Lying

[Howelltavon]

Hello everyone I need help with compulsive lying I'm actively working on it and I vow to always be truthful from now on no matter what but any advice is welcomed

 

[Smoky]

Hi, Welcome to Bluelight !

Thank you for your honesty. This is the first step to discontinue the compulsivity. Sometimes this issue threads way back to youth, or one's caregivers and can involve trust or lack of trust and need to distort one's reality to feel safe or protected. There are many causes or conditions.

Anyway, you are in the right place. Please let me know if I could move this thread to another forum for more support.

 

[BadHero]

Hi,

I'm new here too.

I used to be the same as you... I started with compulsive lying when I was 17 and met a guy. He was 23 and I fell for him hook, line and sinker. My relationship lasted, on and off, for 12 years. I was abused by him physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually. I lied to cover for him and eventually I was just lying about everything and anything.

He knew I was lying and I would get a slap for it. We split up 3 years ago. I took a vow of brutal honesty and, no matter what the consequences, I said what I was thinking and I didn't sugar coat things either. I totally removed the brain to mouth filter. It took people a long time to start trusting me again but now I am the one of the only people that they can trust to be honest with them.

It wasn't easy to break the habit but I found a way to do it. I got one of those sealed money tins which you need a can opener to get in to. Every time I lied, I had to put £10 in there. I wasn't working at the time so £10 was a lot for me to lose when I had next to nothing. I gave the tin to my housemate so I couldn't have access to it but I was honest each time I lied and put the money in.

Maybe you could try something like that.