Cosmic Mist
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This question has been spawned from the thread: http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=92498&r=12
What i want to know is what marriage means to you personally.
I have been discussing this concept with my boy-o recently, and we have very contrasting views about what marriage means in this day and age. Obviously this is a very personal and contextual idea, but to some degree there must be some sort of common concensus...
Personally i don't believe that marriage is a life-time commitment anymore. I see it as the highest form of commitment, but i do not see the point in sticking by someone who no longer loves you, or whom you no longer love. I do not see the point in staying in a situatioin that makes you desperately unhappy either.
But by the same token, i do not believe that divorce is something to be entered into lightly. I believe that a lot f people see divorce as an easy option - it's easier to sever oneself completely from a situation than it is to deal with it and work through a pertinant issue.
I also think that some people enter into marriage too readily, sometimes bowing to family/peer/societal pressure rather than following what is right for them as individuals.
What are your thoughts? Feel free to disagree.
What i want to know is what marriage means to you personally.
I have been discussing this concept with my boy-o recently, and we have very contrasting views about what marriage means in this day and age. Obviously this is a very personal and contextual idea, but to some degree there must be some sort of common concensus...
Personally i don't believe that marriage is a life-time commitment anymore. I see it as the highest form of commitment, but i do not see the point in sticking by someone who no longer loves you, or whom you no longer love. I do not see the point in staying in a situatioin that makes you desperately unhappy either.
But by the same token, i do not believe that divorce is something to be entered into lightly. I believe that a lot f people see divorce as an easy option - it's easier to sever oneself completely from a situation than it is to deal with it and work through a pertinant issue.
I also think that some people enter into marriage too readily, sometimes bowing to family/peer/societal pressure rather than following what is right for them as individuals.
What are your thoughts? Feel free to disagree.