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Bluelighter
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- Oct 8, 2002
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Strawberry_lovemuffin said:I think some of you are very naiive.
i think some of you are very cynical
i don't think think marriage is the magical wonderful thing portrayed in popular culture, nor do i think love lasts forever. faith, determination and love do not solve everything. i do believe however, that marriage is a bond between 2 people that exists beyond hormones and sex. its something that doesn't exist in the stereotypical understanding. i view my future married life (if at all) as one of emotional comfort and deep understanding, not as a crazy whirlwind of romance. it's not until our relationships reach this point, where the hormones are gone, and all that is left are our real personalities, that we truly begin to find out if the person that we are with is right for us. in my experience, it normally takes about 6-12 months for that to happen, but it is unique for every person, and for every relationship.
some friends of mine went out for 4 years, lived together for 2 and then decided that they are not right for each other. so while i believe it IS possible for people to date for 2 weeks and then know that they are meant to be together, i think its VERY rare, and happens far too often these days. the brain is a rediculously powerful device, strong enough to construct our entire reality, and we should learn to be far more critical of those little neurotransmitters running around inside of it.
"love" does not last forever. love does.
(i hope all of that made sense somewhat...)
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