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managing stress / anger / frustration

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i do not know how to effectively do this. i get stressed out by normal everyday things like going to work. today i was so burnt out at work that i was noticeably irritable and unhappy and frustrated. my heart felt like it was going to explode out of my chest.

i need help in finding a healthy way of not only managing stress/anger/frustration, but to completely avoid them and have them not be a factor in my life anymore. i no longer want to have episodes like today happen. i want to be calm, relaxed, and at ease. i no longer want my emotions to get the best of me. peaceful.

i am interested in techniques or methods on how to make this a reality. something healthy. something other than smoking some pot or having a drink. although smoking some pot would feel great right now as it has been 6 months since i last did.

please help. thankyou.
 
What I do basically is believe that i can calm all those emotions, and i just end up turning those emotions into a more calm/more relaxed me. Just got to believe its possible imo don't know if it'll be as easy for you as it is for me. Taken a while to realise you can actually do this, i did it when i was originally battling fear/anxiety(that is now gone from me btw).
 
If anyone has a good answer, I'd love to hear it :)

I have a near constant level of "background" anxiety...but I've never had anything like a panic attack or feeling like my heart is beating out of my chest. But I do understand the feelings of not being able to handle day-to-day things. I think it gets better as you get older.
 
i need help in finding a healthy way of not only managing stress/anger/frustration, but to completely avoid them and have them not be a factor in my life anymore.
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Honestly, I don't believe there is a way to live life and not have stress/anger/frustration be a part of it. You have to learn how to deal with and manage these emotions. They're not always negative.

As far as techniques for dealing with them, the first thing that comes to my mind is meditation. It really depends on the individual though. Some things will work for you, others won't. Go google 'relaxation techniques' and see what you come up with. There is something that will work.
 
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Like you, i've suffered from severe anxiety/frustration/anger (from pot abuse) for many years, but in the last few years i've really gotten on top of my problems through meditation, yoga and tai chi.

They teach patience and calm you down, through daily practise ive seriously controlled my anxiety.

Along with improving your diet (fresh vegetables, fruit, water, nuts and seeds), you will notice vast improvements - i promise you

If your after faster solutions, just try at least improving your diet ie. cutting down on fats and sugar and doing more exercise (even walking daily)

You could even have a look at SSRI's (antidepressants). I went on zoloft for six months and i felt quite good, but it was just suppressing the symptoms and i felt just as worse when i came off them.

Hope this helps
Ive been through it all, and i could go on for ages so pm me if you have any questions or anything

Remember: be positive
 
Take a walk. Listen to de-stressing CD's(!). Practice deep breathing. Get a full-body deep tissue massage. Stretch. Get a pet. Stretch the pet. Drive less. Get out of debt. Don't watch the news. Have sex.
 
One very important thing: Avoid all stimulants, especially caffeine.

Also, breathe deep, from the freshest air you could get. Too much CO2 also increases anxiety.
 
Mountain biking is an excelent way to blow off the steam created by normal life. I start to get pissy if I dont take a good ride every 3 or 4 days, and it is awesome exercise
 
egor said:
Mountain biking is an excelent way to blow off the steam created by normal life. I start to get pissy if I dont take a good ride every 3 or 4 days, and it is awesome exercise
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I know! If I don't exercise in three or four days I can definitely notice a change in my mood. (for the worse)

its good to learn ways to combat your anxiety and stress but the cure is to not let it into your life. this might sound far-fetched or maybe even impossible, but you have to see it for what it really is, something that doesn't exist outside of your head. You're making all of that stress for yourself, nothing and nobody is MAKING you feel that way. Find out where the source of your anxiety is coming from and figure out a different way to approach it, don't be passive. you can turn the bad into good.
 
What LiquidMethod + Jamshyd said.

That, and a good dose of valerian and hops.

And any form of exercise on top. And yoga.
 
and try to BE THANKFUL :)

It can be hard, but once you appreciate the good things in your life all might not seem so bad.
 
LiquidMethod said:
Take a walk. Listen to de-stressing CD's(!). Practice deep breathing. Get a full-body deep tissue massage. Stretch. Get a pet. Stretch the pet. Drive less. Get out of debt. Don't watch the news. Have sex.
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haha i love it. taking a walk is good, but i hardly ever do. massages are great, but i haven't had one in six months or so, maybe i should go get one.

drive less, i totally agree, driving can be very frustrating and nerve wracking. currently i have to do alot of driving back and fourth to my job, but that will change someday when i move to a city that is less dependant on automobiles and has more public trans or things you can just walk to.

i already have a pet that i totally love. get out of debt, im proud to say im almost there! dont watch the news, i totally agree, the news can be so depressing at times. i honestly dont even give a fuck what is happening in the middle east anymore.

have sex, this one is a total stress releiver! too bad i dont currently have anybody to do it with though! oh well, there is always masturbating, can be just as good sometimes lol.
 
birthdaycake said:
honestly, pretty much never.
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This is probably why. Exercising regularly is a natural stress releaver but also makes you more resistant to stress and other emotions like sadness, anger, frustration etc. In my opinion and completely unscientific observation the act of pushing yourself to your limits physically prepares your mind/body for stressful situations in the future.

For people who don't exercise regularly simple situation like somebody cutting you off on your way to work or somebody cutting in front of you in line will cause the body to produce adrenalin and you go into your basic flight or fight responses which aren't controlled by the higher brain. You basically resort to your instincts/emotions. For people who exercise regularly such situations barely illicit a physical response. My usual response now to such situations is "meh" and I don't get frustrated, angry, or stressed out where before, when I didn't exercise regularly, it would be a big deal.
 
aanallein said:
How often do you exercise? (serious intense exercise)
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I try for 5 days a week, but it has only been 3 or 4 for the last few weeks since it has been so damn hot
 
exercising is just such a pain in the ass though. lets face it, it is just not fun. at least for me anyways. im not some obese fat fuck who cant even walk. im a totally normal height / weight proportionate person. im not skinny, im not fat. im average.

but after working all fucking day and driving home fighting traffic, the last thing i want to do is go do something physical. im too fucking tired for it. all i want to do is relax, watch some tv, spend some time online, eat dinner, and go to bed.

maybe this is just a symptom of living in a major metropolitan city in the united states?
 
maybe this is just a symptom of living in a major metropolitan city in the united states?
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ya pretty much. but exercise is fun for some people (me atleast) so that part is all mental. it will definitely help with the stress too.
 
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