you remember all the good things and memories you had with that person and forget all the bad things they have done to you.
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I don't know. I would think you're doing a bit too much, or with the wrong people. I roll a few times a year and only with people I'm very comfortable with, but my dose is low enough to still think rationaly. I mean I can be in the music if I want, but when I need to concentrate (as in talking to people) a certain rationale takes over. Yeah It's a loved up feeling and it's marvellous to just look at crowds while under the influence of mdma (seeing how they all behave and love eachother), but still, telling people you love them that intuitively: not for me.

When you say your BF said he forgave you, you maybe just let it at that ? The thing is, that's when the real work and closure begins, after the experience. MDMA can help to verbalize emotions, but we still need to work through these emotions. MDMA can't do all the work. It's a tool, not a solution.
 
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