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Lost Discipline/fire/motivation

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I tested at a 148 IQ as a child and did extremely well in academics until sophomore year
dropped out
Lost fire years ago
can't do anything for longer than a few minutes, no matter how much ambition and potential reward I have in that field
tried all sort of discipline methods, tricks and some ADHD meds

Why?
 
Idk bro I have a similar background.

At the end of the day it’s so easy to be distracted and also have the perceptions of the mind grow to a level of monster proportions.

Akin to inner critic etc.

At the end of the day, you have to pick something and put your soul into it. I don’t have any advice other than I found love writing and music more than anything.

I’ve given up everything else nearly for them, and some days I really don’t want to, and even go longer periods as I can’t be fucked.

But then all I do is think about killing myself.

The thought tells us we don’t wanna do it, but you just have to pick something up and do your best:

Falling in love with the process is a secret. It’s the way I’ve spent the last few years spending thousands of hours playing guitar, singing, lifting weights and writing.

I’ve wasted loads of hours too, but so much less than I would of.

Get up, and don’t fight thoughts just do what’s need doing, listen to the body first. Feed it and move it etc. once that’s taken care of do the important shit first and get it out of the way, and then spend your time doing stuff you like that isn’t consumption based bullshit, but some kind of craft or skill.

Lower down the level across the day to aid rest, sleep and relaxing is just as important. The grindset nonsense is stupid.

I hit 5pm and take a fuckload of my concoctions and get into chill mode, I still do some bits but I let myself chill.

I get 7-9 hours a night and that keeps me going.
 
Try clonidine, it should slow down your thoughts. If you think less then you wont lose attention as quickly.
 
Feels like all of our attention spans have been atomised into brief little flickers of curiosity which immediately die only to flit desperately to whatever titillating thing comes next. Then repeat ad nauseum. Modern technology is really culpable here.

I can feel this with reading in particular. I love reading and for most of my life, have gone through about a book a week. In the last few years, this has taken a dive. Even if I'm enjoying whatever I'm reading, if it takes me longer than, say, 1.5 weeks to read, my brain just wants to move on. Quite sad. Being on opioids constantly doesn't help though.

That said, my main passion in life is music and I can spend hours still tweaking my synths and making bleeps and bloops.

Perhaps you just need to find something you truly love doing? Creativity is imo easily the best part about being a human.
 
swilow said:
Feels like all of our attention spans have been atomised into brief little flickers of curiosity which immediately die only to flit desperately to whatever titillating thing comes next. Then repeat ad nauseum. Modern technology is really culpable here.

I can feel this with reading in particular. I love reading and for most of my life, have gone through about a book a week. In the last few years, this has taken a dive. Even if I'm enjoying whatever I'm reading, if it takes me longer than, say, 1.5 weeks to read, my brain just wants to move on. Quite sad. Being on opioids constantly doesn't help though.

That said, my main passion in life is music and I can spend hours still tweaking my synths and making bleeps and bloops.

Perhaps you just need to find something you truly love doing? Creativity is imo easily the best part about being a human.
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My main passion was music too, until Meniere's or some other bizarre inner-ear disorder decided to rape my ears.
 
this sounds familiar.....


if I'm not completely obsessed with something I'm just so bored, then I use to stop being bored.

what's helped for me, exercise, hobbies, work (doing something hard for the mental stimulation).

I'm playing about with nootropics at the moment too L-Tyrosine and Citicoline (CDP‑choline) with caffeine seem to help
 
swilow said:
Feels like all of our attention spans have been atomised into brief little flickers of curiosity which immediately die only to flit desperately to whatever titillating thing comes next. Then repeat ad nauseum. Modern technology is really culpable here.

I can feel this with reading in particular. I love reading and for most of my life, have gone through about a book a week. In the last few years, this has taken a dive. Even if I'm enjoying whatever I'm reading, if it takes me longer than, say, 1.5 weeks to read, my brain just wants to move on. Quite sad. Being on opioids constantly doesn't help though.

That said, my main passion in life is music and I can spend hours still tweaking my synths and making bleeps and bloops.

Perhaps you just need to find something you truly love doing? Creativity is imo easily the best part about being a human.
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If you have learnt patience and concentration, it doesn't just go away, but I also haven't read a book in ages.

College hasn't done me much permanent good so far. Never finished. Just paid off my student loan last year. 48 now.

Working was usually better for me that studying, but I never got the job I applied for. Never been an entrepreneur.

I'd suggest you pick a subject interesting to you, but no too hard and not too expensive (unless you have money (or your parents)).

A high I.Q. score isn't everything. I dropped out of college four times myself, and only my last study was something I wanted to do and had some aptitude for (but after five years I quit because I couldn't continue and it became embarrassing).

If the bar is too high, too soon, you will likely fail, but if the bar is set too low you will get bored too soon and it will be the wrong choice.

I can't tell you how to live.

If you find out, please drop me a line.
 
Chaurus said:
If you have learnt patience and concentration, it doesn't just go away, but I also haven't read a book in ages.
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that reminds me, CBT for anxiety was also a big help for me, it's a life skill worth learning
 
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