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Man and Dude and Bro (& co.)

"Sir, you are making a scene."

I probably say dude way too much. Not really in the duuuuuude stereotypical way though. :\
 
Dave said:
My trainer keeps calling me buddy. It's somewhere between creepy and belittling, but I know that he doesn't mean anything ill by it.

I use 'man' on occasion, 'dude' virtually never, and 'bro' only in the most sarcastic of situations.
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I HATE getting called "buddy." Maybe it's just a conspiracy theory in my mind, but it always seems like this is being done to make the recevier feel slightly belittled.
 
Bro is used by me for cool people, and people I don't know at all. (E.G. Hey what's up bro? or, Hey bro, chill the fuck out and leave)

Dude is used by me for anyone.

Man is used by me for people I'm not close enough with to call bro, but that I know somewhat. Sometimes I use this for better friends as well.

But I usually don't make a conscious effort to differentiate between bro & d00d & man; that's just how it turns out the majority of the time =D.
 
In some of the rugby clubs I played for it was 80% Maori or polynesian. Everyone was "bro" or "cuz" :\

I only save "dude" for when I'm taking the piss with my surfer mates.

I even call patients who I have known for a while "mate".

I get more pissed when old (and not so old) ladies in shops call me Doll, Love or sweetie. I'm a 34 yr old grown man FFS! :|

I often return serve with "Thanks Doll face" or "Ta Sweet cheeks". Usually shuts them up ;)
 
Dave said:
My trainer keeps calling me buddy. It's somewhere between creepy and belittling, but I know that he doesn't mean anything ill by it.

I use 'man' on occasion, 'dude' virtually never, and 'bro' only in the most sarcastic of situations.
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I know what you mean about buddy......its like pal.
I feel insulted when I hear someone else called buddy or pal:) haha
MY father is like that though, he calls me and my brother 'buddy' - 'little buddy' or 'bud' - He is using it as an endearment like 'doll' ......he is the only one I can take it from and not be offended.
 
yea, don't ever be calling me none of that "boss" or "chief" shit. you might as well wear a t-shirt that says "DOUCHEBAG!"

I wonder if, in Japan, do they add that "san" suffix as a sign of disrespect to someone they don't really view as a superior.

Finder said:
"Sir, you are making a scene."

I probably say dude way too much. Not really in the duuuuuude stereotypical way though. :\
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I use it both ways. Normally it just pops out in conversation, but sometimes when I'm messing around I revert to the pseudo stoner-dom.
 
See for me "dude"is a totally different thing, we say it like "damn dude was straight fucked up the other nite" but u say it pronounced like, du' kinda dont say the end d part, IDk how to explain it on heere, But its used instead of "that guy" or to replace somebody name.

Somebody might say "Yo u seen my man Smooth" "na dude was over here a hour or so ago when i seen him by the store but he aint been out here for a minute"

or

Yo we was wilin at that party but u remember the kid that tried startin shit in front of my grandmama house? Dude was straight BUGGIN


first example bein somebody u kno, and u sayin it instead of "him", second instead of "that guy"or "him"or watever, it can be familiar or just refer to any random male

Theres diff. context of using all those words, bro is usually always some frat boy type ish but brother is a common one "ay yo wats good fam" "im straight" "ight my brother see u tonite then at Tip's crib dude said he gonna have mad bitches over there" "ok my man b easy"

U feel me?

all these words is used in different ways with diff meanins by diff. type of ppl so u really should not be feelin so hung up on it, its the farthest possible thing from bein disrespectful
 
KStoner6tb said:
^^I'm sorry you're feeling that way. Not my intention. I usually use a person's name when I'm speaking to them because I was raised that way. Along with using yessir/mam; just a respect thing. Since I don't know your name, I may substitute one of the dreaded 'mans' or 'bros'.

As to not carress my ego though, I will only refer to you as discopupils, D pupe, or DP from now on. I will make a valid effort to never throw a pretentious, unwarranted term in your direction if we ever have a bluelight coversation.
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"D pupe" sounds like a sexually transmitted disease. <3
 
discopupils said:
I am so in agreement.
These words unsettle me. As soon as I am called "bro" "dude" or "mate" etc. I feel somewhat misunderstood. It's too much of a macho bravado. And the people who say it, in my opinion, seem to say it to subconsciously carress their own ego rather than as a term of affection.
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You're homo as well, if I'm not mistaken? See what I mean? It just doesn't make sense to gay guys, it seems!

Dave said:
My trainer keeps calling me buddy. It's somewhere between creepy and belittling, but I know that he doesn't mean anything ill by it.
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LOL!

When a guy bigger than me calls me "buddy", I find it arousing, in all honesty ;).
 
I am actually surprised at how many straight older men ( of the baby boomer generation ) call me babe.

It happens at work, out at the straight bars, etc. I don't think it carries any kind of sexual connotation, but it does irk me, as I would expect to hear such a thing in a gay bar.
 
Finder said:
"I'm not your buddy, guy."
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"I'm not your guy, friend!"

Sometimes I say "DUDE!" instead of "damn" or "fuck" I'm trying to watch my language around the little one

"Cuz" is used as a term of endearment here. "Brah" is a little more derogatory
 
i exchange jabs of bro and son with people close to me. they're just terms of endearment. "buddy" is definitely belittling because it's always what jackasses use when condescending younger people. i remember when i was a camp counsellor all my fellow counsellors called the kids buddy and shit and i treated them like my friends instead of my charges and the kids loved me the most. just goes to show you even children can tell sincerity from insincerity. the problem is there are too many insincere people in the world which is why it's important to be the recognized friend of whoever you're trying to dude or bro
 
Jam-- It's funny, but the guy is head, shoulders and half a torso shorter than me. No bear there.
 
to me, they are meaningless slang, that i use in my everyday language. it's like saying... like. i have to break myself from it when i'm trying to sound professional, and sometimes that's hard, man.
 
I don't really get the man/dude thing either but it's never really bothered me, I just won't go around calling people man or dude.

Buddy does annoy the hell out of me though. My old roommate used to always use the word buddy instead of friend ("I'm going to go see a movie with my buddy later") and it freaking made me want to scream! Why not just say friend? When I hear the word buddy I think fuck buddy.
 
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