made wrong mistake

[dnb2012]

Feel free to move if in wrong place..
About ten days ago I left my fiance and kids because of my depression and because I thought I was doing everything wrong with her.. Our sex life went down hill.. We didn't always show each other love and affection and just felt like we was together for the kids.
Now ten days later I have realised that I want her back.. :-( it hurts so much not being with her. But I think I may have fucked that up getting back with her because just after a few days we split we said well try again and I ran away from trying again and left again. I ain't no sweet and innocent guy im not going to breach that I an but god I love her! And now iv let her go :-( she's doing so well for her self she's up and about well motivated and seems really happy... I seen her this morning when I went to aee lil dude.. And my heart melted when I seen her! I thought it was what I wanted to leave her and not to be with her but after this morning and something what some one said has made me know I want/need her.. But like I said she's doing so well now so what do I do? How do.i tell her what im saying is real because she won't ever forgive me for leaving her she won't understand that I was too scared to be with her. IV started to a pshycologist to help with my depression! I dont know guys maybe some one here could help? Please...
Thanks guys.

 

[kace]

You need to tell and prove that you still love her. Listen to her. Be honest about your depression and why you left. Good luck, I hope you manage to sort things out.

 

[dnb2012]

Its the proving part I fail on because I get to scared to let on how I really feel!! N now irs too late :-(

 

[Pagey]

My advice would be try to take a longer break from the relationship. The first few days of any break-up, or any traumatic event/change really, are always the hardest, and in just a few weeks it's possible you might realize you're actually happier without her and it's best for both of you, and your children, if you stay apart. If you still feel like leaving her was a big mistake, apologize and well you know, hope that she'll want to get back together as well.

 

[Tude]

If she's doing well without you, why mess that up? I mean, she's happy. "If you really love someone, let them go."

 

[dnb2012]

I understand what you are saying about in few weeks may relies that im.happier with out her but to be honest I dont want to be with out her. I'm.not going to push at her or anything just going to attempt to take each day as it comes.

 

[Lustmord]

No fucking way man. If you feel that you really are meant to be with someone, you go for it, no matter what anyone else says. You tell her how you feel, and you tell her now! After you've poured your heart out to her, if it still isn't meant to be then it isn't. Just don't go on giving up about someone that you know you love.

I say go for it.

 

[Pagey]

^I dunno...sometimes it takes a while to realize you're better off without a person (or they're better off without you). Do what you want of course but I think you should wait a bit to be able to properly assess what your 'true' feelings really are.