Male extremely afraid of males?

[d1nach]

I am a straight male gets extreme panic attacks around males. i havent been sexually abused. My childhood was pretty good id say prob above average. I never was physically abused.

I am sexually attracted to females. But ill choose to given the choice totally avoid all exposure to men and i dont understand why. Men make my hands shake and feel like im choking.

Does anyone get this even around men they love like family members.

 

[BehindtheShadow]

I would hazard a guess that something triggers this fear in you, have you ever tried confronting your fear? Are you like this with all males (like a dad, uncle, brother?)

 

[d1nach]

Yes all males even males on tv i dont like seeing or hearing males dependent almost entirely on my anxiety level. I feel like they make my heart race. The best way i can describe it is i feel like after the day i want to lock myself away woth females and have no contact with any males stay the f*** away from me if you want something from me ask me tommorow why the f*** u asking me for a favor this late when you could of asked me any point during the first 12 hours and id back you up. Wanting to have my doors closed and locked like i just want to be alone and without any men viewing me just leave me alone with females i like who i find very smart and creative and esp like when they have what i lack and i just want to listen to them and men to just not talk to me with all their problems and opinion on my behavior. Its almost like sexual i feel like when im shaking ready to punch a hole in the wall from idiots messing up my day they calm me down without it actually being explicitly sexual

 

[twang]

You're English is a little broken so I'm not sure exactly what you meant by your last sentence but Sounds like you have issues beyond fear of men if you're wanting to punch holes in the wall from "idiots messing up your day"
It sounds like the mere fact that men even exist is fucking up your day, and that's unreasonable. There's over 6billion people on earth and about half of them are men so I'd say you'd better make an appointment with a therapist like ASAP.
Did you ever get in a fight(s) when you were a kid and get beaten up? Are men scaring you because you feel like less of a man when you're around them? Like when you're around them do you just feel that other men are better than you, or more "manly" than you?
That's a really irrational fear and will certainly require more help than the people on here can give you. Getting anxiety from merely seeing men on tv is not good. Do you get the same fear from transsexuals?

 

[d1nach]

Actually i dont get anxiety from men who dont care how i act. So if I can just act submissive and emotional they dont bother me at all. I think its because i always felt forced to act like i had a stone face like you know just do it dont b**** excute the mission and dont make a sound and bite your tongue till it bleeds or ill show ill give you something to whine about.

 

[d1nach]

Actually my parents are always asking if im gay because i am always watching gay and transexual men talk about things. But i try to explain to them its not because i want to marry men its because when i listen to them i feel like i admire their courage when they just are being themselves which is something i feel like i could never do because its easier just to not make a sound

 

[Erikmen]

I am a straight male gets extreme panic attacks around males. i havent been sexually abused. My childhood was pretty good id say prob above average. I never was physically abused.

I am sexually attracted to females. But ill choose to given the choice totally avoid all exposure to men and i dont understand why. Men make my hands shake and feel like im choking.

Does anyone get this even around men they love like family members.

Sometimes, but it may relate to competitiveness. Among men only perhaps you could feel challenged. No?

 

[BehindtheShadow]

You're English is a little broken so I'm not sure exactly what you meant by your last sentence but Sounds like you have issues beyond fear of men if you're wanting to punch holes in the wall from "idiots messing up your day"
It sounds like the mere fact that men even exist is fucking up your day, and that's unreasonable. There's over 6billion people on earth and about half of them are men so I'd say you'd better make an appointment with a therapist like ASAP.
Did you ever get in a fight(s) when you were a kid and get beaten up? Are men scaring you because you feel like less of a man when you're around them? Like when you're around them do you just feel that other men are better than you, or more "manly" than you?
That's a really irrational fear and will certainly require more help than the people on here can give you. Getting anxiety from merely seeing men on tv is not good. Do you get the same fear from transsexuals?

What twang says I think this is just deeper than a fear of males - can you not go see someone who can help you get through this anxiety?

 

[pofacedhoe]

weird

are you sure you are not gay?

why do you think males are judging you?

both men and women can be nasty and judgemental and both men and women can be open minded and nice.

i feel your problem is that you think a whole swathe of men are all the same

 

[BehindtheShadow]

weird

are you sure you are not gay?

why do you think males are judging you?

both men and women can be nasty and judgemental and both men and women can be open minded and nice.

i feel your problem is that you think a whole swathe of men are all the same

^^^^
This hit the nail on the head!

 

[TheBioStudent]

I am a straight male gets extreme panic attacks around males. i havent been sexually abused. My childhood was pretty good id say prob above average. I never was physically abused.

I am sexually attracted to females. But ill choose to given the choice totally avoid all exposure to men and i dont understand why. Men make my hands shake and feel like im choking.

Does anyone get this even around men they love like family members.

Been in a bad fight with a family member or someone?