• S E X
    L O V E +
    R E L A T I O N S H I P S


    ❤️ Welcome Guest! ❤️


    Posting Guidelines Bluelight Rules
  • SLR Moderators: Senior Staff

Losing hope

^Yeah, rushing into a relationship so you can simply say, "I'm not single!" is always a bad idea, IMO....It seems fairly common though...

My girlfiend and I are very compatible as far as living together goes and we share the same values. We're also able to compromise and work things out, but we still both get lonely and depressed at times despite the fact that we have each other. Finding happiness and meaning in life goes deeper than JUST having a relationship...
 
BlueHues said:
^I mean, not to be a dick, but I have no problem finding women, I've been stuck with the same one for five years, but....lol

I'm not an asshole, but I'm confident and assertive and women seem to like me.....I mean, I don't think it's just for women.
As a man, I like women who believe in them selves and aren't looking for a relationship just to boost their self-esteem....

I love having sex with women, but I respect them, and don't really make a distinction between men and women as people...people are people....

Women often are expected to live up to a different standard than men and it's just bullshit!


It's a cliche, but you have to love yourself first!
Click to expand...

I know it seems cliche, but I find that loving yourself first really does help in a relationship! Not "needing" a relationship to complete yourself.
In my first relationship, I was a bit needy (not terribly needy, but definitely more than I should have been). There were a few things wrong with that relationship, we were both to blame, but it just wasn't right.
Now, with my boyfriend, neither of us "need" each other. Neither of us have any problems finding guys/girls (guys are constantly approaching me, guys and girls approach him, lol). We are both happy with ourselves ... both before and during our relationship. Both of us have confidence and it just kinda worked.

I know there are some guys, the over-confident guys, they do get girls, but usually it's just one night stands. The assertive, aggressive guys (jerks) can usually find some girl to go home with him. But it often doesn't turn into a relationship. I know I'm being a bit stereotypical, but I have found that to be true for the most part.
 
^I think part of the whole "the asshole guy gets the girl" thing comes down to how women are expected to behave. It's understood that men are "supposed" to constantly be looking for girls to hook up with, but a girl in who's out in a social situation that's acting like she's looking to hook up is often viewed as a "slut". Women are expected to wait for a guy to make the first move and, oftentimes, the guy who makes the first move is an "asshole"!

I might be out in a social situation and find a couple of girls atttractive and start flirting with them, but I don't just outright hit on every girl at the party, which a lot of asshole guys do! And it eventually works a lot of the time! Law of averages.....

That being said, there's a lot of girls who can pick out who the assholes that are just trying to use them are, and they ignore them!
 
RobotRipping said:
you gotta have confidence without arrogance, if you're a push over girls won't go for that.
Click to expand...

^This. It's all.

That and... experience. You also need to be funny and witty and know what to say when to say it.
But all that is useless, without unlimited confidence. Think cocaine.
 
rangrz said:
I Dunno OP. I'm neither of the archetypes you describe (discrediting the false dichotomy you present) and I'm engaged to a really cute, smart, fun, girl who is awesome in bed, who was my best friend for 5 years before we got romantic. (and is still my best friend too...seemingly refuting this myth of friend zone)

Why so srs op?

Get out there and talk to some girls. Someone will dig you.
Click to expand...

I guarantee you that you were never friendzoned even though you guys didn't get together for 5 years. We girls know if we will sleep with someone even if we hold back or don't do it for whatever reason. ;)
 
^

I was just trying to say it can shift from being just friends to being lovers. Not to cut and run just cause a girl is not instantly your GF, doesn't mean that she won't at be some point in the positive direction on the time axis.

Love is continuous non linear multivariable partial differential function.

f(<3)= ?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top