Losing anxiety to sex and women

[MysterMe]

I have been dating couple girls , but anxiety to them also does starts to me , anyways the problem is that I have anxiety to them. Also problems with sex anxiety , been trying to fuck always end up fast . Any solutions how to fix that ? M29 Overthinking kills me too.

 

[Jerry Atrick]

I have been dating couple girls , but anxiety to them also does starts to me , anyways the problem is that I have anxiety to them. Also problems with sex anxiety , been trying to fuck always end up fast . Any solutions how to fix that ? M29 Overthinking kills me too.

One thing that used to help me when I was a premature ejaculator in my younger days was to go down on a girl until she attained orgasm before even beginning penetrative sex. That way, if you dumped your load too soon, she had already been satisfied and would be more likely to come back for more later on.

Also, don't forget about recovery. Usually after 5 to 10 minutes IME you can get another boner and be able to try for a longer session. When I was younger, I could have sex for hours even if it meant cumming several times. After you cum too soon is another good opportunity to spend that 10 minutes of recovery time going down on her again. Win-win.

When we as guys make it all about us and our orgasms while not bothering to satisfy the woman, it can be a huge turn off for them. Being able to sense that a girl is turned off by our behavior can lead to more sexual anxiety and frustration.

I'm telling you, being able to use your tongue and mouth to engage a woman's clitoris can work wonders for both of your sex life's. Get her off and she can and will be patient with you while you work out whatever it is that is causing your anxiety. It goes both ways.

 

[Dreamflyer]

I've had date anxiety my whole life, to the point where I would start throwing up as the day approached. It only went away after being with the same woman for a while.

Of course there are always anxiety medications, but they're very addictive. (I should know. I've been hooked on them for almost 15 years.)

 

[sunday.bird]

You need to pull out and slow down, etc, when you're getting close but don't do it in a way that it looks like you're trying to avoid cumming. Don't say you're pulling out because you're going to cum. That's a turn off. Make it about teasing her instead. Pull out and eat her pussy ravenously, like you had no choice. Like it was calling to you. Get her to beg you to put it back in.

In terms of building up long-term stamina, I think exercise is honestly your best bet. Get fit and you'll have more control, plus you'll be more confident because you look good.

Failing that, certain drugs (even in low concentrations) obviously can preform miracles.

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In terms of dating, yeah, dating sucks. Can't help you there. I don't play games. I'm just myself. If people like me, that's great. If not, fuck 'em.

I used to have high levels of social anxiety but since I started living by this code, my anxiety has all but vanished.

Social anxiety (mostly), I think, revolves around being hyper self-aware. It did for me, anyway.

I was anxious because I was thinking about what to say or how to act or who I should be.

It's exhausting trying to ad-lib a likeable personality, to the extent that it's downright impossible to sustain.

Your own personality is always going to be more likeable than any fancy costume you design for yourself.

If you are just yourself, there is no performance.

You cannot not be yourself.

Accept who you are.

There is nothing to be anxious about.